My ex-girlfriend gave our child up for adoption in a different country without my consent.(she was 8 mths pregnant when she left, so I never got the chance to even see her born) I am constantly thinking about this child of mine somewhere out there and have thought about getting a tattoo to memorialize my daughter. I have gotten some info on my child including name and birth date. I know the child was mine, I know she never cheated on me-so don't hit me with those comments. My question is- would it be a dumb idea to get a tattoo to... kind of symbolize this loss- a reminder I guess??
2007-01-09 14:08:19 · 13 answers · asked by trusted 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
it would be a great idea. obviously this is something that has deeply affected your life and anything that could help the healing process or just help you to always remember would be wonderful.
2007-01-09 23:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's terrible, I'm sorry....I didn't realize that she was able to do that. I would think that you would have the right to object and fight it because u are the biological dad. Might want to check on the rights that you have as the biological father.
I don't think that this is a dumb idea at all.
re: tattoo ideas, maybe something involving a crying angel....take a look at these....my tattoo artist designed them for other people and I believe that most of them symbolize the loss of a loved one. If you do want to get something like this, I recommend that you do ALOT of research on your artists because alot of people will say that they can do it and can't necessarily do it. All of these tattoos were custom made so you will not be able to get a replica but here are some ideas as to what people can do.
http://www.daweitattoo.com/
look at the backpiece section...
best of luck to you....
2007-01-09 22:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by kristina807 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since you have info, name and birthdate.. it would be a cool idea to see if you can get a picture of the child. As an infant would be nice.. then get a portrait tattoo with the birthdate.
you sound caring a all that about the situation, I think that maybe you should try and pursue ( gently) the situation and see if you can maybe get to know your child a little better, but remember that biologically she is yours, but legally she belongs to someone else.
2007-01-13 20:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are put in this painful situation. Tattoos are a form of remembrance. Most people get them to signify something in their lives that they feel very strongly about. I think its a wonderful tribute to your love and devotion to your daughter. Although you may not have seen your daughter, she is in your heart and that love transcends all physical constraints.
Get the tattoo... telling everyone about what it means is a great way of healing.
Best of Luck
2007-01-09 22:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by thebe_gl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a dumb idea at all. It is true that you might not ever get to meet this child, but you know that she is out there, and that she is a part of you. Kudos to you - I hope it all goes well.
2007-01-09 22:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jewelz_4_U 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to have a memory of your child.Maybe her name & birthdate.I know a guy that gets his kids names/dates near his ankle.Good for you for wanting to remember your child!
2007-01-09 23:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your baby problem. This answer is for ALL dads out there who don't see there children enough (out of choice or otherwise): GETTING YOUR BABY IMMORTALIZED IN INK IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR BEING A GOOD DAD! No child is going to accept a tattoo in place of support and love, and no family court judge is going to wave your parental duty when they see that "symbol of love" which you choose to buy instead of diapers or formula. I understand your situation is a bit different, but the principle remains the same.
2007-01-09 23:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Trish D 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you should, it's not dumb to want to remember your child at all.
It was horrible what your ex-girlfriend did, if she didn't want the child, the least she could've done was ask if you wanted it first before doing something so drastic.
2007-01-09 22:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats a really beautiful idea and this woman was a little heartless, you're a good father.
2007-01-09 22:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by Miss S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you thought it was dumb you wouldn't have asked in the first place...do what makes YOU feel better about things you could not control....
I'm very sorry she did this to you.... [[[ ]]]
2007-01-09 22:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by Chrys 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋