dead and their father is in prison. The maternal grandmother is considered a threat we would like to change their first names, what is the opion out there and why? Please be respectful as today was one of the best days of our lives
2007-01-09 17:15:55 · 14 answers · asked by fl_lopez 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Congrads on building your family! I would talk to the kids about how they feel about it. A first name is a big part of a person's identity--even for young kids. They might feel like they are losing part themselves, especially if the decision is made for them. But there might be a creative solution such as comming up with family nicknames or using middle names. If you are worried about the relative finding you could legally change their names and keep their original first or full names as part of the new name.
If you are really unsure about this or other adoption related issues try talking to an adoption counselor or reading up on adotion issues. I know in the state where I live there is a free adoption information clearinghouse and adoption counseling available. The couseling is free to all children adopted from the foster care system and is either free or sliding scale to other adoptive families (this was my job for a while). there are also many support groups both online and in person. Best of luck to you and your family.
2007-01-09 17:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by TiaRat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! at the same time as i could be worrying changing a baby's call in what's for specific to be a super time of substitute of their lives. You point out the maternal grandmother is a risk; i will see the place privateness concerns could make you elect to do each thing you may to maintain your new kinfolk secure. Names have been one huge element of their very own identity up until this element. And from my end i don't understand how helpful or damaging their names have been. Why not ask the older ones how they sense their names and in the event that they are fascinated they'd help elect their new ones? i will see commencing anew as a kinfolk with new names or in keeping with possibility distinctive variations of their names (e.g. Andrew, Andre, Anderson, etc.) in the event that they are fascinated. or in keeping with possibility as issues evolve on your loved ones perhaps all and sundry adopts specific nicknames. better of success!
2016-10-30 12:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a adoptive parent and birth parent don't change their names instead give them each a nickname. Their name given to them by their mother is problemly about the only thing they have left of her. Always keep their names it's there personal keepsake of life. Just let others know that this is what you would like them to be referred to. The children have already gone threw enough loss with out losing the only thing they can have of their own. It's a great thing for you to consider to open your hearts and homes for these kids.
2007-01-09 17:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since you have adopted them or are in the process of it then when it is all said and done if you want to change their names then that would be your decision but I would ask them if they would like a new name, if they say yes then ask them what they would like, if not then I suggest you leave it the same. Just make sure you ask the children first cause they should be included even at their ages. You might be surprised at what they say.
2007-01-09 17:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by acestjohn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally i wouldn't - they have been through an awful lot in their short lives and they may end up resenting you for it in the long run - it is the only personal thing they have left from birth (apart from each other) as the rest of the family has been taken from them.
Dont confuse then - they are already going to be a bit weary about what is going on in their lives - they will be happy knowing that you love them for who they are and that there is NOTHING that you would ever change about them!!!
Congratulations on your new family - best wishes - it will be great! x
2007-01-09 19:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take their names away from these kids. You could give them a different middle name or add a third name but leave the first names alone. Don't confuse these kids, just love them as I'm sure you will. Bless you for keeping these siblings all together.
2007-01-09 17:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like those little kids have been through enough in their lives! You should be more worried about forming a meaningful bond with each of them and forget changing their names. That would just be more trauma/drama and they don't need it. They need to be loved and excepted for who they are and it sounds like the only thing that they have left is their names.
2007-01-09 17:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once the adoption goes through, you can legally change their names to anything you like. The grandmother has no say so about it. She's not the parent, you and your partner are.
2007-01-09 17:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't make a mistake your first time out the gate. Let them hold on to their identity. Sounds like you both have quite a bit to learn about children.
2007-01-09 18:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First ..don't change their names...their mom gave that to them..don't take that away from them...2nd are you ready for what you are getting...if so congrats to you and your partner...may God watch over you ..my prayers are with you and your new family....
2007-01-10 00:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by tina_dopey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋