How can I be more out opened about my feelings?

Question

For some reason I dont like to tell guys how I feel and sometimes it becomes a problem. I dont know why I feel this way and I cant open up. I have feelings Its just hard to express them. I dont know whas wrong with me.

Answer 1

dont worry about it. just try to show your emotions bit by bit and they'll soon get the answer. good luck

Answer 2

You know what? I am the same way. I am very sensitive and very emotional but I just can't seem to spill them. The only way I've ever been able to spill my feelings is in a letter. There's nothing wrong with you. Everybodys different on how they handle certain things. I open up about somethings but if my husbands asks why I'm mad or upset. I will tell him "nothing" and just fold my arms or pout etc until I get over it. I wish I could talk things over with him because honesty and communication are very important aspects to a good relationship. Unfortunately I feel like a guy when it comes to that. All you can really do is try to write that letter and spill your guts or force yourself to be open. Have the guy start out the spilling of feelings...hard to do but possible, it might make you feel a little more comfortable if he does it. Best of luck!

Answer 3

i am much the same way, however where there's a will - there's an outlet. sometimes people don't know how to truly express themselves verbally. that's where so much more comes in.

it is art. it is poetry. it is writing a story. it is creating something that is sentimental to you to get the word out. sound cheesy? it's not. using creative abilities goes misunderstood for those who don't understand where the person is coming from. but, those who understand emotions can easily find the most beautiful expression with a dot from a pen or a flick of a brush.

there is nothing wrong with you. a lot of people are this way. perhaps you should take up writing in a journal/diary, write a letter or write a poem. usually this works for me when my verbal skills get choked up in my throat. yes, it may sound juvenile, but if it feels right - there's nothing wrong with it. once you start writing your feelings out, practice saying them out loud. this builds some confidence as well - even if what you are talking about is so sensitive.

on another note - you feeling that you can't open up may suggest a trust issue. you may not trust yourself or trust the other person. perhaps you are afraid that they will criticize the way you are feeling and call you out on it. truth is, it is how it is. some people don't understand that feelings are reasonable. they think that perhaps it is pms or something if you are upset about something.

regardless, it takes time to be able to openly open up. it took me many months to open up to my husband. if they are patient and trusting, you will be able to open up to them as well as yourself.

Answer 4

There is nothink wrong with you, not everyone is going to open up to anybody, telling to many people about yourself can be an easy target at times. When you feel that you have found that special someone you will start to open up slowly but surely, my boyfriend how husband to be was like this, and i use to hate it but i stuck in by him and i think that is what opened his eyes to me and started telling me things that noone knows.

Answer 5

Getting hurt is a fact of life. Once you understand that you can recover from a hurt, it'll get easier to open up about your feelings.

I had the same problem. I hated to be rejected or hurt based on who I was, my thoughts, my feelings...except it got to the point that I completely closed myself off and was lonely and miserable.

I learned that I just have to let my guard down or else I was going to spend the rest of my life on my own.

For every hurt I experienced, I recovered. For every sad moment, there was a happy one as well. That's just life.

Answer 6

well dont get drunk cuz if you're like that sober, when your drunk you're probably extremely emotional and will blurt out things badly... what you should do istry and get more comfortable with the people around you, make jokes, and eventually act cynical, after being cynical you should be able to tell your feelings

Answer 7

You're just scared to feel vulnerable. Just start to open up & put your feelings out there. You will have better relationships because they will know how you feel & how to make you fell better.

Answer 8

Nothing is wrong w/ you. You just need to find the right person that will open your heart and help you reveal your feelings. :]

Smile

Answer 9

if you know your feelings then put pen to paper when he's not around. then fold it up and put in a nice little card or gift and give it to him when he least expects it. that way you share your feelings with him and he gets a great surprise gift. guys like surprises too.

Answer 10

Do not worry, as you gain some experience , you will automatically open up