I have this friend( a guy) who I've know for years. And his friendship means the most and we both agreed that it would not change. We recently become friend with benefits. I have now fall for him. I've asked him before if he wanted something more, he said he couldnt right now due to his career choice. Understandable, so I asked him about it in the near future, and he said he wasnt sure. I really do care for him and want so much more. So do I call off the friends with benefits and move on or do I still do it and wait for him. Trying to do the best thing for our friendship and so nobody doesnt get hurt. Help me!!!
2007-01-09 18:55:00 · 11 answers · asked by JENNIFER C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends if he´s lying or not.
But chances are if you wait you´re gonna get hurt...but maybe not.
Wait - dont stake your whole life on it, but wait - coz if you dont you´re just gonna be thinking "But what if...?" for the rest of you're life!!
2007-01-09 19:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just listened to Dr Laura tonight and a question kinda like this one arose. She would get so mad at you! He told u no because of his career choice and another I don't know for the future. Im sorry but u have to be the dumbest girl...oh wait, no I am. I learned something so valuable tonight that I will take with me to the bank. I will never again be into someone who's not into me...period. I've been so stupid, so I'm going out this weekend and having some fun and u should too. Done! Over! For both of us, let's move on :)
2007-01-09 19:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the future don't have any "friends with benefits". That never works! Sex is something that emotionally attaches people romantically... especially women. What you need to do now is stop the "benefits". Then the two of you need to figure out if you want to be dating. If he is not willing to go out then just be friends. Its either one or the other... none of this inbetween stuff.
2007-01-09 19:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say follow your heart with this one. If you can stay in the relationship and control your emotions then when the time comes its possible you two will be official.
But if it hurts now, (that you two can't be together) than stop the benefit part because the whole friendship will come crashing down by you being hurt and resentful for waiting on him.
2007-01-09 19:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by OOhSooFlyyyy....... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation before. I think you should play it smart. Start dating another men and give him those benefits. The point is to make him (friend) jelous. Say you had an apointment with him (friend), cancel it and apologise by saying you were with someone else. that will make him realise what he's missing...
2007-01-09 19:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by ndumiso victor g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont go for the love part at present.Just be good friends.Remember you cannot force anyone into a relationship.
2007-01-09 19:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is full of risk
some are of great magnitude and some are not. life is short.
here there is no commit and i do not knew your age and his.
see move on. love is dynamic. the guy is not ready full stop. use your tongue to count your teeth.
2007-01-12 00:07:20 · answer #7 · answered by ineem20012005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what: life goes on: So just take care of your feelings and they will do the same !!!!
2007-01-09 19:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by SHAR ya DARE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have to read the explanation for your question.
The straight answer is OF COURSE, YES.
2007-01-09 19:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait.
2007-01-09 19:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by wayyytogo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋