XD there are soooo many of my girlfriends i work with are getting pregnant..especially all these girls either early twenties or teens getting pregnant....i thought 28 or 30 is the right age to get pregnant?
but then my guy friend said no by the time your thirty or close to it
your productive system gets ready for menopause and then you wont be able to have a baby...so have it young!
>_> i'm like hell no i want to go to college are you insane..i have soo much to do and see for in the world....
so how old should i be to have a kid?
XD i'm 20 1/2 i dont want one now! oh the freaking pressure O_O i had a nightmare walking around the mall with a kid saying mommy non-stop and my close friend which i said i like alot in my last post just walked away from me...and my korean roommate said it also means bad luck O_O is that also true..i thought in the dream book it means revolution for the better..TT i dont want a kid only when i'm 28 or 30....am i wrong? can i have one in my 30's?
2007-01-09 14:46:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I had my first baby at 16 (too young!!!), and now at 28 I'm pregnant with my second. I think this age is just about right. Not so young that you have to give up being a kid yourself, and not so old that you increase your chances of complications. But, no matter your age, I would say anyone having nightmares about it isn't quite ready yet ;) Don't worry so much, when you're ready you'll know . Best of luck :)
2007-01-09 15:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Christy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can absolutely wait until you are in your thirties. The research I've read says that a woman's fertility starts to decline slightly after age 27, but it's a very slight and gradual decline. You are also slightly more likely to have a baby with birth defects the older you are, but again, it's a gradual increase and the chances are still overwhelmingly in your favor.
If you will be 35 or older at the time of delivery, it would be considered an "advanced maternal age" pregnancy and they would monitor you a little more closely, but it's really not a big deal. LOTS of people have babies after 35.
I personally had my first at age 32, and had no trouble getting pregnant. I have 2 friends who had their first in their early 40s. My goal is to be done by the time I'm 35 so I don't have to deal with the "advanced maternal age" thing, but if I turn 35 and haven't had my second yet, I'm not going to let a number scare me.
It certainly doesn't seem like a good idea for you to have a baby now when you feel the way you do. I definitely agree that going to college first would be a good idea. You have lots of time - you are way too young to be feeling pressured about this. Wait 7 or 8 years and then see how you feel.
2007-01-09 15:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by Deanna B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no "right" age. It should be when you are ready and want to have kids. I am almost 26 and we are expecting our third child. We had our fist son when I was 18, our second son we had when I was 24. For me, this worked and I wouldn't have it any other way. I like the fact that I started early, because by time our kids are grown up, my husband and I will still be pretty young.
If you know you don't want kids at an early age, then that is perfectly fine. Don't feel pressured to have kids early, there are lots of people who wait to have kids in their 30's and even later than that!
2007-01-09 14:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
30 is by no means too old to have kids. More and more women are having kids at older ages with no problems. Do what's right for you and your future children by getting a proper education and establishing yourself in a career. By then you might be able to find a man who is mature enough to carry through with his responsibilities and settle down and be ready for a home and family. Your children will be much better off having parents who took the time to get all their ducks in a row before procreating!
Good for you for having some sense!
Don't listen to your guy friend. He doesn't know what he's talking about.
2007-01-09 16:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted, pregnancy later in life can lead to birth defects, multiple births, and bed rest for the latter trimesters, this happens when you hit late 30's. Even then, many women have completely healthy babies. It's just that the later you become preggo in your late 30s, the higher the risk. I'm a mom at 20 1/2 and now I'm 22 and having another baby. I just love having a younger mom (mine is 44) and doing things with her. Plus, your body bounces back so much faster and easier. But, if your agenda is schooling and such, by all means, go for it. In your early 30s, you're good to go for baby making. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-01-09 14:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon Kay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can have one in your 30's. After age 35 the chances of birth defects or chromosomal disorders are higher. That is all. I had my kids young because that is what I wanted. I would never push that on anyone else. Your guy friend shouldn't either.
Also.. what is this about a dream being bad luck? My sister in law is in the military in Korea and keeps having a dream she is being asked by her child where it was conceived and she keeps telling it Korea. What would that mean if anything? I never heard it was a bad thing? Curious. Thanks
2007-01-09 14:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's WRONG!! Tell him that I had my first child at 41. That age is extreme to have a first child, but it is possible. You should have children when you are ready to care for it, including a stable family environment and the money to support it--and boy are they expensive!
Many, many women start having children in their 30s. True, 35 and over is considered advanced maternal age, but that is not as horrifying as it sounds. It just means they watch you more closely for problems basically.
Don't start worrying about your biological clock so soon! It didn't even occur to me before 35!
2007-01-09 14:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different.
It sounds like you are not ready for a child now, so don't let anyone talk you in to it.
I know plenty of people who are 30+ and have had kids.
I had my daughter when I was 27, and everything went excellent.
2007-01-09 15:17:03 · answer #8 · answered by star22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nar your right life your live to the full trust me dont have babies whiles your young i learn that mistake and really people should nt be saying to you when to have babies because when you feel your ready to have a child you will know so just follow your heart and feelings and brain go to college get a great job do somert with your life 20 to young to even started thinking about having children
2007-01-09 14:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 30 and my second at 32 without any problems. You wait until the time YOU and your husband want to start a family.
2007-01-09 14:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋