Everyone has a "type" of person who they are attracted to, but don't you find yourself attracted to many different kinds of people; including people who you think you would NEVER go out with?
2007-01-09 14:24:36 · 13 answers · asked by fairydust 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's true, and i dont believe we have a choice in who we feel attracted to. The person's personality may sometimes influence your decision more than their appearance, and that is why you find yourself attracted to so many different types of people. You just have to get to know them.
2007-01-09 14:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by cyborg16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a theory that we all have something called a "love map," a physical type that we tend to be attracted to. Probably originated from some experiences deep in our distant childhood. BUT that applies only to physical appearance. The qualities of certain people that we find charming or endearing also attract us, and in the end it is those qualities of personality, rather than appearance, that have the final hold on us.
Usually.
Funny. I played in the college band, and I remember being wildly turned on by the curve of a saxaphone player's thighs. Don't think I ever even knew his name....
2007-01-09 22:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by keepsondancing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Did you know that we all have a built in undetective scent attraction to the opposite sex. It all has to do with smell. We are all just like animals when it comes to this stuff. It's just harder for us because we cover our natural smell up alot with perfumes, soaps, shampoos, etc... Have you ever notice how a relationship can be going great until one day he comes over to see you and he's not wearing his cologne and you two are instantly fighting or you 're just not attracted to him as much anymore. Well, you probably wouldn't have noticed it at the time but, you will probably notice now. It's because you are smelling his natural scent and it is telling you that he is not right for you.
2007-01-09 22:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by airtightreality 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I find many differnt people, even those I would never date, attractive for different reasons. I don't think you can truly force yourself to like someone.
2007-01-09 22:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Grizzly UM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the extent of how much control we actually have over what we personally find attractive, but we all have the ultimate control over what we do with it.
2007-01-09 22:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, Our first instinct is physical attraction but if you know the personally thats what turns you off about a person
2007-01-09 22:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and no
that's like saying i grew up hating brocolli but then having someone intro duce you to it in a dish and then you find yourself loving brocolli
so the same goes for attraction
it's all mental
and the attraction goes only as far as you limit yourself to
be it from what you grew up with ( socialization )
what your exposed to ( media )
your family values
and any and other culture / races your were exposed to growing up
this will form your basis for atttraction
but as you grow up and explore the world as you know it
will reveal characters and traits you may find you like in yourself that you never saw before
and you go looking for them in whomever you can find it
so you may end up being attracted emotionally to someone , that growing up that you would have not been attracted to physically
so one set of values may supercede another in your quest for happiness
2007-01-09 22:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well not really its what ur mind thinks of a great pleasent company and u urself can't control it.
Its like ur mind is divided into 2 sides; urself and what ur mind thinks
if ur mind thinks one way and u think another ur mind's opinoin will be stronger
2007-01-09 22:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can help attraction, it's too natural. All you can control is your reaction to it. Why, do you wanna scromp somebody that might make you look bad?
2007-01-09 22:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes. I never thought I'd go for a guy with blonde hair but i did....
2007-01-09 22:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋