i am a 45 old man i been trying to please this women at work/ to go out with me but she keeps telling she has someone. so now she turn me off and wont talk at all. i thinking about taking my life over this i very sad and mad i need help
2007-01-09 18:47:09 · 16 answers · asked by Kenneth T 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hi Kenneth.
Consider for a moment that she was telling you the truth about having someone (and she probably does), would it be fair to you or to the other guy if she encouraged you to keep asking her out? No... It wouldn't be fair. So by not encouraging you.....she's doing the right thing by both of you.
It's normal for you to feel sad about being let down. No one likes getting shot down or rejected. But killing yourself over it? Come on now! At 45, you should know that there are lots of fish in the sea and you just need to find the right one.... AND be willing to keep trying. Hang in there....
If you continue to have thoughts of hurting yourself....You should call one of the hotlines and talk to a counselor about how bad you are feeling about this situation. If it just happened, you need the chance to vent your feelings and to actually talk to someone about it.
I'm sorry you've had this bad experience and I hope you get past it quickly. Good luck to you... Take care....
2007-01-09 19:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 45 you should not be searching for validation from some one who doesn't want to be with you.It's rough when feelings aren't returned but sometimes it's like that.You kept pursuing her?even
after she told she had some one already?Did you her force to stop talking to you because you couldn't or wouldn't take the hint?A guy who wont take no for an answer,no matter how well meaning he is can really freak a girl out. If
you knew that she wasn't interested why keep pushing?Maybe you
intentionally let your feelings go down a road to nowhere because
you feel like you have to hurt.Take a look at your actions and figure out how much of this is you really caring about this person and how much is you needing to treat yourself like crap.you're not a bad guy,just a lonely one.
2007-01-10 03:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by VooDoo Kydd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everybody gets rejected sometimes, it's not a measure of your worth as a human being, it's just part of life.
However, if this is really upsetting you to the point where you're really considering taking your life, then see your doctor, you're almost certainly clinically depressed, and there are medications that can help. Failing that, at least talk to some friends, get some emotional support, or better yet, both.
2007-01-10 02:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by The Doc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok... First thing... Don't take your life... It's not worth it... Way too much money to spend at this moment... I'm sure of that... Second thing is that you have to learn that No means No... The third thins is this: How would you feel if your girlfriend or wife was at work and someone kept trying to go out with her and she accepted? And then you found out? To me... She seems to be a very loyal person... So if she has someone... Than drop it...
2007-01-10 02:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Shadow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad guy.
You can't control how other people feel about you. If a woman is not interested in you, then you just have to move on.
I would not recommend killing yourself over this, although ultimately, that is your choice. If it is too much to deal with then see a counsellor/psychologist. There are some that specialize in relationships issues. If you are in danger of killing yourself, go to the hospital - keep safe.
2007-01-10 02:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, what are you stupid? First, don't even joke about taking your life over something this minor. There are way better reasons to take your life and this woman is far far from one. What I suggest is to move on. Do NOT dwell over this. There are a number of alternatives to this woman. Don't let one woman alter your state of mind. Don't give her the power to do that to you. Be the man, Be your own man, and stand clear of thought over her and move on.
2007-01-10 02:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by StylerEX 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please do not get down on yourself. Obviously she isn't worth it if she makes you feel this way! Don't give her the time of day and see if she comes around. Us women are "silly" creatures at times. If you act like you don't care, she will be more "interested". Try it! Do not do anything drastic over this, you may need some other help! Please call someone or go right away to your DR. I beg of you!!
2007-01-10 02:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥BINK♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sad story kind of reminds me of this goofy movie I recall. Look, these things happen to all of us, so we simply accept them and move on. Obviously taking your life is a negative option, so you need to find a more positive way to cope and accept rejection which happens to everyone at one time or other.Good luck.
2007-01-10 04:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by autumn leaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very bad man! An infidel of sorts! She is a taken maiden, shame on you for trying to take her away from her master! If you were in my Kingdom, I would have to put into a shallow grave and riddled with 7.56mm bullets from my Kalashnikov. Suicide is your only option here!
2007-01-10 03:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ravin' Gavin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it hurts but you need time to find a replacment.
try to be open minded and be nice to another woman. you will feel better- or for the time being have a hobby or try to mengle more with people & other friends - poeple ready to share time with you.
aobut the lady i would like you to read this artical it might help:
http://www.sharedpaths.com/tools/lovelanguages.html
2007-01-10 03:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋