Do you have a good dad?

Question

I would like to search the world looking for good fathers. Where are they? I certainly don't have one. Do you?

I would start in my own town, with people I know. "Did you read to your child? Did you kiss their boo boo's? Can you tell me some of their interests, loves, or fears? What makes your child tick?" If I can find ONE father who can successfully answer my questions, and is what I would consider a "good Dad," I would go home happy.

What about all these country singers? They obviously think they're good dads. We'll ask them! "Hey Tim McGraw, do you honestly read fairy tales to your children? When was the last time you checked their room for the boogey man? Who is their best friend?"

Now maybe I'm being a pessimist, but I seriously doubt my hypothetical search would end well. I'm almost certain I would come home exhausted and disgusted. What has happened to our fathers?

Didn't have a bad day...just a bad Dad. He's a constant source of dissapointment. I'm just looking for someone to give me some examples of how their dad was (or is) a good dad, or how they themselves are a good dad. Even my brother sucks as a dad...I think it's genetic. :(

Answer 1

My father was a very good man, a poor but rightous man. But my mother saw him as a useless B*****. So you can imagine the divorce, but I was about three at the time. Not too long after I came of the age of five my mother found my now current step-dad. He is a nice man I'm never the one to complain, but inside I have a deep hatred of this man. My step-sister knows of this and thinks nothing of it (because of her ditsy-like personality). Sure I see my Father on the holidays, but that all stoped two years ago (I am now 14). I know not of his whereabouts and have come to be depressed secretly. My mother thinks he is a scum for doing so, but I think he is ashamed because my mother yells at him that he doesn't care about me. If I could right now, I would switch places with you anyday. You should try and talk to your father because one day he won't be there for good. And with these concluding last sentences I agree, what has happened to our fathers, some care too much while others don't give the slightest reconition that we exist. All I can say is plan something very special for just you and your father, connect with him, build a better relationship with him because our fathers won't be around much longer when we are there age. This answer can refer to anyone that has this similar problem.
Sincerly Nobody's
Jenna E. -14

Answer 2

If you can find ONE such dad, you'll go home happy?
Search no more, my dad fits the bill.

Ways he is a good dad;
1. Has an interest in my life.
2. Cares that I am happy... sometimes he will just randomly say, "Are you happy? With your life, I mean?"
3. Quit a big-rig job to spend more time with his family.
4. Lets me make my own decisions, even on the big things (like school) and even when he doesn't agree.
5. Jokes around.
6. Teaches me actual interesting things like what makes a plane stay in the air (clue: it has to do with the wings) and how to survive in the Moab Desert (which he learned off Man vs. Wild).
7. Loves my mom and is forever assuring us kids that they will never divorce and that even when they fight, it's not the end of the world.
8. Works like a dog to provide good for the family.
9. Listens when I am talking to him.

That's just a few ways he is the greatest dad in the world and I hope this satisfies your search.

Answer 3

This is a tricky question for me. Yes, my dad was a good dad in that he provided for his wife and children, working his fingers to the bone to do so. He never beat us or molested us, so that's a good dad.

However, I never really saw much of my dad. He was always working and when he came home, he wasn't really into 'kids', so I barely know him at all. He has never spoken more than a paragraph to any of us kids, ever- to this day. I never heard "I love you" come from his mouth. When I try to give him a hug, it's like I'm a ghost to him - he doesn't even move or flinch. Sometimes I wonder if he even knows I exist, much less my name.

They say how your parents were has lots to do with what's wrong in your life. "Blame your mom or it's because of your dad" is the norm. For me, it's partially true. I craved love and attention I never receive at home, and would look anywhere to find it...including sad individuals putting up a front - just so long as they'd hold me close. I was used many times and caught up in horrible relationship just looking for an ounze of affection like a druggie with a fix. It has greatly affected my self-esteem and self worth.

All in all, I guess I really shouldn't complain, as I know there are much worse fathers in the world. I love him cause he's my dad, but that's about as far as I can go. I can sum up the relationship with my dad by a Reba song...The greatest man I never knew.

Answer 4

Wow, I'm sorry you feel you didn't have a good Dad, because there are a lot of them out there! My Dad was always awesome. True he didn't show a on of physical affection, but he always complimented me growing up (even during the ugly duckling phases of the teenage years!), always told me how smart and special I was, and always tried to make me laugh if I was sad or angry. Now as a 31 year old, we still have such a special relationship. He and I still play "Jeopardy" on TV, read the same books and talk about them after, laugh at the same jokes, and in general really respect each others opinion. I think there are so many crappy fathers out there today, because themselves, they had no good example to follow to learn to become MEN. It is still possible to be a good dad without having had one yourself if you recognize what that means.

Answer 5

I had a GREAT Dad he worked 6 days a week and farm but still spent 1 hour each night with us and all day on Sunday. So many GREAT childhood memories he gave me. Now he live 1 1/2 hrs away my Grand-Daughter and I go to visit him twice a week and spend the day. We have to stay at the nursing home with him as he is 88. I would love it we could turn back the clock so we could take one last family vacation or trail ride together. I hope there are others of you that have great memories of your Father too.

Answer 6

My father was and is a wonderful dad. He was always there as I grew up to show me love, support, encouragement. He taught me about everything he could (which according to him he knows everything!). I was never compared to my perfect older brother. My dad taught me sports and spent the time practicing with me even when I knew he did not want to. He cheered me on in all that I did. As I grew into adulthood he has been there to answer my questions and encourage me to look inside and answer my own questions. He has always been there to pick me up off the ground, let me come home when I needed a soft place to land, and listen to my crying (even when I would have avoided all the problems by listening to him to begin with). He continues to show encouragement and pride in my accomplishments. My four-year-old daughter now knows that "papa knows everything" and that's where I learned all that I know! I definitely have a great dad. They do exist. I am sorry that you could not experience that.

Answer 7

I grew up with out a dad(divorce when i was 3) BUT (and there's always a but) I have 6 children aged 26 down to 17(and I'm 44) I also have 6 grand children 10 down to 2. I still do things with my kids(hunt fish movies ) for Christmas I got paint ball guns for the 17 yr old and my self I read to the grandchildren and sing them to sleep BUT DO ANY OF THEM APPRECIATE IT??? HELL NO!!!
YOU UNGRATEFUL LITTLE SHYT!!!! Oh sorry about that I had a bad day.

Answer 8

Wow! Sounds like someone has some skeletons in their closet!

My dad never spent time with me. He's always worked second or 3rd shift. He works every weekend because it pays the most. So I never ever saw my dad nor did I ever spend time with him. Ever!

But I still think he's awesome! Because every cent he has saved he did it for my me and my siblings. He never went to fancy restaurants or vacation or bought new toys. When he's working he's always thinking of us.

My situation could be worse. He could be spending all his time going to bars every night or spending his money on casinos or on crap and going into debt. Instead he works every chance he can get because he loves us so much.

I was raised without a father, but in my eyes he's the greatest man that has ever lived. See it's all in perspective.

Answer 9

My Dad has his flaws, but on the whole, yes I think he is a very good dad for my 3 sisters, my brother and myself. We are all married now, and he is a great grand-dad too. My children love him and I love him too. I'm very grateful of the way he, with my mum, brought me up and I try to give the same values to my kids...

Answer 10

I have a good dad. I love him very much, and he loves me. My husband is a good dad also. Our daughter is only 3 months old right now, but when I see how he is with her, sometimes it almost brings a tear to my eye. He reads baby books to her, sings and talks to her, makes her smile, he doesn't mind changing her dirty diapers, sometimes he feeds her with a bottle. We both love her very much and take care of her as best we can. But anyway, yes I do have a good dad. He is one of my heros.