my ex wifes husbands parents called me and wanted to have my son over for the weekend. i said no because i have only met them twice for about one minute each time.i don't know them . am i wrong for feeling uncomfortable with this?my son has stayed with them but only with his mother present.
2007-01-09 16:22:16 · 14 answers · asked by yellowno2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you are right to say no. If they want to spend time with him, they should contact his mother and work it out with her.
2007-01-09 16:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong your a caring parent. If they want to visit the child let them do it for only a few hours at your house or a public place. Have them over for dinner or something to get to know them. Extended family is great for kids these days but not if your uncomfortable with it.
2007-01-10 00:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you arrange to meet them. Have them over for dinner. Its rare for step grandparents to even care. The more people that love your son in this life the better off he will be. Give them a chance.
However I wouldnt let him stay with people you dont know, so your decision was right but like I said you could get to know them.
2007-01-10 00:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people are basically strangers to you and likely to your son. You have no idea what they may be up too.
Since there is no blood line they have no visiting rights. If you want to visit with them that might be okay, but my feelings are that your son should be in the company of his mom or you. They may be looking for another grandson or something worse too.
Good for you!
2007-01-10 00:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the age of the son and mostly on his relationship with them. Maybe he feels like they are grandparents and would really like to be with them. Maybe you could talk to your son to determine the relationship and if he WANTS to go, and make sure he has access to a phone so he can call if he wants to come home. If this is a small child -I probably wouldn't let him go.
2007-01-10 00:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is wrong for you to feel uncomfortable about this at all! Is there any way that you could meet them again, make it clear to them that you just need to get an impression of who they are before you can trust your son in their company?
2007-01-10 00:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami Sun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....I am not the only one! I was trying to find someone who could relate.....Here is what I did:
I invited my husbands ex-wifes parents over for Thanksgiviing dinner. My husband and I and the kids went as a family to the ex wifes parents house for x-mas dinner. Here is the key: we ALL went...as a family.
2007-01-10 00:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was nice of them to call you but isn't that call up to your ex, or do you have custody of the child?
If you have custody of the child then it is up to you. I would be cautious too but perhaps your ex knows them better and also there might be some other circumstances here you may be wary of exposing your child to.
2007-01-10 00:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really know these people and are not obligated to let them see your son.
2007-01-10 00:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on your sons age and how he feels about the situation , talk to your son about it and see how he feels.
2007-01-10 01:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋