I really love my guy, but he has never told me that he loves me. When i ask him how he feels...i always get the same answer..."i care for you deeply". But we are planning a wedding soon and we currently live together.
I have been rethinking this whole thing...but i don't know how to tell him, because i am afraid that i will hurt his feelings...
2007-01-09 14:12:26 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Stop!!!Don't spend another penny! You two have some serious issues, based on what you are disclosing. How does he treat you? Does he show you acts of love instead of speaking it verbally? Did he come from a family that does not know how to express themselves? Did you tell him that you want to hear those words from time to time? If so, did he still not respond? If you're scared to talk to him, use this same email that you sent to us & put it in a letter. However, you two definitely have to hash this out. Love & caring deeply are 2 very different levels of emotions that can make or break your relationship/marriage. Don't forget to go into prayer or meditation about this to make sure this is who you truly want to spend the rest of your life with. On the flip side of things, is he gay or does he have another woman on the side?
2007-01-09 15:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by Miss T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is your Fiancee' and he's never told you that he loves you? There's something wrong here.
If you are having second thoughts, you need to discuss this with him and tell him why. Explain that you are concerned about his true emotions towards you. On the other hand; actions speak louder than words. If he treats you as he loves you and you have the overwhelming feeling that you could never live without each other, then perhaps he has difficulty expressing how he feels about you verbally.
Make absolutely sure before you take the plunge. There's nothing wrong with postponing a wedding until you are 100% sure.
2007-01-09 22:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by Nunya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are having second thoughts or feeling uncomfortable Please .... sit down with him and have a talk . Marriage is for life and you want to make sure you are both on the same page about your feelings for each other.
Communication is very important in a relationship and you need to be able to talk with your partner about everything. If you can't do it now what are you going to do when you marry?
He may be hurt for a little while but it is better then making a mistake for life.
I wish you both happiness
2007-01-09 22:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by That_ blue_ eyed_ Irish_ lass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only advice is, do it soon. Don't put a bunch of non-refundable deposits down if you are feeling this way. Any feelings you have as a unmarried couple are just going to be magnified when you are married. You have to decide what is worse: Hurt feelings now or divorce and unhappiness later? Yes it's going to hurt like hell for both of you I'm sure when you tell him, but it's best to get it over with. We only get one life to live honey....try to live it as happily as you can with people you love and who love you back equally. Good luck to you girl!
2007-01-09 22:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, tell him you love him but you're having second thoughts about marriage and then move out. If he seriously cares for you, he will come around. Girls stop making it so easy for these guys to take advantage of you. Better to hurt his feelings now than to marry him, have his children, and then have YOUR feelings hurt when you discover he's loving on someone else.
2007-01-09 22:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jan J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UM, hellooo your getting married, you need to ask him how he really feels. Ask him up front, would you want to spend the rest of your life not knowing what he's thinking. Caring deeply and loving is totally different. If your getting married with him, you should also feel comfortable, talking to him. good luck, do it quick or else you will live your life second guessing yourself
2007-01-09 22:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by NS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to make sure of his feelings. It is very wise to be dealing with this NOW rather than after the wedding. I am impressed, some woman would be so excited by the wedding they would ignore this.
God bless.
2007-01-09 22:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some time life sucks....no one will argue that point....but you need to marry someone that really LOVES you...if he can't say that all on his own...it isn't the real deal....Why? Why? Why?...are woman so ready to sacrifice theirself just because they don't want to hurt someone....you need to let that go....he will survive....hurt yes....but he WILL survive....You deserve someone that would yell I love you from the roof tops!....Love yourself enough to do what is best for you. Do you want to have to ask if you are loved for the rest of your life?...You deserve to KNOW that you are loved.
2007-01-09 22:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You marry somebody because you love them...and if he won't tell you that he loves you...then does he?Not trying to be to mean but I think you're right in needing to talk to him.Soon.Just sit him down and flat out tell him.
2007-01-09 22:22:23 · answer #9 · answered by rebel_gurl002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him. have you ever told him what you just asked us? and you never know, the truth may or may not prevent you or him from making a big mistake. it also might lead to a nice long life together.
2007-01-09 22:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by bones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋