Besides the common reasons: tax breaks, sex with the spouse, kids...etc. Are people just scared on living alone or just too lazy to take care of their own bills, household duties, and others tasks?
2007-01-09 15:38:25 · 25 answers · asked by isbros 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How many would not get married if you had to do it over again?
2007-01-09 15:47:52 · update #1
Well believe or not there was a time and still is for some that marriage actually means something.
Although just a piece of paper to some, it is a commitment. Its something that says that through it all you will be there for each other.
Some people take it seriously, even though it doesnt seem like it much these days.
As far as being too lazy to pay my own bills and household duties well in all honestly things would be easier sometimes if I were single.
2007-01-09 15:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 50% of marriages end in divorce; but what about the other 50% that actually work out. Everyone wants to be that other 50%. Sometimes divorce is necessary; people aren't meant to be together or the situation has become emotionally or physically abusive.
For myself, I plan on getting married b/c I want to form a new family with my spouse. Marriage is the formal and traditional way to do that. Also, I would do it for religious reasons.
What I don't understand is people that don't get married, but have children and co-habitate. It's like they aren't even giving marriage a chance. They are basically saying they would rather have it this way, b/c getting married and then getting divorced is too much a of hassle. Not getting married is like saying you know that the relationship has the potential to end.
2007-01-09 23:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A married couple is the start of a new family. A mother and a father are the backbone of a family. Some people have personal reasons, some are financial, some are religious. But I honestly believe that God intended us to be married, if at all possible. It's been going on since the beginning of time.
Divorces happen mainly due to selfishness on the husband/wife's part. Think of the reasons people get divorced. Someone cheated--that's a selfish act on the one who cheated. They're too deep in debt--that's selfishness on the part of the one (or both) who spent money they didn't have. Laziness is selfishness as well, regardless if it's paying bills, or doing housework.
2007-01-09 23:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No one goes into marriage thinking that it will end in divorce, but I think people don't take marriage as seriously as it should be or once was.
I know from personal experience that people don't give it their all to try and work on a problem when it arises. They think they can just break it off and move on. Communication is a big issue with couples.
You have to work on this to have a successful marriage. If one person thinks something is wrong in the marriage and never tells the other person, how can they attempt to change things? They cant. You have to talk to one another and be open with each other.
Now why should you get married? Well, I think, if you are really in love with that person, its a commitment you should make to them. Show them that you want to be with them the rest of your life. There are some honest people in the world. We just have to find them.
2007-01-09 23:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by huggiebear78 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate is so high because people take marriage too lightly these days. The movies & popular culture make it look easy to fall in love & live happily ever after. The truth is that it takes a lot of work to make a marriage work, but if you are willing to put in the work, your life will be happier and more stable. This, of course, assumes you married a decent person who is also willing to put work into your partnership.
2007-01-09 23:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would like to share some of my humble opinions regarding this issue.
1. Marriage should not be driven by the fear of tax, bills, student loans or other debts. If these are the base base of one's marriage then, it means he/she is not serious in love or she/he does not value love. So, hs/she is not even worth of a happy family. No pun intended.
If the reason of getting married is based upon these things then the marriage could definately fall under the 50% of those who divorce. But there is something you can do; try no to be in the 50% rate but at the other 50.
2. Love should not be measured by the divorce rate but rather on genuine Love and Faithfulness.
3. I like a saying that goes "choose your love and love your choice."
Many of us choose our love, not forced or arramged by any of our relatives (if not all but most who are reading this thread), and ththerefore, we need to love our choice. If we know we can't keep it then we better not choose beforehand.
4. Love should be treasured and valued.
By the moment one takes love in place of genuine LOVE which are mentioned at No. 1 of my previous post then this marriage may not last for long.
It is a choice....
2007-01-10 00:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by sianpu 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, i think that when you have found your other half you just natrually want to be that way...and the only reason that the divorce rate is over 50% is because people dont work on there marriages the way they're supposed to...people are giving up to easily..they just dont take there marriage vows seriously anymore...They forget they're making a promise unto God... anywho i really hope you dont let the way the world portrays marriage affect your chances of finding that special someone...Good luck with everything
2007-01-09 23:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Cori 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This subject is so heavy for my heart....
People are so into living for themselves. "I'm not happy", "I'm not fulfilled", "He doesn't fill my needs". We have become such a self-centered people. No one will tolerate anyone else 'intruding' on their lives. Why don't people STAY married? is a better question.
I got married to create a stable platform from which to live my life with my life partner. To create something bigger and more wonderful than either one of us could achieve on our own. We each sacrifice stuff; a bit of independence, privacy, and yes, even a piece of myself. Some people are not willing to give up anything that is "them", but for me it's worth seeing the businesses we've been able to create as a team, the lives we've touched, the constant mom and dad for our son. We fight, and sometimes I plain HATE him. But, that's marriage. That's any intimate relationship that is intense.
I would absolutely do it over again.
And I agree with the one that said it would be a LOT easier to live my life alone! Bills, household duties, everything except raising our kids would be easier if my Honey wasn't living here.
2007-01-09 23:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Margie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If people took the vows they made seriously, then the divorce rate wouldn't be 50%. The rate that your marriage will be extremely difficult @ times is 100%. The 50% who stay married, don't luck out w/the perfect marriage, they just stay committed like they said they would. If one gets marriage with an escape clause in mind, then marriage isn't for them.
2007-01-09 23:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jewlgrl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't live if you spend your whole life looking out your window. Sometimes you have to open the door. Life is all about different experiences some end in hurt some end in happiness its all about getting there. You don't have to get married its a privaledge and an honor that someone wants to share there life with you. I hope you find someone you would like to try and grow with its amazing when it happens.
I would do it again in a second or maybe a few years when we renew our vows. Good Luck!
2007-01-09 23:58:09 · answer #10 · answered by emmandal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋