I know there r a lot of questions on here, & i'm thankful 4 those of u who've opened this 1. Here's my dilema: I've grown closer over the past year, 2 one of my really good guy friends. I've known him 4 about 6 years now. It wasn't until the we were hanging out one night @ the beach, early last year that I started seeing him as possibly more than a friend. Since then it seems like we hang out a lot more. He's really a nice guy. Which as you girls know, can b confusing. I want to ask him out, but i'm afraid that he will say that he doesn't see me like that, & that our friendship won't ever b the same, & that he may not even feel comfortable being around me after that. I don't know what 2 do. I'm not sure if i'm willing 2 risk our great friendship, 2 begin a relationship that might never go anywhere. But, on the other hand, I REALLY like him. He knows how 2 make me laugh, & we share a lot in common. We live right down the street from each other, so we always hang out @ each others house.
2007-01-09 14:40:10 · 11 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have any suggestions on what I should do? All serious answers are really appreciated!
2007-01-09 14:41:39 · update #1
I've been through the same thing, as a guy.
I would take the initiative. Don't come on too strong as far as making him feel like he's going to be making an instant commitment by responding, but let him know you're interested in something more than friendship. A kiss on the cheek would be a good choice. Ya...easier said than done, I know.
If he's a true friend and doesn't feel the same way, he should understand and be able to return to the original friendship.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 14:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a move. Most guy friends want their girl friends in the first place. So the odds are in your favor. Since you have such a good repour, then it is unlikely you will ruin anything - because you are friends and he wouldn't want to hurt your feelings. When I say make a move, don't ask him boringly. Make a move. Do something, kiss him a certain way at the right time...that way its fun and adventurous and it feels right - romance isn't about making a negotiation contract by talking it out as if it were"a matter of fact." - Good Luck
2007-01-09 22:48:00 · answer #2 · answered by ninjitsumeiyo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey i have an answer in mind but afterwards do you mind reading my newly posted question i have to decide by tommrow morning and no one is giving me any advuce... ok here goes
i say you are preety bold to ask a guy out i would be shaking in my boots buts i know it seems you known him for ever i think you should try looking him in the eye more, if you dont already also think about touching him (i know it sounds really werid but what i mean is subtle like hugs and light things not anything too extreme) i read in seventeen (i know not the great source) that this kinda clues guys off that you like them, eye contact, and touches hope this helps, wait but dont ask him out right away kida obserb him does he flirt a ton with other girls if so it could be one of 2 thigns either hes a huge flirt or hes not interested.
2007-01-09 22:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi dear,i suggest donot repent for the rest of ur life by not asking him.because the "IF"' PRICKS FOR LIFE LONG.i guess as you say u both know each other for long.then just give him indirect hints and try to dig in if he has any girl friend or no.convey ur feelings in a very tactful manner.i am sure if he really likes u that way he will answer boldly.if not too if he also considers u as good friend he will understand u.this is the nature of many shy people,they need a hint orelse they will never say.if it is what u think.all the best. do keep in touch if u want.mail me at waasia_z@yahoo.com if u want.take care bye.
2007-01-09 23:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by reena 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Playing it safe is not playing....
...tell him how you feel. I honestly don't think you have anything to worry about. If a guy has been your friend for 6 years, he's probably somewhat interested. I say go for it...he sounds like someone you could be with for a long time.
2007-01-09 22:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you figure that out let me know. I am going to though the exact same thing. Havn;t known mine for as long, but you know what I eman. Good Luck.
2007-01-09 22:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sheri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never know unless you ask. Weigh the advantages vs. the disadvantages. Take risks and live every day to its fullest!
2007-01-09 22:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by goddessbella77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to throw aside your fear. Somethings are worth the risk, at least for your own peace of mind. Go for it.
2007-01-09 22:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by lupering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out, he probably does like you and if he doesn't he won't ruin a good friendship over it.
2007-01-09 22:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Grizzly UM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's really your friend he'll listen and try to understand. That doesn't mean he'll feel the same way but if he's your friend he won't push you away.
2007-01-09 22:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Scott 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋