I'm not really popular in high school, and I usually just stay to myself and do my work and stuff, so I don't have a lot of friends. I get along with people, and I'm not one of those kids everyone hates, but I just prefer to be quiet.
But do you think because of that, when I'm older (out of high school) a girl wouldn't want to date me because she might think I'm a loser? And is it possible for some guys who weren't so popular in high school to have lot's of friends in university, or work or whatever? Also, I'm 15 and I still haven't got a girlfriend yet, or even been kissed by a girl and I'm running out of time, so what do I do?
2007-01-09 14:12:49 · 48 answers · asked by Joseph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And be honest, because some people are saying that some people will just say that it doesn't matter when it probably does
2007-01-09 14:21:00 · update #1
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2007-01-09 14:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way. I didn't have that many friends in high school and I was pretty quiet. I graduated 2 years ago and I've noticed that I've changed a lot. I'm more outgoing and I have a lot more friends. I've met a lot of new people in college who were shy and have just as many friends as I do.
Don't try and rush the girlfriend thing. I'm 20 and haven't been in a relationship. It's not that important to me. You aren't running out of time.. you have the rest of your life to get kissed and have girlfriends.
Enjoy high school... it only happens once!!! Get out there and join clubs.. make more friends. It's not as scary and/or difficult as it seems.. random conversations can turn into meaningful talks and soon you have a new friend.
The fact that you don't talk much would probably turn some girls on just because they know that they can trust you to not talk to other girls and play around with them. They will know that you are serious in the relationship.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 14:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by christypooh87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not running out of time. Your life is just beginning! so just relax. Also, NO you do not need to be popular in High School. When i was in High School, i thought that being popular was important, but as you get past High School & you get to college, you will realize that High School is nothing but IMMATURE. Don't waste your time worrying about what people say or think about you. You are doing the right thing focusing on your school work & being quiet. It's the best thing to do! Your school work right now is a big benefit to your future. Being popular is NOT! The popular people tend to focus too much on popularity that they are forgetting the fact that passing a class is more important than girls, clothes & who's the best dress. Who the heck cares about being popular. Seriously, no girl will think your a loser for being quiet. If anything, i think that any girl would love to date someone like you. Girls prefer quiet guys. We prefer guys who do good in school, pass high school, after that get a good education by earning a college degree which will eventually land you into a great paying job that will benefit you into an awesome future! Great job equals BIG money! that's the kind of guy a girl really wants in life. A smart guy who has direction in life & knows what he wants. Not some loser who just cares about being popular.
2007-01-09 14:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not "running out of time" until you turn 30, so relax already. No matter what anyone else says, high school (besides your grades) has practically no impact on the rest of your life. Nobody at college cares who you went to prom with, who you kissed under the bleachers at the homecoming football game, or how awesome the inside of your locker looked. Everyone starting college is basically just like you are; you're all scared and kind of alone and looking for friendly faces. I had very few friends in high school; I didn't have people stay over at my house and I didn't have many boyfriends, but now I'm a sophomore in college, I have a large group of friends who are intelligent and interesting and who I love spending time with, and a boyfriend who's the best thing that ever came into my life. P.S. He was 22 when we started dating, and I'm his first girlfriend, so don't worry about that, either!
2007-01-09 14:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high school is great practice for real life. if you aren't that popular in high school that is ok because that can be a really dificult place to fit into, but it is the first real socialization you have as a young adult and without practicing you'll be in trouble in your future. learn what doesn't work in a social situation while you're young so that in university where more people share your same interests, you'll know how to get along and make friends.
the girlfriend thing and the kissing isn't a problem. 15 is not so old that you can't still find a girlfriend. it is nice to get the first one out of the way while everyone is new at dating and still awkward rather than be the one that doesn't know what to do later in life.
2007-01-09 14:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by summer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chill dude, you're 15! Your popularity in high school has no effect on your future! The popular jock who flunks all of his classes is going to end up a lot worse off than you, who works hard. A girl would much rather be with a guy who is successful than a homeless bum (duh) so keep doing what you're doing. High school is like a world of it's own, and when you're out everything is different, so yes I think it's very possible to have lots of friends in uni or work even if you weren't popular in high school. FYI You are not 'running out of time', you're just getting started. Wait for the right girl to come along, it's not about who gets laid first!
Popular kids are mean. Work hard, do well, and come back successful and happy with a gorgeous girl on your arm at the 10 year reunion. =) I have faith in you.
2007-01-09 14:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by L ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while being popular can seem very desireable
it does take awy from the future in temrs of school and career focus
thery may get all the girls now
let them
down the line in time
they be the losers with a service job becuase they got some girl pregnant
and never reached their full potential
and made a career
so don't assume that they will make it to college
most won't
it's the quiet studious ones who make it to college
get the careers
and along the way become self concious of who they are and what value they are to society ( and women )
don't even THINK about getting a GF until you are way late in life
like 25
by that time you are ahead ( in life ) of everyone else
and well on your way in temrs of career
life is not a popularity contest
only 3% of the population plans for the future
the rest just party and play
and later pay for it in life with lower acheivements
BTW high school teaches you nothing
you evetually learn that all the posturing in high school is just that
posturing for popularity
it does not translate for any life lesson later in life
Universities at time can be very high school like with all the antics
but then you realize the reality of college and what they do does not affect or impact your future and that YOU make you OWN FORTUNE
2007-01-09 14:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you get along with people & there is nothing wrong with being the quiet type. Why would someone think you're a loser? You shouldn't worry about what others think, if someone doesn't accept you for who you are, then that is their loss. Life is full of surprises and things happen with time. You are still young and have many experiences ahead of you as you go through life. Enjoy your youth so that when you look back when you are older, you can pass on your experiences to younger people to help them realize that whatever struggles they may have, they will get through it. Try not to let peer pressure get to you at your age, do what you feel is right. Good Luck!!
2007-01-09 14:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by Malaya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not running out of time for anything, unless of course you have some medical problem...
In the real world high school doesn't make a difference if you were the football hero or the nerd. It is what you do with your life beyond high school.
Many of your more popular class mates will find this out when they graduate. The girls who are young and pretty will have babies and put on weight. The guys will get bellies and have normal jobs and have stress lines like everyone else. Picture this as you are sitting in class, bored one day. Do not explain to those around you why you are laughing or smiling.....
Your world is high school right now. This is not the real world....
2007-01-09 14:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look popularity doesn't matter whatsoever. whoever made it up has to be the stupidest person to ever live. all it does is divide a school into 2 parts and i hate it. it doesn't matter how popular you are because the fact is God doesn't care all he cares is that you believe that he died on the cross for our sins and believe he was the messiah because he doesn't care if you were popular in high school.
now that i'm done with my philosophy i'll give you an answer to your problem. just go with the flow. if you see a nice girl talk to her and get to know her to see if she's who you want to be with and then ask her out what have you got to lose? absolutely nothing. God doesn't care if you got rejected in high school. what you do is be patient and don't let anything bother you. if you want more friends all you have to do is talk a little more. it's good to do your school work but you gotta balance it with the rest of your life. don't let either side take over. after a while of talkingto people you will realize who your friends are and who isn't. make sure you don't let popularity influence your decisions on who to talk to and who are your friend....hope thus helped
2007-01-09 14:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lone Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not running out of time!! You are only 15!!
Everyone makes a big deal about high school and being popular but trust me once you get to college, it doesn't matter, colleges usually have so many students that you can't keep track of who is "cool"
As far as not having a girlfriend or kiss yet, its not the end of the world...it will happen when it happens!!
But good luck!
2007-01-09 14:23:41 · answer #11 · answered by nicki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋