I am kind of emotional and really stupid person...I loved a girl couldn't propose her when I was near to her. After that I proposed her...through email.Girl even doesn't know me very well.I sent all the details...and all the possible proofs that I am not doing any fun with her...its almost one and half year gone...I wanted to meet her but she refused.
One day I called her..she was extremely angry to me...said me useless, most stupid person ever seen in life..and many more.
I know she is very right in her place....I deserve shouting....now she is sad I think she must be thinking why she shouted on me...blah blah.
Even I have true feelings for her..but all the problems created because of my stupidities..
Now any body can suggest me..how can I correct my mistakes and stupidities?
I know I am not cheating her...even I don't have expectation to be with her...but feeling uncomfortable when think about her problems.
I wanted to meet her to show my existance..but she hesitates.
tell me wh
2007-01-09 17:27:38 · 18 answers · asked by nbgl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well if i were her id also me hesitant in meeting you, i mean especially since your proposed by email. tell her you don't know what you were thinking, but you'd like to meet and be friends first, you need to know her better before proposing also.
2007-01-09 17:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you seriously care for her and want to correct your mistakes just put a FULL STOP to all further attempts to contact her. You have made enough sloppy efforts and all have backfired. Now enough is enough. On second thoughts you could send her just this one final email and then absolutely nothing unless, of course she responds. Draft of the email you should send is as under: -
Dear_________________
I am extremely sorry for being an absolute jerk for the past year and a half or so. I know that some of my clumsy efforts to reach-out to you have only succeeded in making you angry with me and possibly hurt you as well. I assure you that this was not my intention. I have since sought help in this regard; I now understand that this can happen when the heart is saturated with love for another but cannot reach the object of this love because the brain cannot find the right wavelength.
I cannot undo my past mistakes and can only ask you to forgive me. However, I assure you that this is the last time I will contact you. I realize that love has to be reciprocated for the magic to work and so I’ll keep the love in my heart locked up inside with perhaps, a tiny door open behind just in case you change your mind.
I Wish you the Very Best in whatever you do.
Yours truly
nbgl
REMEMBER IF THERE IS NO FAVOURABLE RESPONSE JUST MOVE ON.
2007-01-09 19:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is true you have not handled the situation well, you have messed up everything. Still, all is not lost. Don't make the same mistake. This time meet her personally, talk to her, propose to her. It won't be as easy as it sounds, but you have to woo her, that is you have to propose to her again and again, from different angles, persistently and not take 'no' for an answer. Once she sees that you are determined, maybe, just maybe, she may accept. In love everything is possible. You can woo your way into your girl's heart.
2007-01-09 18:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusion, confusion, confusion. The only three stupid things that you did are, not proposing to her when you could, proposing through email, not apologising.
1. Girls like honest and sincere men. If you are honest and sincere to a lady, she wouldn't care if you dont look like brad pitt or have money like bill gates. You love her, then tell her. Dont let it stay and rot in your heart.
2. If you finally decide to propose to her, do it directly, face to face. Dont do it over the phone or the net. Meet her and tell her. Its not guaranteed that she would say yes but she would have a hard time saying no and she would definitely remember you for the rest of her life.
3. If a lady is upset and if it is related to you in even a very distant way, do apologise and say that you would like to set things right.
So here goes.........Call her up and tell her that you were scared in the beginning and also tell her that you are not scared anymore. Tell her and tell her boldly that you want her in your life and let her know that you may not give her much but you'll give her all you have.
Anyway, matters of the heart have no sureshot ways of success. But give it your best shot. And see the magic unfold...........
Best of luck..................
2007-01-09 17:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by swordfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look the best thing to do now is to get to meet her personally at a movie or a take out. Forget the emails. Don't mention to her that you were the one emailing her. Just get to meet her, treat her nice, give her flowers, send her chocolates. Tell her it's just for being pretty. Don't overdo it by throwing yourself all over her. Romance her first. Never ever mention that you're the one who wrote her by email. You'll meet a completely different person. If it still doesn't work out, look for someone else.
Remember girls love romancing.
2007-01-09 17:47:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mirts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't know you very well you probally come off like some kind of syco to her. You should ask to meet and be friends for a while before you start talikng about feelings of love. You don't really know her so you could change your mind after getting to know her. If you want to get to know her better and her to know you better you can't just jump in and ake her to marry you. that would make any woman scared of you.
2007-01-09 17:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple...what u were doing vertually(through net)..uve to put it into reality...
suppose do u think i'll let u money if u give me ur present details...
even if i knew u in my college days.
no na
why??
because of the simple reason that ive never spend time with u..so how could anybody...
take another one...
what wud happen if i propose my old batchmate with whom i never talked never in my college days...
obviously she will say that im stupid...
reason is that she is not realising..better to say..she is not feeling what i feel for her...
n relationships never go in one hand...so ive to make her feel what i feel for her....
so get real.....go n know what is her current status..means is there anyone besides u....if no one then u r still lucky to have a chance
the day or moment she trusts n feels that u r the one with whon she can spend restof her life...u'll get her...
so think about the options that let u closer to her...n the life of a relationship is composed of three things...
communication+time+trust
get a combo of these three...u'll get her...
n if by chance she denies then its not ur fault or her...it simple means that ur views dont match with her..n u cant spend ur whole life...wiht her.
so why quit before trying completly...
but uve to take care that u r not going to do anyhting that adds to ur stupid image in her mind
n dont worry about her comment "stupid"....my gf always says that im a big stupid yet she loves me more than anyone...
happy trying brother...
n by the way im quite similar like u.....ask if any further suggestion u need will hepl u..
2007-01-09 17:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by gaurav_loveapple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I'm in situations like this I just let the voices in my head tell me what to do. Sometimes they get me in trouble but it's ok because I just blame the voices and I always get less jail time and a friendly staff of doctors asking me questions about my medication.
2007-01-09 17:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. Try to "talk" to her some more, and if possible on the phone. Or better yet, meet her in person. If she hesitates, still be patient. Continue to think of HER, if you really care about her, and control your passions! Good luck!
2007-01-09 17:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bec P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 'true feelings' for her even tho you never met her? Find yourself a real girl, not a cyber girl, then you might have real feelings to talk about
2007-01-13 07:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by dj _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋