Can relationships keep going after someone has cheated? or are they bound to end?
I was having a hard time a few weeks back, and i wasnt really talking to any one at all and it was my girlfriend who noticed and took it personaly.
But im back to normal now and im fine
But she just told me that she cheated on me in the time that i was not really talking, she said that she dosnt really know why she would do something like that because she had it happen to her (her boyfriend before me cheated on her and they broke up)
and she said she thinks she only did it to me because she was thinking that i didnt want to be with her. She said shes so sorry and she loves me and would like to go on if i would forgive her.
I said i would forgive her, and i would like to go on.
But can relationships really work out after someone cheats and do you think she is likly to cheat again? (Once a cheater always a cheater) kinda thing
Cheeres Glen
2007-01-09 17:12:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheaters are the type of people that can never be satisfied. Whether it is that they don't get enough attention, enough affection, enough understanding, enough sex, enough money...whatever, their thirst for their own personal needs overwhelms that part that should have made the decision to be monogamous.
If the same problem is going to exist that drove you and her to cheat...then don't bother being in the relationship, it's bound for the same fate as before.
Why don't you get experience being in a monogamous relationship and make the firm decision to be with that person and only that person. Don't leave any room for second guesses.
Once you make the decision to NEVER cheat, whenever you're confronted with that choice, it'll be easy to say NO.
2007-01-09 17:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is essential in any relationship, be it with a loved one or a friend. It is the very glue that holds that bond together. But it is a fragile thing. It takes only suspicion, not proof, to take it all away. And once that trust is gone you have nothing.
So if you still trust her it can work, buttt that saying is pretty much true once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-01-10 01:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by CaydeeChemical<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the people involved.
My friend's partner cheated on her, and after a week she took him back. A year later she says she doesn't trust him and she doesn't love him, but she won't leave him. Cause she is afraid to be alone. And that is not fair on her or on him
On the other hand, my father cheated on my mother when my siblings and I were very young. Mum did not leave Dad. They are still together. Having recently celebrated 35 years of marriage.
Course as Dr. Phil would say......Oh damn I forgot what he would say, but it was something about whether you would want to take that chance of being hurt again.
2007-01-10 01:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz don't be prejudiced. N think nice n hard if u can really forgive her. And be true to yourself n your decision. Now that u've said u'l forgive, it's time to put it all behind n move on. Trust her. That's the thing which holds a relationship together. Cheers... Hope it works out well.
2007-01-10 01:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had someone i loved hookup with someone else and it hurt, i took some time away from them. but a few months later they talked to me about it and if you love them enough you have to trust that it won't happen again, its hard to do, but if you can get through something like this then i have learned that you can get through a lot more things that might happen to the relationship down the line.
good luck, hope it works out
2007-01-10 01:21:08 · answer #5 · answered by justme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater.. but that doesnt mean that a relationship cant work out... Suggest to her that the next time she feels like cheating to invite you along. then its not really cheating.
2007-01-10 01:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by kute_regina_gal 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well you did her wrong by getting into your little mood,so what was she to think,its not like you are married...She may never cheat again,but she was probably confused by your attitude,I know I am....I would try again if you care for her...If you were married to her I would say No,but your not so yes I would try again....I really don,t think your relationship was that tight anyway since you would not talk to her,,she was probably confused and thought you did not want her anymore
2007-01-10 01:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Cheating is not acceptable by any means.. doesn't matter if you are married, dating, whatever. If you are in a relationship you are bound, body, mind and spirit. Ditch the B***h.
2007-01-10 01:19:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dallas C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really depend ont he two people, and what really made then'
stray. it sound both of you had issues that you need to work
though. and maybe you need to take this time to fiqure out what
do you want before you get back together,because if you dont
you will go though this again. and then it will be the same
pattern.
2007-01-10 01:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dig deep within yourself. It all depends on YOUR perception, not on her actions. Do you trust her? That is what it comes down to.
2007-01-10 01:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by david80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋