I am a US citizen and I fell in love with a Mexican girl who I later married. She happens to be an illegal alien (entered without inspection; she never had a visa). We have applied for the visa to make her legal, but it is NOT automatic just because we got married. In fact, it will take approximately 2-3 years. For part of this process, my wife will have to leave the United States for up to a year and so we will have to be apart during that time. There are also things she cannot do because she has no legal status, and it makes things very inconvenient for me. Question: Do you think this is fair to me, the US citizen?
BEFORE I get any stupid answers on how it was my choice to marry an illegal alien, I realize this. But love does not always follow political boundaries, and my wife is an absolutely amazing girl. To let her go would have been very stupid The point of my question concerns how actions of the US government affect one of its citizens.
2007-01-09 19:27:51 · 20 answers · asked by TCSO 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
What I can't understand is why she will have to leave up to a year. I know love is blind and you love her not her legal status. Do I think it's fair? I don't think a lot of things that happen here are fair. There are a lot of illegals who are living here and don't find love, they just hang around for the money because, it's better here or something like that. Sorry for your situation, hope it works out.
2007-01-09 19:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is fair, as others have pointed out not everyone is on the up and up. The process takes time, you are not the only person in the US marrying a foreigner, wait your turn. You aren't the first to go thru this process, nor will you be the last.
BTW did you even start the process before marrying her?? Did you get a fiancee visa??
2007-01-10 00:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Hold em Rox 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for you and your wife. I'm not saying it's fair, but just like in war, many innocent civilians die in the process. I know you won't accept this and may not really understand, because it hit too close to home, but "The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few". As painful as this is, your country, your fellow Americans need you to be strong and look at the big picture. I liken America to the lifeboats on the Titanic. These boats can only hold so many survivors. When, and thats not if, we take on more than we can handle, our lifeboat will sink and we will all be swimming with the sharks. I honestly mean no offense and hope for you and your wife's sake, that this situation is resolved soon so you can be together and never be apart again. Sincerely WK
2007-01-09 21:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by aka white knight 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes love knows no boundaries, whereever they are determined. So, you were absolutely right to follow your heart to her. She having to leave you for about one year while her stay is processed is certainly going to be a very painful time for both you and your wife. And it is neither fair to you, nor to your wife. Sadly, that may be the law.
However, find out through a good lawyer if there is a compromise that can stand on your side so that you do not have to bear the separation.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 22:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The government makes you wait because there are so many people who marry for the convenience of getting a green card. They're trying to make it harder for people who cheat the system. I think that in your situation, waiting it out is worth it. When it's all done, you and your wife can live peacefully knowing that you wouldn't haven't have to worry about her residency status anymore. It would be easy for alot of people to say that the tedious system is unfair but you have to keep an open mind. The government is trying to weed out the people who marry for love and the people who marry for convenience.
2007-01-09 19:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by sansa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with SANSA ! This Immigration law is for a reason & a VERY GOOD ONE. It is actually made to PROTECT YOU as a US citizen. Many illegals marry for the G. Card. They play a LOVE GAME on the US citizen, next thing u go cry ur heart out to the Immigration that she PLAYED U. This law was put for that reason . I have a friend who works at the INS as an Officer who told me that 90% of the time, illegals marry for the papers & as soon as they get it, they bail out of the marriage & the spouse comes to them crying foul.
2007-01-09 21:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have two points.
1. Life is never fair. One can only try to make the best of his/her life.
2. All the immigration law states is that she has to leave the US for up to a year, but it did not say that "you" can not leave US for up to a year. Why don't you two plan some kind of long-term honeymoon around the globe? If you really love her that much, then take her somewhere fun. If you have trouble planning, try watching "Around The World In 80 Days". :P
2007-01-09 19:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by John Doe 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am sure you did not realize she was not legal "she should have told you the truth all relationships in order to work must be based on honesty and trust" It's not your fault it's hers and we all make or brake by the choices we make...
I know you love her but this is hers and you cant change it the consequences are hers to bear...
Unless it is totally out of the question could you move to Mexico with here? it's just a thought who am i to say but "if i really loved her i would walk through fire for her" such is love...
2007-01-09 19:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by no one here gets out alive 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya, it's fair. If you ask me, she should go back to Mexico and return to this country properly. It's real sweet that you are so in love, but wishing to overlook this crime is basically condoning breaking your countries laws. Wouldn't it make you both happy to know that you did everything legally? I know I would feel better about everything. Do it right, man. Good luck.
2007-01-09 20:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by FLHRCI 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's fair for either of you. It's not like you married just for her visa, you married for love and now their spliting you apart for something that stupit. My boyfriend is from spain and he has his papers, but there was a time where he was going to be sent back. i know how your feeling and i really don't think it's fair.
2007-01-09 19:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by melissa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋