My mom has been stealing my prescriptions...?

Question

My mom is an addict. To alcohol, and pretty much any drug she can get her hands on. Because of this, she has also turned into a compulsive liar. Tonight, I found out that she has stolen an entire bottle of oxycodone from me, that I didn't even know I had because she went and filled several prescriptions for me, after I had my wisdom tooth extraction. I would love SO much to turn her in, and teach her a lesson that she will hopefully never forget. The only thing I am worried about is my younger sister. Children's Aid has been involved with my family and I have been put into countless group homes throughout most of my childhood. I wouldn't wish this upon anyone, and for my sister, to me this is not an option. If I reported to the police that my mom has been stealing my prescriptions, will children's aid be notified? Also...I just finished having it out with her, yelled at her until I could no longer speak...but now that I am calm and collected, what could I say to get through to her?

Answer 1

I'd have to know more about your situation to be sure, but I'd advise against invloving the authorities. Far as I can tell, that generally makes addicts dig in their heels deeper rather than reassess their lives. So you have to ask yorself the big questions--aside from filling fake prescriptions in your name, is she a decent ma? Does she put food on the table and help you with your homework? Yeah, yeah, that's June Cleaver isht, but I'm making a point. 1) How much mothering do you and your sister need? and 2) Do you think you are going to be better off with your addict mother or the family behind door number two? The authorities are a beurocracy, and a beurocracy is /totally/ unfit to be seeing to human needs. So, without enough information to be certain, I'm leaning toward just...constant complaining. Rub ma's nose in it every-freaking-day. Maybe one day your plea will penetrate the drug haze. And, if you think you'd be better off elsewhere, you at least can make that happen. Silver lining, kid--think of all the children of crappy parents who don't have such an obvious way out--I knew a girl who put up with...well, a lot. For years. Because nobody cared. So you at least get to make a choice; you're better off than some. Hope that helps. I answered your question with two more questions, but whatever. That's the way the world works. Figure it out yourself. Good luck.

Answer 2

Nothing you say will get through to her. I know that you didn't like moving around from group home to group home but, can you imagine what you might have turned out like if you'd been left with an addict all those years? You might be doing your sister a favor if you turn your mom in. There is also the option of you taking care of your sister. It could be the reason you are here. You sound like a good person. Follow your instincts. We have them for a reason. Good luck and God bless you and your family.

Answer 3

I know the first thing you want to do it start yelling at your mother but you need to know that right now you are not yelling at your mother your yelling at the drugs and the booze.

I have had this same problem with my mother, not the steeling of drugs but the booze.

You can not fix your mothers problem that is something she has to do her self.

As for turning her in, That is things only you can deside. yes, maybe social services will get involved. Is your father around. can the two of you go live with him if something happens to your mother.? Or another relative.? Maybe a grandma.? Can you move out and take your sister with you.?

If I were you, when you can go through your mother s things and find all the prescriptions that you are yours and either keep then hid or throw them away. I do not think your mother can come up to you and say you stole the precrips that she stole from you and if she does tell her she probly already took all of them.

Your a good sister to want to look out for your little sister.

Answer 4

look at the big picture, hon - your mother is an addict. understand that you are now the sole responsible adult in your household and you must put a stop to this. it could become dangerous for both you and your sister as well as your mother. your mother needs help. my advice, call the authorities. i honestly don't know much about children's aid or anything like that, but if you want to save your mother as well as keep you and your sister safe - YOU MUST DO THIS. it will be hard. the possibilities are endless as far as what may happen to the both of you, but think about how long this will go unless YOU do something to fix the problem.

another thing - if you do talk to your mother - tell her, calmly but firmly, that IT-MUST-STOP. if she doesn't follow through, as i'm guessing she wont, then simply tell her that it's down to one thing and that is turning her in. i know this sounds horrible, but guilt trips - if they are reasonable and justafiable - will work. explain to your mother on the damage that she's doing to you and your sister. explain to her that if she wants to be a good role model and not want her two children to follow in her footsteps (not saying that it will), she MUST stop. if she doesn't - turn her in. it is for the safetly for all three of you.

Answer 5

There probably isn't much that you could tell her that she doesn't already know. She has to hit bottom from the sounds of it. Turning her in will help that happen sooner. And that would be a good thing because till she hits bottom she won't work on getting better. God bless.