i have bought a couple of lingrie to wear for my fiance... but the thing is, i have never worn any of them. i'm just way 2 shy & insecure. how can i get over the insecurity and surprise him w/o overdoing it ofcourse.
it's really an issue the first one i ever baught was about 2yrs ago and i still have that one too. and prob. wont b able to fit into it.
2007-01-09 15:32:48 · 21 answers · asked by GG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just model it for yourself in front of the mirror and lounge around in it when no one is around. That will help you feel comfortable in it.
2007-01-09 15:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember the first time I wore lingerie, too. I was so nervous, I stayed in the bathroom for a half an hour, trying to get the nerve to walk out. Of course, as soon as he saw me, it was fine because he thought it was sexy. So, realize, no matter what you think you look like, he is going to think you look absolutely amazing. Also, I would suggest already being in the room, laying on the bed wearing it. That way, it takes out the stressfulness of having to work up the courage to walk in. A glass of wine might also help you gain a little courage.
2007-01-09 15:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you mention that you're insecure and that you probably won't fit into what you bought 2 years ago, I'm thinking your problem is that you feel you're too big?
If this is the case, you have it backwards! Lingerie is actually the *solution* to unsexy flab. It covers all those loose jiggles with sexy silk and frills. Much better to cover up just enough and leave the rest to the imagination/fantasy.
That's why they make lingerie in sizes up to super-jumbo-xl.
2007-01-09 15:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act like you would when you normally have sex with him.. wear clothes or pajamas or whatever like you normally would, but with the lingerie underneath. And then when you walk in the bedroom with him, take off the clothes/pajamas, stand there for a few seconds, and hop in bed! (That's what I would do, anyway... and I've never worn lingerie and I'm really shy)
2007-01-09 15:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing - wear it when you're alone & look at yourself in a mirror. appreciate the reflection, admire it. you gotta love yourself first to be confident. another thing to try, very dim lighting when he's around, wear the lingerie, pu on a robe. then slowly peel your robe just past your shoulders and see how you feel. if good, go on, if not, don't. but by then, he'd usually urge you on & tell you how hot you look anyways so that should help get rid of your shyness.
2007-01-09 15:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by AW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work your way up to it. First, get comfortable wearing things a little bit out of your comfort zone. Get a little racier gradually. Before Christmas you'll be greeting him at the door in thigh highs and a bustier.
2007-01-09 15:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try them on? If you're still uncomfortable wearing them, then wear something over them for your fiance and darken the room. That way, your fiance can't see much!
2007-01-09 15:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes marrying you he must think ur sexy and appreciates your body you should think of this when ur insecurity's come.. just buy some new sexy lingrie and give him a night to remember he will appreciate it plus when u see his excitement and then ur insecuritys will go
2007-01-09 16:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe discuss it with him first. Or you could try wearing them in front of him in a darker room first until you get comfortable enough to wear them in brighter rooms.
2007-01-09 15:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by bubba2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear them for a girlfriend first(of course just to have a opinion about how you look) then spring them on him.Good luck.
2007-01-09 15:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋