Most of us aren't expecting to marry a virgin, but lets get real no one wants to be married to a reformed ho either. So, how many past guys woud it take for you to say "no thank you, you're just too much of a tramp for me. What if she told she had done porn, or been in a three way with two guys at the same tim all that DP stuff you hear about on the internet. what would it take for you to tell a woman that you love "no way your past is deal breaker"?
2007-01-09 19:21:41 · 16 answers · asked by michael H 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a big no ..if she likes animals..u know what I mean rt ! ;)
2007-01-09 19:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by kay 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Damn man, I am in the same position as you are...its sucks huh. I loved this girl to death and was always happy with her and I guess you can still say that I still am. But lately I have found out a few things about her past that I just feel uneasy about. I am so lost and don't know what to do. But seriously man depends on what she has done like mine NEVER had sex but she gave head more than twice...one time she wasn't even sober. Life is a ***** right now just in the romantic aspect of it....*sigh* goodluck but seriously I think that if you question it then you basically have an answer...and don't be fooled, you can sooooo marry a virgin look around for the right one and NEVER lower your standards.
WOW GG55 SUCH A GOOD ANSWER.
2007-01-09 19:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jose 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If whatever it is freaks you out, then spare her the pain and back out. There's nothing objective about this. I suppose a lot would depend on her attitude about it and when she did it. If she did some freaky stuff in high school, but now she's a 35 year old professional woman, who cares? On the other hand, if you met her at a strip joint last week, and she was the main performer, you might want to think a while.
Something that used to happen a lot in my parents' generation: if someone in a marriage died, the survivor would often marry one of that person's siblings. That just seems creepy to me, although I suppose there's nothing immoral about it and there were probably a lot of advantages (already a part of the family, etc.). But I just can't imagine . . . As usual, different strokes for different folks.
2007-01-09 19:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by ktd_73 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When would a woman's history make her too freaky to be your wife? Well, when you couldn't leave her "history" in the history department and realize that we all have a "history" of some kind or other. We also have an opportunity to learn and grow from our history. People change, but could you "let it go"? It doesn't sound like it, so I'd say you've answered your own question just by asking it. All that "history" just might make her the best lover you've ever had...think about that one. Your end up the winner. However, it doesn't sound to me like you are ready for marriage if someone's history is going to hang you up. And, about that "reformed ho" part. Yes, men do fall in love with and marry "reformed hos" because their "love" overcomes all. Can you say that yourself about your feelings for this woman??? I think not, so my advice to you is to move on....
2007-01-09 19:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by idabearheart 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
consider this, mister: if you want a woman to be your wife, you need to realize something - WHAT'S IN THE PAST IS IN THE PAST. after all the guys she may have had, she found someone above the rest.
for the other issues: if she did porn, yeah, i could imagine that may be uncomfortable knowing that she may be underneath some 15 year old's bed. as far as being in a THREESOME (threeway???? wtf) with two guys - it's called experimentation. it's not for me, but some people do it. and what is DP???
anywyas, if you feel that you can't marry someone because of their past is colorful, yet they don't do any of that stuf anymore - then you are lost. the past is simply that. the past. if the wife is freaky and you aren't - well, there's one thing that's a plus there - sex will be very exciting. personally, bdsm isn't all that bad.
2007-01-09 19:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person's history is a good indication of who they are, especially a recent past. Take heed if you hearing things that make you cringe. A woman who is very promiscuous most likely has a lot of emotional issues. Now, I'm no saint and have had my fair share of lovers, however every sexual relationship I've had has been with someone I loved and cared about. I could never sleep with men indiscriminately. I have a heart and a conscious that would just never allow me to do so. They are plenty of good girls out there looking for a good guy like you -- don't for settle for anything less!!
2007-01-09 19:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by gg55 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing would matter, my wife still does all that, my friends and I have three ways with her alot all the time. Trust me no woman is a 'ho' 'slut' 'whore' - it's just that some women love having completely natural sex. I think a woman who wishes to fulfill all her desires should be fully able to do so.
2007-01-11 17:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've been around a bit myself so I am more worried about their current character.
But I dont think I could get past the porn thing. I remember I asked a girl out once I didnt know. She was a waitress at this club. We went out and somewhere during the date she said she used to be a prostitute... omg... well I never went out with her again.
2007-01-09 19:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by sociald 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never...if you love someone that much to think about Marriage, the past is the past and that's the way it should be. Because you two are starting a future. And you will be the only one she sleeps with for the rest of her life.
Also, knowing your woman had a past...makes her more experienced and need I say more, she could show you a few things. ;o)
2007-01-09 19:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
People do change and the past, well is just that, PAST. What attracted you to her is what should matter now. You had no control over her past but, you can have a say in her future if you choose to be a part of it and to do that you have to accept her past. Nobody's perfect, right?
2007-01-09 19:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by saturn man 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
dated out of her race?!? what teh **** does that mean? anyway it's all about what u can handle...don't worry about what othe rpeople have to say, because u are the one in the relationship...if something makes u cringe...than run for the hills...if not than dont worry about it
2007-01-09 19:31:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋