What is the secret to getting a lot of girls?

Question

(DO NOT SAY ANYTHING ALONG THE LINES OF "JUST BE YOURSELF")

How do you talk, act, what pose do you stand with, what expression, what things do you do that attract a lot of girls?

Tell me only what you know from experience works and doesn't work. I am dying to know, and I know I'm not the only one.

So would you really successful guys please tell me what works? I'm probably hundreds of miles away from you anyway and won't offer any competition, so don't hold back.

gee, thanks (to the people who said just be yourself to antagonize me), that's just what i needed (note the heavy sarcasm)

in response to Ellie W: there's a reason i want a lot of girls. with a lot, i can choose the best one. i need some bad relationships so that i don't take the best one for granted. when i see the girl i really like, i want to be able to initiate contact properly (it doesn't initiate itself and 1st impressions are important) so that i don't turn her off before i even get to show my good side, so i need to hone my skills. i want to get all the mistakes out of my system BEFORE i meet the girl of my dreams. now do you see the point?

i already know lots of the critical details; i just don't know what the right way to do those details is

"just being myself" has sabotaged me forever (seriously, i have yet to make a success). if i lock onto one girl, i don't want to be dragged away into oblivion. i am looking for techniques

Answer 1

CONFIDENCE. Again, confidence. Not arrogance....there is a fine line BUT IT is easy to tell the difference!

Answer 2

A lot of things go a long way, like some cool friends, clothes that look good on you and maybe some cologne, a good physique, a decent car, apartment, nice job and blah, blah, blah... but all you really need is the confidence that these things normally provide for a guy. That's it, because even with all this you'll be rejected most of the times you ask a girl for a dance, or her number, a date, whatever, man. They key is self esteem sufficient enough to poke your chest out, smile, and go on to the next one.

You have to believe you are worthy of being accepted by women, and since most of them want someone anyway, it may as well be you, right? Right. Act like it. Ask them to come and see you, touch them, play with them, have fun, and don't get pissed or pushy at the ones who say no.

Answer 3

The main thing to understand is that society programs men into not allowing ourselves to succeed with women unless/until we are pushing society forward. A man has all of these insidious blockers to sabotage his efforts if he isn't doing this or not succeeding at doing this.

An example. Being yourself is one of the effective techniques for getting women. However, your mind is lying to you and telling you that is a ridiculous thing to make sure you don't try that, because it knows that is what works. Instead, it's telling you that if only you pose a certain way, put on a mask etc., women will respond to that.

Until you understand that this is going on and start actively deconstructing these things, you are going to have a lot of what seem like insurmountable problems. Every time you start to succeed, a new blocker will show up. If you don't know this is happening, you will have no idea what to do.

To expand on what I just said about being yourself. What I mean is that you need to be and act as you would without making excuses for it. You must be honest, direct and straightforward in everything you do. And you must not care what anyone, especially her, thinks about it. You must not pretend. You must not act a certain way. You must not censor yourself.

An example to illustrate. Let's say you are at the mall and you see a drop dead, breath takingly beautiful woman walk by. Should you:

a. Avoid looking at her

b. Smile weakly and if she talks to you, pretend you aren't attracted to her.

c. Act cool and indifferent

d. Act like a jerk

e. Stare at whatever part of her body pleases you Look her directly in the eye and smile warmly. If she asks you what the hell you are looking at, calmly tell her that you think she is gorgeous and that you really enjoy staring at her. In other words....the truth.

I tell you what. If you wisely choose e. and then talk to her like a normal person in whatever way you usually do when you are with your friends. There is a high probability, that girl will become your new girlfriend. You felt a certain way about her. You had no reservation in putting that on display. When she challenged you on it, rather than try to hide it, you were upfront and honest about it. When she delved deeper, you displayed your normal, everyday personality. In other words, you acted like a man instead of some person who thinks they are a loser and is desperately trying to prevent people from finding out.

Doing this really isn't a conscious effort. You aren't trying to do it. What you do is figure out all the things that are preventing you from doing this and picking them apart, one by one. Your post puts on display your main one. The idea that you think you are a loser and have to be anything but who you are or you can't possibly succeed with the women you want. Woohoo.....can't be myself, she'll think I'm a loser. Well, not being yourself makes you a loser and she can smell it a mile away.

http://www.attractanddate.com

Answer 4

Sorry, man but all the stuff you listed comes from "just being yourself".

You want her to like you for you and not for some guy that's putting on act.

And the best thing for you at this point is to lock on one girl and go from there.

Answer 5

The talk?
--Talk to them the way u wont talk to anybody else, make then feel special. Never raise ur voice. Speak softly.
-- Have nicknames for each other. Address yourselves with the nicknames all the time. Although u are having other girls around.
-- When talking to them, always talk love talks.

The Act?
-- Be as caring and loving as u can be.
-- Make them believe that they are the only one (though actually not!)

Note: Though I'm a girl, I know what to do when it comes to girl...hehehe

Answer 6

Everything.
Energy
The way you carry yourself, ie posture, body language, smiling
How you talk, tone of voice, senserity
The things you say (Matters less than HOW you say it)
The way you smell
Your looks are also important
Be Cocky and Funny. As in, confident to the point of cockyness, yet funny so it doesn't appear arrogant.

Answer 7

From a girl's point of view, confidence is sexy. Neediness and desperation are not. Most girls I know are attracted to guys who have good manners (open doors, offer to carry stuff for them, compliment them genuinely) and are kind to others. If you know a girl has a particular interest (e.g. playing softball), ask her to give you some pointers/advice. Ask her questions & listen to her answers. Ask relevant follow up questions. She'll be flattered. If you see a girl with pretty hair, tell her she has really pretty hair. Make it about her, not about you. It's not about quantity of girls you attract, but rather quality.

Answer 8

just b outgoing. looks dont hurt. u will always get rejected a lot so just ask a lot of girls at once as long as u arnt goin for a serious relationship

Answer 9

Confidence helps a lot

Answer 10

Just be yourself