Ok, I'm sure almost everyone has experienced this type of situation at least once in their lifetime. I've fallen for a good friend of mine whom I knew for 5 years. We started out as coworkers but she recently got promoted to supervisory position in our company and she's now my supervisor, but we/re in different department. We've always been very close like peas and carrots. We get along great and when we go out, we had lots of fun. I've always knew that she could be the one but I'm afraid to tell her that I have feelings for her. Or worse, I don't want us to feel awkward if the outcome turns out not what I expected. I just don't want to ruin our relationship and of course if I do tell her, I'll risk that. What should I do?
2007-01-09 14:36:10 · 9 answers · asked by Ethan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Three years is a long time to feel that way and not convey it.
If she's a true friend, and it doesn't work out the way you hope it will, she won't feel awkward and neither should you.
You'll continue being friends.
The risk to me is living your life never knowing what her feelings may be.
2007-01-09 14:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by ☼High☼Voltage☼Blonde☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
status quo won't stay, change is already happening, its either going to be positive growth or disintegration, may as well take the risk of trying for positive growth. If you don't tell her, then maybe she'll get busy with other things or someone else. My answer is not focussing on "how" to tell her, but you will have to take the risk of helping it grow, rather than taking the risk of letting it evaporate. Tell her, even IF you must do it gradually, or readily, but life is growth oriented. Go for it ! Don't miss it.
She might say of course its an obvious option, or ok lets try, or even if she says no, she still might think about it and say yes later when you least expect it. Best of luck to you man!
2007-01-09 14:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by million$gon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time the two of you are out just talk to her. tell her your not trying to make her feel put on the spot but you want her to know you like her, and you would like to be able to start dating her if shes ok with it. life is a risk, love is a risk but we all have to risk the first and we all should allow ourselves to risk the second sometimes. GOOD LUCK!! hope things work out for you!!
2007-01-09 14:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely cannot approach her while she's your supervisor. You could cost her her job. If you're serious about the way you feel, get another job elsewhere and then tell her why.
2007-01-09 14:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're as close to her as you seem to be, than you'd be better off telling her, and just make sure that if the feeling isn't mutual, you don't treat her any differently, or make her feel awkward, and it won't be
2007-01-09 14:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dipti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU THINK BOTH OF YOU CAN KEEP YOUR FRIENDSHIP OR DATING, OUT OF WORK , THEN I WOULD SAY GO FOR IT. BUT IF YOU THINK IT WILL INTERFER IN ANY WAY ,THEN I WOULD SAY DON'T AND JUST KEEP IT LIKE IT IS. FOLLOW WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU TO DO.
2007-01-09 14:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definetly try it out. if u guys r close it cant go wrong either way but just try to get closer to it and at the right time (try texting) pop it in there. even as a joke or a wut if just to get the reaction.
2007-01-09 14:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by calvin j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have one of her friends ask her for you. They can let you know if she is interested.
2007-01-09 14:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just tell her
2007-01-09 14:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋