One of my friends and i are very very close. I really really like him alot and i told him how i feel, and he said he loves me. He told me today that he is dating someone. I feel heartbroken and i don't know what to do, i really really like him and we are very close, but the thing is, how can he say that he loves me and go and date someone??? I feel like i'm never going to be good enough for any guy, i just wish someone who says they love me actually mean it. Is there anyone out there who can help me???? i don't know what to do, i want still be friends with him, and i'm glad that his happy but it hurts to see that he is dating someone, as i love him, please help : (
2007-01-09 17:33:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try to be patient. God will help you out, in the end. These things are very hard to live with, but a part of life. If you handle this well - just as best as you can, and keep your chin up - you WILL be a better person for it all! You can betcha that's true! And if you really love him, then remember to keep thinking about what makes HIM happy; that's very noble and good of you... and hey, if things don't work out with him and this other girl, I am sure he will see what a wonderful, true friend you have really proven to be... Good luck, sister!
2007-01-09 17:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bec P 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of loves that one can give: love as a friend, love as a sister, love as a collegue, etc. And this love may change as time goes by.
He's only dating someone, not marrying yet. So there's still chances that he may change. He might have been dating the other girl for quite sometimes without you knowing.
I sometimes think that friends treat each other with more respect, considerations and sincerity than after they both become lovers. So enjoy the relationship that you both have and don't dwell on the fact that he's not dating you.
Give yourself some confidence & you'll meet your Mr. Right when the time comes. Don't rush into a relationship because someone says he loves you. Love has to be mutual. Also, please remember that to be loved is luckier than loving another.
Cheers!
2007-01-09 17:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by vach1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the most worrisome thing you wrote is " feel like i'm never going to be good enough for any guy". Wow. That's a lot of power to give a guy over you. Are you good enough for you? You have to be confident and comfortable with yourself before you can really be ready for a real relationship.
Yeah, one sided love sucks. I think we've all been through it, and yet when it happens to you-you feel all alone in the world. I guess you need to really have a heart to heart conversation with yourself. You say you are happy for him, are you happy yourself seeing this guy dating when you want it to be you? If you keep hanging with this guy, are you sure it's not out of hope? Because if it is, you could be missing a real opportunity with someone else. Yes, he deserves to be happy...but then so do you.
2007-01-09 17:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by tranquility_base3@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have meant he loves you in a "like a sister" kind of way, or he really does have feelings but doesn't want to endanger your friendship.
just because one guy doesn't date you doesn't mean other's wouldn't jump at the chance. you sound like a nice person, so i'm sure that's not the case. :-)
give yourself time to get over this guy then put yourself out there, join some clubs, talk to people, and no reason that you can't ask a few guys out yourself (it's hard and completely stressful, but guys think it's crazy sexy).
if however, you can't get over your friend, honesty is best. tell him how you feel and see what he says. at least he will appreciate you told him the truth.
2007-01-09 17:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you as a friend. Maybe your like a sister to him. So it's natural he would feel safe to share with you that he's dating someone. He didn't mean to hurt you. I'm sure he doesn't realize that you feel something more than sisterly or friend type of love for him. Just be very careful. Sometimes when friends try to become more than friends it can end things. Best wishes to you.
2007-01-09 17:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell my friends of both sexes that I love them sometimes. He didn't necessarily mean it in a romantic way, but because YOU think of him this way, you automatically thought he's like that too. Obviously if he tells you that he's dating someone else and you are really good friends, then he doesn't think that it's wrong, he might not even know that you like him that way. Remember, many of us guys don't get the subtle hints, sometimes you have to hit us over the head with what you want before we get it.
You should beef up your social life. Start going out more, go to dances, parties (not necessarily really crazy ones though), go out with your friends to the movies, parks, etc. Get yourself busy socially and enjoy all of the new friends you make and old friends you reconnect with. Also, work on your confidence. You need to convince yourself that you are the best girl out there for a guy to find, that anyone will be lucky to be with you. Now, don't get conceited, no one likes an egomaniac, but know that you're good enough for anyone. As you start displaying more confidence and become happier overall because of all the good times you're having with your friends, he'll find himself attracted to you. People who are confident and happy are like magnets to other people. Chances are, he'll find his girlfriend boring and start wondering, how did he never notice what an awesome person you are.
Even in the worst case that he ends up staying with his girlfriend, you'll end up getting so much attention from the opposite sex that you'll have plenty of people to pick from for a boyfriend.
Best of luck.
2007-01-09 17:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he really is dating someone else. check on him.. it could be that he has just trying you. maybe he feels that you are not good with him as much as he want. Try to know the reason. if he is dating then.. why is he dating.. whats in the other girl that you dont have.. dont intantly consider him a cheater. but if he is really a cheater then kick him out of your life. a better person deserve you love, not a person like him.
and by the way, if you want to live in this world then live in this world with reality. which is always harsh..
2007-01-09 17:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by usman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy friend who really cares for you can say he loves you, but as a friend. Since you have strong feelings for him, of course you're going to want it to be more than it is.........Continue being his friend because you never know what can happen.......Don't lose hope! He's only dating someone else......wait and see. Good luck!
2007-01-09 17:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all-there is a BIG difference from loving someone and being in love with someone. What exactly did he say?! Maybe he thought you were talking about loving him as a friend!
And maybe he is scared that a relationship, romantically I mean, would ruin your friendship! You would have to be honest with him to find out for sure!
2007-01-09 17:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 19:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋