ok me and this kid r going to a dance as friends, we hung out a time or two, and now i only talk to him on IM...but the conversations stink. its the classic 'hey hey whats up n2m u n2m' hole...and i hardly ever climb out of it. the problem is, i almost always message him first, its like he doesn't care if he talks to me, and if i say something like 'brb' he says nothing, not even 'k'. at first i thought he might have liked me, and i really want him to, how do i start good conversations that will help us...er...bond a bit?
2007-01-09 14:37:30 · 12 answers · asked by aerie anna 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow this site is like my immature high school
2007-01-09 14:41:35 · update #1
a good way to break the awkwardness of conversation is to share a common experience together. You two should go out to a movie together. Then you will have the movie to talk about. Then go to the mall... then you'll have the mall to talk about. Soon common interests will reveal themselves and you wont be afraid to talk about other things with each other.
I would do this before you go to the dance.
I would start talking about movies through IM with him. Tell him what you've seen lately and then look up what's playing right now find something that looks interesting, and start talking about it, and tell him "I want to see it, do you want to go with?"
I ALWAYS have trouble conversing with people when I'm still getting to know them. It makes it so much better for me when I hang out somewhere with them... in a place where there isn't a lot of pressure to talk to them (ex. a movie).
2007-01-09 15:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alright. That is very typical of a guy. He doesn't want to seem too desperate online, so why would he IM you? And the whole "Brb" thing is really awkward if you think about it. He'll say "K" if you leave...then "K" when you say "back", so he might think that it's just pointless to say anything. So don't take it too personal.
When I'm talking online, I like to be as random as possible. Sure, I always have the "Hey..Hey...what's up..nothing...what up..nothing...how are you...good...how are you..fine" beginning, but then I'll be like: "Have a crazy-fantastic day, because all I've been thinking about is how (insert teachers name) keeps (insert odd characteristic; ex: spitting when he talks). Make it something you can both laugh about and relate. I'll throw in some dirty jokes too, but that's just how I talk with people. ;)
Just make it a conversation that you can both relate too. Don't make it all about him, but don't talk about yourself too much...Bring up a topic and see if he relates..if he doesn't, dump the topic. Simple. If you know what he is into (if you don't..ASK!) then bring it up. Like, if he plays basketball...ask him when his next game is.
Really...JUST CHILL! ;) I understand that it can be stressful to not sound like a dork online and limit those awkward silences (points of no IMing--haha)...but just go with the flow. You'll be fine.
Hope that helped.
2007-01-09 22:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, this is what i found- if you can talk about anything and they just wanna listen then he likes you, ie your day, from the alarm going off to what these crazy people were doing in line at the store to your hair color and your teeth...get it? Anything, and ask him the same, if he's not into you he won't listen, but if he is he will. Good luck.
2007-01-09 22:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by littlegirllost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about ANYTHING. IM's are the easyest places to start conversations man ask him if he finished a hard homework assignment or talk about something that happened that day...if there is an odd quote in his name then ask him about it...if he's inot sports talk about that. wide variety
2007-01-09 22:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to ask close questions or kinda heavy questions but it will make him fell good. say stuff like luv u ur hot u no. talk wit him bout hanging out n stuff
2007-01-09 22:44:07 · answer #5 · answered by calvin j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what his interests are and the burn him for it. That will take him off his high and mighty, non-responding IM pedastal.
2007-01-09 22:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by Chuck F. Answers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him questions like what he does for fun, which girls does he like (hopefully you) etc.. to get him to talk.
2007-01-09 22:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Grizzly UM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he into any sports? guys like to talk about sports, and it'll make him feel cool if he's decent at them.
2007-01-09 22:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by simmons77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"whta did you do today"
or
"what are you doing this weekend?"
it might get better after the dance, maybe?
2007-01-09 22:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
things you have in common, weather, school, music, etc.
2007-01-09 22:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋