Me and my boyfriend go to bed, he waits for me to go to sleep and then he gets up and uses the computer and goes into chat rooms, and he also has a bebo page and ive found out that he chats up other women! I found comments last night from one woman and they have swapped mobile numbers and he was talking dirty to her over msn I know this because i have been into his bebo page and read all his comments. ( bebo is another myspace) I cant confront him because he will know that i have his password and i wont be able to keep an eye on him if i stay with him after this. He always tells me he loves me and i stop round his every night. We are both 21. What am i going to do? Is it worth confronting him and ending the relationship. Or does everyone deserve a second chance?
Please help. Much apprecaited.
xx
2007-01-09 20:08:25 · 23 answers · asked by Kate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just break up . he doesnt deserve u.
2007-01-09 20:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by kashish d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, Just wanted to say that my boyfriend is obsessed with his computer! and does a similar thing waits until I'm asleep then he'll be on there until 3am - 6am. I've checked to see what he's been up to in the past but luckily never had much to go on to worry about. my point is confront him like I did with my boyfriend, you've seen all the "evidence" so you will know if he is telling you porker's also if he's worth it and loves you he will understand how you feel and wont blame you for checking because at the end of the day if it was the other way round guarantee he would do the same, its in our nature to be curious!
Whether he deserves a another chance or not after you have talked is I'm afraid your decision don't let any one make it for you.
And if doesn't work out your still young and have plenty of time to meet some one special.
Hope this helps x
2007-01-09 20:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Emmie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all you have to do is tell him hes been spotted on bebo. its one thing to fantasise but overstepping the boundary to give out mobile numbers. to put your mind at rest just a bit. i had a page on my space and put in it absolute bs, i said i was a former special forces captain or something like that and made 1/2 million per year. i was and am still in a very happy relationship and i did it for a joke and showed my fiancee it. i was getting hit on by gays and by women in open relationships. the whole myspace and bebo is a joke. most of it is incinsere garbage for people looking to be added as "friends". give him a second chance but warn him to get rid of all the contacts hes made.
2007-01-09 20:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leopards and spots comes to mind.
You could start off by saying you want some time on your own, maybe one or two nights a week (to wax your legs/ facial or something).
You don't have to confront him just spend some time on your own or with friends to give yourself some time to find out how you feel. Do you deserve this? Do you love him? Would you ever trust him?
Spend some time loving yourself (take up an evening class, learn the piano or something) make yourself the best person you can be.
2007-01-09 20:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by Em 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for starters you shouldn't be snooping around on him like that.. relationships rely on trust.
If you are serious you need to let him know that you are a one guy one girl type. If he cant live with this, its better to end it now for both your sakes.
If he says you are the only one, then maybe he is getting something from these other girls (sexual arousal or maybe just flirting). If you two are active then maybe its not enough. if you aren't, then you need to confront him about staying faithful to one another.
Its possible he really does like you but has grown accustomed to a certain lifestyle on-line and doesn't know how to stop. He may reach out to you for help.
I know some couples who have several partners and are completely happy with it. It all depends on what you can handle.
Good luck to you.
PS honesty is the best policy, be straight with him and he will be straight with you.
Hope this doesn't cause any tears.
2007-01-09 20:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by hermespgc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does this make you feel? can you trust him still or are you insecure? theres no point in living out your relationship with constant wondering what if... if your not sure about this guy then dont waste your time, it's not healthy, what he does over the internet and does'nt want you knowing, what else does he do without you knowing? think about it! I feel there's nothing wrong to be chatting for entertainment purposes, but when it becomes secretive and swap numbers there are some intentions stirring up. If he truely loves you he wouldnt need to seek other options or could be you need to seek other options to get your man back into you and off line....
2007-01-09 20:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by Phaque tu" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, tricky one that. Sounds to me like a habit he has and might well have had it longer than he's known you - particularly if he was living alone before.
He also sounds a little insecure if he is constantly looking for female attention.
If it were me, I'd give him a wide berth, but if you do want to pursue it then I would back off for a while - maybe stop spending the night with him and play a little hard to get.
2007-01-09 20:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by Rachael H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely confront him about it because what your boyfriend did was kinda wrong...He shouldn't be chatting up other girls if he's seeing you...but be prepared to hear from him that you shouldn't have his password and have checked through his sites...I think even if you do confront him, he's probably not going to stop talking to other girls and will probably change his passwords. If he deserves another chance? that's something you have to figure out.
2007-01-09 20:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sonny E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to confront him, just explain that you are looking for something serious and that you do not feel you are getting it from him. He may ask "what are you talking about" or something relating to that. Just tell him its not something you want to talk about with him and that he knows what he has done wrong. He will know and he will feel bad. Let him go if he comes back, its becuase he loves you. Dont follow up to see how he is, cut it off and let him miss you. He screwed up and he will not respect you if you stay with him after you confront him. Goodluck
2007-01-09 20:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen hun, if he was meeting these girls would you get rid of him? I hope so. So what is the difference? He lies and cheats you dont want a man like that, there is a small step between sex talk on msn to sex, soon the women he is talking to will want to meet him, do you really think he will tell them he is with someone he loves.........no. Sorry hun
2007-01-13 12:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by disney princess whore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem with my ex. It got so bad just before we split that he told this girl online that I was fast asleep in bed and that he could easily come round to hers for a quickie. The reason I know this is because I worked with the girl and he told her I worked at this company - even gave my name out!!! He was so busted. You should totally get rid of him , it was the best move I ever made.
2007-01-09 20:21:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋