my mom and dad split when i was 4. i have lived with my mom my whole life. my dad is an alcholic, but he's been sober for 2 years now. i have 2 sisters an older and a younger. my older sister can't stand my mom so she is trying to move in with my dad. my sister asked me if i would go with her.
i wouldn't mind living with my dad. i'm like his best friend, but if i do move in with him i would be leaving my little sister behind. and i don't have a problem with my mom, i love her to death. she means so much to me, and it would crush her if i go and stay with my dad.
the best decision would be to stay with my mom because they have money on that side of the family and my dad's side is not as wealthy. i guess its a decision of me being happy whether than whats best for me.
amd it doesn't help at all that my dad has hypotitos C and could pass away at any given moment.
what should i do?
2007-01-09 14:51:02 · 19 answers · asked by taralynXXX 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tough decision...you can't go based on what you're sisters want. (I'm a middle girl of three). Part of me wants to say that you need to spend as much time with your Dad as you can before he passes away since no one knows how long he will live. You're Mom should understand this even if it hurts. And if you and your Dad are best friends, that's all the more reason to be there for him. (I lost my Dad three months ago and we were best friends too).
2007-01-09 14:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay with your mother. Your sister leaving because she "cant stand your mother" doesnt have anything to do with you. Unless you too are having issues, you need to let your sister fight her own battles. If you have a good mother who has been good to you and loves you, theres no point in messing up a good thing. Even though your father is on the straight path now, it seems he was probably unreliable in this past. Why leave the good life for one of chaos. Money should be a non issue. You should follow your heart, respect those who have treated you best and always been there for you, and pray that everyone finds their own path to happiness. If you left your mom, I am sure she would be somewhat resentful and that would cause uneccessary drama. Why bother?
2007-01-09 15:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be wise to keep things the way it has been all these years. Everybody seems to be happy with the arrangements except for your older sister. She needs to grow up and get reconciled to your mom. If you go with your dad, your mom may think that you are siding with your sister. It will also,(as you say), mess things up for your little sister. Seems to me that by going with your dad, its causing more stress than if you keep things the way they are. Encourage your older sister to get things right with your mom. It sounds like it doesn't matter either way to you, so do what seems to be best for the majority. Sounds like things were o.k till the big sister got a bur under her collar. Keep your relationship good with both parents and encourage your sisters to do the same. There may have been a divorce, but relationships can still be good. Make decisions that will cause less strife in the relationships. Hope this helps. :)
2007-01-09 15:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 22:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your mom. She has been faithful to you all these years. If your sister has problems with your mom, she could well have problems with your dad, too. It would also be a lot of stress on you to be living with your dad when he passed away.
2007-01-09 16:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with you mom and stay with your sister. Just because you aren't moving in with your dad doesn't mean you can't spend lots of time with him. Stay with him during the weekends and call him every day or drop by.
2007-01-09 14:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how far away do your parent live from one another? I would say stay with your mom. be there for your little sister and it is what makes you happy. but every free chance you get why don't you go stay with your dad. that way you could see him and your other sister plenty. but you need to do what makes you happiest.
2007-01-09 14:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your mom, she and your little sister need you. Your dad is going to have your older sister.
2007-01-09 14:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like many things in life, there's no perfect solution. Sounds like the best you can do is live with one . . . probably stay with your mother . . . and visit the other as often as possible. Hopefully they aren't far apart in miles to prohibit that option. That's no one's ideal family life, I know, but hopefully you'll grow up a stronger person having survived all that turmoil! Best wishes.
2007-01-09 14:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by worldinspector 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the one YOU like. Your sister must live her own decisions.
IMHO stay with Your Mom.
If You go - please explain Your Mom why. We are Christians (well, even if You are not our social thinking & education is) & compassion is a good reason. Your Dad is not real healthy after all.
2007-01-09 15:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by Yttl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋