Recently my boyfriend has been acting really strange lately. He hasn't been himself. He's been really rude to me, and embarasses me in front of most of my friends and my classmates. He's never been this mean...and...he's been very violent, and has been punching/slapping me, he says he's playing, but he hits like he means it (like he's angry.). I feel that he's been getting aggravated with me...but...I'm not sure...I haven't done anything wrong...He's been all angry ever he told me he misses hanging out with his friends, since he spends way too much time with me. I told him that he could hang out with them if he wanted, I never told him he couldn't. And so...about an hour ago he was crying on the phone, asking why I didn't want to be with him, because he said that -I- told him that I wanted to give him space. I never said that...I just said that he could hang out with his friends if he wanted....and that I'd just hang with myself...What's happening to him? Please help...
2007-01-09 17:38:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Who cares, run away sweetie. Haven't you seen enough SVU episodes?
2007-01-09 17:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jon A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, do me a favor and end the relationship. Trust me, he's only going to get worse and I know exactly what I'm talking about.......He's got his own issues going on inside, things that he can't seem to handle or manage right now. It's not something that you can help him with because he needs to do it for himself. A guy should never lay his hands on you like that even if it's just "play fight". You didn't do anything wrong, remember that! It's just his way of making excuses for his own problems. He needs someone to blame instead of himself. He may seem real nice during the up times and sensitive with the tears, but it's only him playing on your emotions. That's how these guys try to control you and manipulate you. Don't fall into it. He knows that if you care enough, you won't leave him no matter what he does to you...........Take care!
2007-01-09 17:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing your age, I am going to hope that you are younger. His change of behavior may be an immature reaction to the mindset that he wants more friends and/or to spend more time with his friends. If so, his inability to communicate effectively, with himself & you, has possibly led to this unacceptable behavior.
If it something such as drugs or alcohol, I think you'd have an idea of what he might be doing.
Either way, his behavior (play slapping in anger?) is unacceptable.
His ridiculing of you in public is also unacceptable. That behavior is not normal, nor nice & shouldn't be fostered. That's just mean & manipulative & really, a power-play designed to demoralize & discredit you...thus making you more dependant on him. (In his dense head somewhere, he knows that no strong woman would put up with his tyrades, therefore he strives to weaken)
You would be doing him no favors by putting up with that carp... eventually you will tire of it & leave & he will be left thinking that these behaviors are acceptable. He'll just keeping going from one doomed relationship to the next until he finds that woman who is already so beat down by life, that she'd be willing to accept his bs.
He cries not for you, but himself.
Don't just tell him to see his friends more...encourage it & support it.
And then you, my dear, should spend some time with your friends.
2007-01-09 17:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to include more information about your boyfriend. Is he going through something else that is affecting his life? Sometimes other stressful events put a strain on relationships that he may have.
It reminds of me of a scene in Pursuit of Happyness where Chris Gardner (Will Smith's character) finds one of those machines he is trying to sell from a homeless man. In one instant, he is playing with his son, but as soon as he finds the machine and is reminded of his destitute financial situation, he turns into Mr. Hyde and grabs his son to use him as a tool to sell the machines.
That being said, if his behavior is erratic like this and violent, then it may not be a good idea to continue seeing him.
2007-01-09 17:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by bo, kingpin at large 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never all right for a friend, boy or girl, to hit you. This is abuse and leads to more abuse and heartache. This is a relationship you should get out of. Let him have all the time he needs to hang out with his friends and get yourself out of if before he does not let you out and becomes a stalker. He sounds like he needs help to learn how to treat a girl and with you still being school age you are not qualified to give him this kind of help. A person who loves someone does not try to embarrass them in front of any one let alone their friends I repeat GET OUT and never let a boy hit you again.○
2007-01-09 17:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I am not a guy, but I would guess it might be a good idea to make sure you are clear to him that you love him and want him to be happy, which is WHY you suggested him being more with his friends; that's what you thought would make him happy! Tell him, also, that you admire him; and ask him to talk to you about what it is that he wants, if it's not just more time with his friends! Admit your confusion to him. Comunication is VERY important in any relationship! Good luck! : )
2007-01-09 17:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bec P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really no longer wants to be in a relationship, and he is showing you how much he resents you, and the relationship. You would be better off without him. The violence will escalate until he could send you to the hospital or worse. He sounds out of control.
2007-01-09 17:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
acting strange lately bec he suddenly realizes he doesnt know what he wants. he wants to be with friend and then also wants to be with u. when u want him to be with u he gets upset psychologically and did a lot of mean things and when u set him free he started crying. weird. if this goes on like forever, its time to let go and move on. a woman should be hanging out with unstable men bec then they would end up miserable all their lives.
2007-01-09 17:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like drugs or somethin to me...have a chat to him to try and sort this out and if he doesnt change then dump his sorry ****...also a guy doesnt hit a girl hard when hes messin around and if hes been angry with you then i would leave before he does somethin real horrible..
2007-01-09 17:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have the mentality of an Ivy League student. artwork your butt off to get in, then goof off and waste each and every thing you have worked for. Are you his first female chum? i understand that I felt apprehensive and uncertain with my first female chum and that i did no longer relatively understand what to do. i found out that once I went with my impulses, i replaced right into a competent boyfriend, yet whilst i assumed too plenty approximately how I ought to act round her, I got here off as chilly. consult from him approximately it. communication is fundamental in a competent relationship.
2016-10-06 22:34:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋