Sometimes I feel like he will save everyone else...but I come last. I am 5 months pregnant.
2007-01-09 20:29:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
My fiancee was a police officer in the civilian world and is still an active member of the military police. It takes a special type of woman ( or man ) to be in a relationship with anyone in any of the fields you mentioned.
I am very independant, and I do understand a lot of the stressors that go along with being in a close intimate relationship with someone in these fields. I have found you must be a very strong person, not only emotionally but mentally as well. Having complete and 100% faith in your partners abilities and having a strong trust and bond are also very important.
With my significant other, nights when he was working or on call, can be frustrating and yes you can get lonely. I always used to think he was off trying to save the whole world and seemed to forget his family at home. Being able to enjoy the time we have toegther, even though his mind may be on "business", is something we need to learn to adapt to, if we want the realationship to work. Counselling can sometimes help the other person learn to deal with their own emotions and can help with understanding some things that he or she may just not have the words to explain.
I found a GREAT book that helped us a lot, because no matter what your intentions when getting into the relationship and no matter how much you "think" you can deal with it, sometimes the truth of the matter is that you can't, and there is no shame in asking for help or guidance. The book is called " I love a Cop" and I found it very helpful during some stressful times in our relationship.
Also being pregnant, well when I was, I found I was much more emotional. And sometimes situations where I would normally not react I was freaking out over lol But I can also understand wanting to have that feeling that he is there for you and not everyone else all the time. I am sure he isn't, but it does feel that way to you and that is completely understandable feeling that way.
Stay safe and strong and never think you are alone in feeling this way, there are many of us out there that have been through the same thing and I as long as there are firemen, paramedics and law enforcement officers out there, there will be some of there significant others that feel the same way too! ;-)
2007-01-10 05:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by devsmom30 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Police work cannot be left at the "office" things that cops see and do . Unlike other professions you cant come home and say "guess what I did today honey, scraped a infant off the pavement or found a body stuffed in the trunk of a car, how was your day dear" My wife could not handle that I wouldn't share my day with her. I recommend that anybody that is in emergency services and plans to get married fully discuss what is involved with being married to a cop. Police have the highest rate of divorce, alcoholism, and completed suicide.
2007-01-09 23:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by watchman_1900 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people make a wrong decision when marrying people in these fields of work.
it would be a good idea to face the question before the ring goes on the hand.
These dedicated men and women need partners to understand them and back them up not fall apart and bring more worry into their already stressful lives.
I know that it isn't easy living like this but one needs to weigh up the consaquences beforehand.
He is doing his job and this is his priority he earns the wage to provide for his family from his work.
Take care!
2007-01-09 21:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to a cop and it suxs, they are never off duty and are obligated (by Law) to step in if they see anything going on. We live in a dodgy area so we never go to dinner or out together without ending up at some police station with him charging someone. He also has to be on call alot of nights because they are always short staffed (he's a decetive)so he can't drink or be left alone with the kids on those nights ( I work nights) in case he gets called out to a job that is too big for the GDs (uniform cops) so I can't work those nights cause he always gets called out and if he doesn't and I have stayed home just in case to mind the kids he only gets $8 for stuffing up my work or night out.
2007-01-09 20:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by alexrichardson4u5h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just doing his job. He would without a doubt prefer to save you more than anyone else if it came to you being in danger. He loves you.
My friend's dad is a firefighter, and I think my friend understands that he's just doing his job.
Plus, isn't it a good thing that you get to tell people that your husband saves lives everyday? Be proud.
2007-01-09 20:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by ?Johanna Loves Superman? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife used to struggle with it, then she went to work more and more. Soon, she was doing some guy at work and now we're divorced.
So, I hope you are a bit more faithful than my wife was. The good news is her new husband is miserable with her because apparently the grass was greener on the other side of the fence.
2007-01-09 22:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lt. Dan reborn 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you have to take the backseat in relationships
like this, have many friends who say the same thing, but when
you do truly love someone in this type of profession you need
to understand how much they really want to be home with you
even when they are out there, I see this in some of those friends
of mine's marriages........
Hang in there..........
2007-01-09 21:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by gorglin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, oral or anal sex within marriage is not automatically a judicial matter among Jehovah's Witnesses. As a religion, Jehovah's Witnesses are no longer entirely certain regarding how Jehovah God feels about various forms of sex within marriage. They have noted that there is strong support for the argument that oral and anal sex are "unclean", but the Bible teaches that "uncleanness" must be "gross" and likely involve "greediness" to constitute the kind of "serious sin" which requires congregation action (JWs note The Watchtower of 7/15/2006, page 30). The Christian Congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses does not interest itself in a married couple's specific sexual practices. When a married person performs oral or anal sex on his or her spouse, he or she does not commit "fornication" as the term is used by Jehovah's Witnesses. .. ..(1 Corinthians 7:2-3) Because of prevalence of fornication, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to her husband. A Christian who debases his or her spouse by insisting upon or forcing degrading sexual practices likely commits the kind of "uncleanness" which is a serious sin. A Christian who brazenly advocates any particular sexual practice (even for within marriage) likely commits "loose conduct", which can be a serious sin. .. ..(Ephesians 4:18-19) Because of the insensibility of their hearts. Having come to be past all moral sense, they gave themselves over to loose conduct to work uncleanness of every sort with greediness. Most true Christians (such as Jehovah's Witnesses) have the good sense and godly devotion to respect their spouses and keep their intimate details private, so it is almost unheard of for this matter to require the attention of any elder body among Jehovah's Witnesses.
2016-03-14 03:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are married to their jobs - any job! Secret is to increase the percentage in your favour. Only you can answer this question. The answer is partly in the man you are married to, partly in the nature of the job but mostly in your pretty little head!
2007-01-09 20:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad is a cop. mom is a nurse. marriage was always stressed about bills and him never being home or on time due to job. after a work related shooting, marriage went downhill and they divorced. i wish you the best of luck. root for your man, but you happiness cant always come second.
2007-01-09 20:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋