I want to be a stay at home Mom?

Question

Ok im 16 and in 1 1/2 years ill be getting married....My BF and I Said that we wanted kids and said If i wanted to i could be a stay at home mom.....Is that wrong?

He has the money for us to stay financially Stable also....

I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom

I will be graduated and be taking online courses on the computer

Answer 1

no its not wrong. Im a stay athome mom for the last 23 years and that is what my husband wanted. I worked before we got married and he asked me to stay home for he is an old fashioned guy beleiving that men should take care of there own. And who am I to argue with him.When on the 15 we will celebrat our 24th and he still dont want me to work for my place is to be here fore our children and grandchildren. i would not change my experiance for the world. moms who work miss out on the things that us stay at home moms get to see.I di babysit other kids to give them the feeling of some security and knew that i could report to the mothers what there children did. wether my own or others i got enjoyment out of watching there first crawl. walk words. no be proud to be a stay at home mom

Answer 2

You know, I wish I had someone like you sticking up for me. Some days I will slack a little bit cause I have worked so hard the other days I have to give myself that break. I have a 3 yr old and 2 yr old with another on the way so I get exhausted easily. My husband complains that i need to be cleaning when the kids nap instead of napping with them. But you know what. The house isn't PERFECT, but dishes are done, I have a plan for dinner, the laundry is done, ect. My house is clean and sanitized and I feel that even though I know he goes to a hard job for 10 hrs a day I have a hard job here to. Yeah I get more breaks to sit on the computer for awhile. But I keep my butt moving on other stuff most of the day. I wish my 16 yr old brother was as smart as you. He wont pick his own laundry off the floor and both of my parents still work. You are going to be a wonderful husband and father someday! Just don't rush it! Enjoy your single life for a bit after high school or at least don't marry for awhile. I don't regret it but some days I wished I had let myself party a bit before I settled down. Tell your mom many people out there are rooting for her! And way to go to you for helping her out. Your dad should do it sometimes too. ( I have to admit that my husband can be a big help on Sunday's if he isn't fishing.)

Answer 3

The idea of being a stay at home mom isn't wrong, but the fact that you're just diving into this at such a young age might not be such a good idea. I'm a stay at home mom, but I'm 27 years old, and I'm disabled. I've been to college, I've worked, I've been places, I've experienced some things. So, I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. But you've got so much more to see and do before you make such a huge decision. Something like this shouldn't be taken lightly, or you'll wind up with a lot of regrets and resentment.

Answer 4

I think being a stay-at-home mom is commendable and your kids will benefit. Since you are only 16 though, you might want to make sure you have developed yourself by getting a degree and perhaps having some job experience first. The last thing you want to do is be completely dependent on your BF for everything. I don't think that would make the relationship 50-50.

Answer 5

Being a "stay at home" mom is not wrong. My mother is somewhat of an example. She married later than most women of her time, when she was 29 I think. She was a registered career nurse at the time, and during WW2, worked in a factory making bombsights. It turned out her hair was perfect to make the cross hairs, so she cut her incredibly long hair down to almost nothing and donated it to the cause. She dropped out of the work force when she had the first child (of a planned dozen, 7 of 13 survived the RH factor incompatability, which at the time, no one knew caused problems. Now, it is no longer a problem as the mother can receive an injection which negates the effects my siblings and I had after the 1st child was born. Your parents maybe and surely your grandparents would know of this problem in detail.) Once she had the 1st child, she stayed at home, but she did not stop her education. She continued her schooling and kept up her nursing certification until we moved from downtown Chicago to the burbs when I was 5 years old, and then became simply a full time mom. After I moved out after going to college for a while and then becoming career Navy in submarines, I asked my mom about all of this, and she told me all of the details, and never regretted staying at home once we made the move out of the city. Today, times have changed. Women in the workplace are increasing, and stay at home moms are decreasing in number. So it isn't a question of right or wrong, but rather a personal preference, since today, as a woman, you have many more opportunities open to you than your parents and grandparents had available to them at the time. I suggest you simply ask your mnother, your future mother-in-law, and grandmother and future grandmother-in-law about their choices and what it was like for them. You will receive an amazing insight if you simply ask them. If nothing else, I encourage you to keep up with your education, through college. After all of us kids left the nest, my mom went back to school, full time, just like any other student. If she had a regret, it was not continuing school when she had the chance at the beginning of her marriage to my father, but I only suppose this, since she never actually said these words, but I got the feeling frojm how she talked about it way later, years after I left home to be on my own. Now, at my age of 58, I think I feel the same as my mother. I stopped going to school when I joined the Navy in 1968 and now, I am finally getting back into college and am finding out what I missed 38 years ago... There is no substitute for education. Knowledge is power.

Answer 6

Hon, if that is what you want and you are financially stable then go
for it....I do agree that it is so important for mother's to care for their
children in their formative years.

I never had that luxury. I 've worked all of my life. I did manage
to get a BSN so I earned a nice living and my husband also made
a good living, but we wanted to much for the children that we decided to work so our kids could have the finest education,
vacations, big house and all the electronic they wanted, tutors and so on. I have five nice grown men. One is a DVM the other a JD
my baby is in University. Another is a computer programmer
and my last has his own refrigeration business....so I am pleased
with my choices.

I say do what makes you feel good and comfortable......at 16 you
sound quite mature, but you may change your way of thinking
as you get older......just make sure you graduate H.S.

Answer 7

It can work fine as long as you are responsible with your money. As long as you know you can't have everything now, but will have to make sacrifices to make a good normal home for the kids, where mom raises them rather than a day care center, you will be fine. Congrats on a great decision at such a young age. Buy only what you can afford, charge nothing. You can have the beautiful bedroom furniture when you are 40, look forward to it, but don't think you have to have it now, as an example.

Answer 8

If you can afford to be a stay at home Mom then be a stay at home Mom nobody will ever love your children as much at you. I was a stay at home Mom and loved every minute of it. I wish my Daughter could be a stay at home Mom but unfortunately her husband past away so now she has to be the bread winner for her child. Now I am a stay at home Grandmother. Just take the time to read to your children spend time with them everyday.

Good Luck

Answer 9

I have had several careers, but the greatest thing I ever did was be a stay at home mom and wife. If you breastfeed your baby, you save on formula and you give your baby the best start in life you can. I wish you the best, because it is. You can do the rest after the kids are grown and gone, which comes sooner than you realize.

Answer 10

Being at home with your children is a great experience. Stay at home moms do not miss out of any part of their children's lives. It is normal and natural for women to be nurtures to their offspring and their mates. We women by nature are internal beings no matter how our society twist and turn it. It is only recently women left the home to join the stressful work place and dumped their precious angles into the hands of others.