I dont want my friend to date my cousin. What do i do?

Question

My friend, although i love her is not very mature when it comes to relationships. She is just too quick to get into them and doesn't really think before she acts. she has two kids by a guy she had been with for three years ("by mistake") and she is only 20. Bottom line, i love her but in relationships she brings the drama.

Anyway she asked me to hook her up with my cuz after only meeting him for a few hours and asked me to ask if he was interested. When i hesitated she asked if it was because i thought she was gonna get pregnant by him. i couldn't say anything after that to lead her to believe that i thought she wasn't good enough. i know, i know but she is heartbroken i didn't want to hurt her feelings. she is a great person but she makes horrible choices and i dont want her to get my cuz tangled in drama. anyway they've only talked for 2 days and already in comes the dramatics. I dont want it to go any further. what do i do? should i do anything?

Answer 1

You should never have encouraged it in any way. By giving her his number, or giving his her number, you encouraged it. Be straight with your friend. It's not particularly that you think she'll get pregnant with his kid, although I can see why you might be concerned. It's because she doesn't seem ready to be in a relationship and you don't want to see either one of them get hurt. You can tell your cousin the same thing. That's all you can do at this point. Then stay out of the way and let them decide how far it will go between them.