Is he bored with me?

Question

My husband hardley ever wants to sleep with me (this has been an issue since we first got together and i asked if i was just bad at it and he said no. hes a very honest person and i know he would tell me) he always wants to play his game or be on the computer. when he does spend time with me he wants me to give him a massage or pluck his eyebrows, pop his zits. Pamper him basically...he always tells me how much he loves me and he always tells me im so beautiful so i dont think its an attraction issue...what the hell? We;ve talked about it all and he doesnt know why he does it...I dunno...im frustrated

Answer 1

Never mind if he's bored with you...are you bored with him? Pluck his eyebrows & pop his zits? I hope you're an esthetician or dermatologist because otherwise that's kind of gross & bizarre! He sounds very selfish! Why are you pampering him? Does he pamper you? You deserve better my dear. Why does a beautiful woman like you need a toad like him anyway? Think about it.

Don't sell yourself short. There are other men out there that would appreciate you more. If your needs aren't being met in the relationship, do yourself a favour & GET OUT. Life is too short to waste it being with someone who takes you for granted. Being with someone who doesn't make you feel loved & wanted is lonelier than being alone. Love yourself & pamper yourself. Kick him to the curb.

Just my opinion.

If you don't want to throw him out then at least tell him how you feel & give him a chance to work on it. Stand up for yourself & maybe you'll get the respect & attention you deserve. He may have his own self-esteem issues. It's not a reflection on you. If the chemistry isn't there for whatever reason it will be hard to keep a relationship going. What are you then? Friends? Roommates? Esthetician & client...?

Good luck.

Remember, if you don't get what you deserve, you are what you take. Don't settle in life. Never ever settle. Life can be beautiful & passionate or it can be dull & difficult. What do you choose...?

Answer 2

I believe a healthy sex life is important in a relationship... It let's you KNOW your partner is attracted to you, and not just saying so. He might have a low sex drive, and that may be the cause... So I would suggest doing things to get his drive up... Maybe you should try and find out what his fantasies are and fulfill them... Dress in some sexy outfit or something to get him excited... Or maybe get some erotic games... I'm sure he wouldn't mind playing with you.... And if he does mind, tell him that you have your needs as a woman.

Also, don't be in a give/give relationship... Ask that he massage you once in a while.... My girlfriend never gives me massages, but that's because she's terrible at giving massages :) She can't push down hard enough, hehe... But as a man, I'm sure your husband is able to give you a good massage. Stop popping his zits, that's gross, and that just spreads the bacteria around his face....

Instead of spending all your time at the house, why don't you two go out and enjoy an evening together... Take your boyfriend away from those videogames... He might want to just go back home, and as soon as you guys are back he might be at the video games again, but at least for a little while, you had him to yourself.

Set something up like, every Saturday you guys play tennis, or something active... It is important to do some activites that get the blood flowing. Who knows, after some time, the active lifestyle might get to him, and as his blood starts flowing back to his brain, it might also flow back down to his other head, and things could get hot and steamy in the locker room.

Answer 3

hmm well you do need to talk to HIM about this ask him what's wrong are you doing something he doesn't like or your not doing he used to like I don't know just go to him and talk to him because really hes the only person that can tell you what's changed and oh maybe there's nothing wrong maybe you're more active your self lol or hes just not so crazy about it anymore... my husband its about the same I asked him what's going on and he said not to stress him that he will feel like it when he feels like it and I can't just ask for it I have to be more teasing lol you he might be tired if you to have a busy life you know you come home at night exhausted you don't always feel like doing it even tho its good because it relaxes you more lol