my boyfriend has been bugging me and keep on asking me again and again about the guys who have a crush on me and ends up being sarcastic and mad even at times. he's always jealous and i ended up cancelling my account with myspace. now i have a new account and he's the one i can message, i can't add male friends who've been very nice to me. what's the best way to deal with this?
2007-01-09 19:53:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Possessive relationships are unhealthy. After a while the victim will be so torn down by their significant other's insecurities that before they know it, their livelihood no longer exists. Insecurities don't just create themselves. More often than not, they tend to stem from guilt. Have you ever suspected him of cheating? Other times, insecurities come from the fear of being burned again. Has he been hurt badly in a past relationship? Either way, you shouldn't have to suffer from things you had no involvment with.
In a healthy relationship, both people have their own lives and do as they wish, taking into consideration respect for the other. I would suggest you begin taking a stand and doing anything that you think is tolerable in a relationship. It is possible that once he recognizes that he can't control you he'll change his attitude. But if he doesn't, then it'd be best for you to leave the situation.
After standing up to him and doing as you please you'll have enough confidence to realize how much you are over the situation and leaving won't be much of a problem at all for you.
2007-01-09 20:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Queens*Krown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run, over-jealous boyfriends like the one you described is going to cause a lot of trouble. Being that jealous just proves that he is low on self esteem and untrusting of you. It's okay to be jealous, but if you've been forced to go to the extent of cancelling your account just to avoid your boyfriend from becoming jealous - well, if I were in your shoes I would find someone else who is more open minded and trusting.
2007-01-09 20:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by obs3ssive beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! He is insecure and controlling, which are two red flags that show signs of an abuser. If he loved you, he wouldn't treat you this way.
You are so better off without him. If you stay with him and allow him to control you and get mad like a child when things don't go his way, things WILL get worse!
Leave him. Give him the space to think over his actions that are unacceptable and give yourself some space to think about why you would lower your standards to love someone who does not properly love you back.
2007-01-09 20:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have the same problem dont worry about it. mine usually tries to get me to delete the guys numbers off my phone coz he is against the fact that i know and that i am close with so many. sweety just try and put your foot down as best you can and tell him that they are your friends.. you havent told him to stop talking to the girls he knows (i hope) so why should he do it to you. alot of people will tel you to break up with him as they tel me but i know for a fact that its always easier said than done especially if you have a possesive or in your case obsessive boyfriend.
so just try and set boundaries that he should respect and good luck
2007-01-09 20:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy_German 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, how is your relation going to be in 3 years? Do you imagine yourself in a few years with this guy?
You already know the answer, it's right too.
2007-01-09 19:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have ended up with the wrong guy...a boyfriend isnt someone who makes your decisions...he has to adjust to your likes and dislikes too..and it shouldnt be always you who that should be doing the adjusting..look at where this relation is headed...and you will find the answer yourself...
2007-01-09 20:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by MONEV 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, or other wise things will get nasty... It is alright to be jelouse but there is a right and a wrong jelouse. Your boyfriend got the wrong one...
2016-05-23 02:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh..i hate guys like that...theres no magic cure, hes just a very insecure guy, maybe he has a history of being with girls that cheat a lot? pretty much just tell him to back off and learn to trust. this problem can lead to many many fights, you may also just want to break it off.
2007-01-09 19:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by ytrewq 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
drop his *ss, if he cant let you live life then he not worth it, if he likes this now imagine how worse it will be when you get married, if you go that road ofcourse, so tell him he must trust you and stop his crap or you are gone
2007-01-09 19:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by king of spain 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
break up with him he is going to get worse
2007-01-09 19:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋