My son's father and I had a 7 year relationship. We have been apart for over 5 years and our son is going to be 9 this month. Then end of our relationship was very unpleasant and court was ugly. Anyhow, I have sole custody and my son's father was given supervised visitation only. Well, it has been almost 5 years and he has not exercised any visitation. In fact there has been no contact with my son or myself (outside of court) in 4 1/2 years. No phone calls, no letters, no e-mail, nothing. Also, there has been no child support in all this time. Is there away to severe his parental right? I'm not sure if that is the right term. I remarried a year ago and my son and I would love my husband to adopt him. We live in Maryland and the ex lives in New York. I was living in Maryland when our custody agreement was made effective.
2007-01-09 17:35:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to be quite honest, you wouldnt want that man in your life anyway, he is not a good or positive example to your child.
contact you local Legal Aid Office. they are in every state and most counties. they go on a sliding scale so its free to most. if you can afford an attorney, just make an appointment and have the papers drawn up for him to sign away the parental rights.
when you approach the ex, just say, you know... you owe XXX amount, and i am willing to 'forgive the debt', provided you sign this. you also dont have to ever pay support again for the child.
something to that effect. it works well.
adoption comes after the release of his rights.
some states require that both of you show up at court to do this, so ask your attorney.
good luck to you all, i am happy to see a man step up for a child that isnt even his. he is a true example of what men should be.
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2007-01-09 18:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you would call it abandonment but I believe that the father has to agree and sign off in court. If he hasn't made any court ordered child support payments then this could be used as a tool to have him agree to give up his rights and let someone else step up for your son. I know that this sound cheap, but considering that the natural father doesn't want to see his son or make payments, this should be easy if you can still locate him. So the answer is simple, get an attorney and go to court, again.
2007-01-09 18:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by freesample1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Have your husband file for adoption and see where it goes. I heard that after 2 years of no contact with a child the courts will think of in the best interest for a child. and give another person parents rights and let them become a family. but, i would if any way of proving it make sure the birth father or birth family knows how to contact you so they don't throw it up in court that's the reason for no contact.
2007-01-09 17:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband can petition the court for adoption. Your ex will be notified to be in court. He has to agree to the adoption but if he doesn't show the judge can allow it. If he does show then he'll have to explain why no visitation, no child support, etc.... I'd do it as soon as i could.
2007-01-09 17:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you wanting this.. I continually ask when I see questions like this.. are you with a sparkling guy that needs to undertake your baby? "abandonment' would not somewhat propose something till its for adoption applications, AND contained in the eyes of the regulation, when you consider that he's paying baby help he has not 'abandoned' the baby..
2016-12-02 01:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can petition for adoption...talk to a lawyer...just because he lives in NY doesn't give him the right to not send child support...or no to see him...a friend of mine goes 2 times a month to Ny from Maryland to see his son...if your ex doesn't want to support him then he should allow the adoption.
2007-01-10 00:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by tina_dopey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to talk to your ex on that .You have moved him out of state i dunno how that works.
2007-01-09 17:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋