If we would like money for a gift because we are trying to buy a house, how do we let everybody know that?

Question

We are saving for a house, and do not want gifts, if we have no place to put them. Instead of registering, we would like cash.

Answer 1

Let the main people, Parents and relatives know, and it will spread via word of mouth. Putting it in writing is a little tacky.

Answer 2

Emmm there is no polite way to ask for cash...
With that said here's a few ideas.
* How about registering for your honeymoon trip and having your guests pay on that ....Check with a travel agent to set this up.
That would free up the cash you and your fiance would be spending on your honeymoon...you could save "that" money yourselves for the house.
* How about registering for nice gifts and then ebaying them??? If you go with this plan tell NO ONE ... Note there are ebay stores around that can handle the entire proccess for you.

Answer 3

You mean you are getting married?
I would think that a line on the wedding invitation could say something like, "Please give donations to our house fund in lieu of gifts."
Although, frankly, I think it could be viewed as a little tacky. Personally I think the idea is quite practical for those who were going to give gifts anyway, but some people might think you're hitting them up for money.
Aunt Mom has a good answer.
Alternatively, you could register at Lowe's or something like that.

Answer 4

Don't listen to people who say that is tacky - it is practical, and this is the age of do what's right for you! When I got remarried, I didn't need any gifts either, as half of my belongings were already in storage. I made a poem on my invitations about it, and made it very clear that the only thing we could use is money, or else, just their good wishes.

Answer 5

Its not very proper to ask for cash in any form. People should be able to give you what they would like not the other way. Personally, I understand your plight, but also hate the situations where I have been asked for cash, its offensive to me.

Answer 6

It's totally tacky to say.. cash only.. but a request for Gift cards (that you can use later once you get the house) or a donation to the "Get a place to call our own fund" may be more acceptable. I agree that word of mouth is the way to do it a bit more tactfully through your family.

Best of Luck

Answer 7

Sorry, it isn't poilte to ask for money, period. If people ask straight out, go ahead and tell them your preference, but tread carefully.
I agree with the answer ahead of mine-read Miss Manners! You'll never go wrong.

Answer 8

You really shouldn't ask for money in an invitation, it is considered bad etiquette and rude. Have your parents, close relatives and even members of your bridal party causally mention it to other guests.

Word of mouth is the best way.

Answer 9

You could include a note with the invitations that reads "monetary gifts appreciated". Or something to that effect.
Or when people cal to RSVP, you can tell them at that time. It might be more tactful on your part to have a family member or your maid of honor to take care of spreading the word.
Don't expect money from EVERYONE, there will be people who are not comfortable with giving cash.

Edit: When my mother remarried we made a "money tree" out of an old 4 ft christmas tree. Everyone put their cards with their gift of money on the tree. We attatched paper clips with white ribbon to the tree to hold the cards. It looked very nice.
You could also have someone call the people who have responded to let them know of your gift preference. It would also be very important to let everyyone know WHY you want the money.

Answer 10

How about not sucking money out of your wedding guests and saving for a house the honest way?