ok...i dated a guy for 6 years and we are still very good friends but are completely single. I am free to do what i want and so is he. This is not the case at all though. He calls me all the time and wants to know what i am doing all the time so it is hard for me to go out and meet new people because i feel bad about hurting his feelings. He cheated on me when we were dating and i learned to forgive him but i can never forget what he did. This just isnt fair to me right?
Also, here is the more serious part of the issue. His best friend and I have feelings for eachother. I mean I would do anything to be with this kid. I want to date him so bad but I cannot do anything about it because his best friend is my ex of 6 years. I know that he has feelings for me also because of the way he talks and acts towards me. I also talked to his roommate and his roommate told me that he does have feelings for me and is waiting for the right time to tell me. Please...any advice at all.???
2007-01-09 15:31:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you will find that you reap what you sow.
be hoonest, up front and look at what you are willing to risk....are yo willing to hurt this old boyfriend so you can be with the new guy? If so, then do it...but know that what goes around comes around...its is the law of the universe.
2007-01-09 15:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been going thru a similar issue with the guy I dated for almost four years. I wish it would just go away or there would be a neon sign that porinted me in the right directionl. I feel bad going out anywhere with other guys because I feel like I’m being unfaithful even though we have been broken up for almost six months now. I just try to let myself let go of him more everyday however that is hard when he calls. I understand… if theres anything I can help with email me or whatever. –
2007-01-09 23:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Goldilocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing right now, except I'm the guy on the outside. This girl has called her wedding off three times and was with me last nite. She doesn't want to go home because he always screams at her. She told me last nite she has liked me for three years. I brought her home and was totally naked and didn't do it. I felt that I know her man and if she stays with him, I would have to shake his hand and look him in the eye. It was one of the most tempting situations I've been faced with. I saw her today and she didn't want to go home again. I told her that I respected her and didn't want to do anything until it was over between them. I'm not his best friend, but I also feel respect for her. I think she is the most beautiful girl in the world, but I also don't want to be the rebound guy. I wanted to have sex with her so bad and walked away. Now I'm kicking myself and think maybe I should have. I also think if I did, I might start to like her more. I'm in the same boat floating in the sea of confusion.
2007-01-09 23:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your ex. If you guys broke up, you broke up. Go see other people, he'll learn to deal with it. The best friend thing is a bit of an issue, but not as much your issue as the best friend's. If the best friend feels comfortable being with you, then it should be alright.
2007-01-09 23:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute... you have feelings for someone that also has feelings for you, but you can't take the chance on them because of an ex? and one that cheated on you at that? Please, do yourself a favor, go out with this guy you like and give yourself a chance. Your life shouldn't revolve around a boyfriend, and certainly not an ex boyfriend at that.
2007-01-09 23:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would honestly tell him that he needs to back off, that you feel he is smothering you. after all you are both supposed to be free to do whatever you want. right?
as far as his best friend goes, I would say try and date him. it may hurt his feelings, but you need to think about what will make you happy, not what will hurt him. he cheated on you, which I am sure hurt like heck. i would personally see this as your way of showing him that you have moved on.
2007-01-09 23:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people end up marrying the best friend of an ex. Go for it. If the friend wants to risk his friendship for you, he will. If not, it's his choice.
You say you would do anything to be with that kid, so do it! Screw the cheating leach. Get on with life, don't let him control yours out of FEAR.
2007-01-09 23:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by Margie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with the best friend. tell your ex that you are single and deserve someone who wont cheat on you and that you like.
2007-01-09 23:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by nobodyinparticular...lol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex has no right to rule your life especially after that thing he did to you! Ignore him and and be happy with the new guy!
2007-01-09 23:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your EX we are talking about --- why the drama you are not together so why not go out with the guy --- see what happens
2007-01-09 23:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋