What was your reaction when your child discovered thiers and how old were they?
2007-01-09 16:16:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My daughter is 18 months old and discovered her girly parts a few months ago. When we get her undressed for her bath it's the first place she goes too. It bothered me a lot at first, but the doctor told us it was normal.
2007-01-09 16:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys "found" them when they were babies. (Some how, I think they find them in-utero!) The only reaction that I have had is telling them (then and now) to get their hand out of their pants. But I never made a big deal about them touching themselves. That is normal.
Since I HATE all the nicknames/slang for those body parts (and because the boys have an older sister) I just called them by their proper anatomical names. I never made a big deal about those parts or their names. It just was. It was like telling the boys they had fingers. It seems to have worked. They are now 3 and 4 and I don't hear any real big ado about them.....or any of the slang.
2007-01-10 00:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mum to 3 cute kids 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has been answered very well in another forum question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060701192059AA490mF
*** Credit where credit due:Member: Kat_hlee***
"Don't feel ashamed babies don't understand what those parts are or what they are for and to them it's no different than inspecting their belly button (something my son has been insepecting a lot the past couple of months and just discovered yesterday Momma has a belly button TOO!!!) In fact my daughter never really developed a fascination for it, but keep in mind you're not going to stop her from inspecting it, you can't keep her diapered always (there's always bathtime) and if you stop her and react badly she won't understand why she can't play with her body parts. And call it whatever you are comfortable with (my niece calls it her privates, which is fully appropriate, but my daugter calls it her peepot... something me and my sisters called it when we were little, not sure where we got that one). Either way make sure it's something you are comfortable with her shouting in public, because she will find a reason sometime someday to talk about it in public and you need to be sure you are able to react without blushing... too much, because the "problem" may be very serious (if even only to your daughter) and it will discourage her from talking to you about future problems if you react badly to her talking about it. When your daughter gets older (like 2 or 3) and she starts holding herself, do what most moms do and ask, do you have to go to the bathroom, when she replies no, say then don't hold yourself or I will think that you DO, and I will take you to the bathroom whether you do or not and make you go! This will make her understand that she shouldn't do it without reason (you're not going to be able to convince a 4 year old that HAS to go potty not to hold herself, so accept that), but at the same time you are not shaming her or making her think that she is doing anything bad. As for now, let your baby explore (it's not masterbation), and decide now what you will be comfortable with her calling her girl parts. And don't change it or it might confuse her. Some people believe that it should be called what it is in medical terms, I'm just not sure I'm prepared for my 5 year old to SAY vigina in public, or my son to say anything about his penis...ever, to me that is MORE shocking than the euphanisms that people make up to call them coming from a kid's mouth. But it's up to you. "
2007-01-10 01:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by all4fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My reaction was normal. Try to keep all your reactions normal. This is a child discovering, learning and keep it that way. Children are in that state of discovery. So guide them the best way you can, keep them from harm, and train them to know the difference between good and bad.
2007-01-10 00:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Oenophile... (Lynn) 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
About the same age as yours I guess. I never really made a big deal about it. It's something that all kids are curious about I think. I answer all of my kids questions honestly and openly. The only thing that I really ask them not to do is mess with those parts when others are present, and I explain to them why it's not appropriate.
2007-01-10 00:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by susiemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the time to teach your child the names of his body parts. It is important for your child to know the correct names.
2007-01-10 00:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by hillbilly_coon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are VERY lucky. My son has known about his since about 6 months. Once he could sit up alone, he REALLY explored in the tub. I've been told it only gets worse. I don't have a problem with it, but once he started in the tub, he pulled so much, I was worried he had a UTI. The doc giggled at me when I asked about it.
2007-01-10 00:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't remember their ages and I had no reaction when it first happened, as it's certainly to be expected. As they got older, it became necessary to say in a gentle respectful way that touching one's penis is a private activity.
2007-01-10 00:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think mine took 15 months.
It didn't bother me, but I'm his dad, and I discovered them long before he did.
2007-01-10 00:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he's a perv.....just kidding, that's totally normal
2007-01-10 00:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by geno 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋