My boys are 6 and 10 and they are best friends. But, they fight constantly. Everyone tells me it's just brothers... but that doesn't make it easier for me to deal with. They are driving me crazy arguing over anything and everything. Help!
2007-01-09 13:54:26 · 12 answers · asked by jynx427 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you don't. that is just a part of sibling life- they are always going to argue, at least until they get older and grow out of it. for the meantime, try seperating them when they start a fight- one goes to his room, the other to his room. make them stay there for a length of time and only let them come out if they both agree to play nice. remove toys and such from thier rooms or this won't have any effect trust me. they'll start to hate being sent to their rooms and they will start to fight quietly to avoid being sent away or stop altogether. best wishes!!
2007-01-09 14:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fight with my brother but we have a large age difference, 8 years to be exact and it's gotten better over the years. Sometimes kids don't get along there's really nothing you can do except make them communicate in a polite manner and make sure there is no hitting going on because that makes it worse. It should get better as they get older.
2007-01-09 22:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's extremely difficult at times to figure out who is right or who started it. I focus on what behavior I expect from each of them. "It doesn't matter what your brother did, you are not allowed to _____."
I also am big on having each brother tell the other how they feel about what's happened. This has developed their empathy for one another, or works because of their empathy for one another, but i find it much more effective for them to tell each other than for them to tell me.
If you hold them individually accountable for their behavior, if you are giving both of them lots of attention and treat each fairly and with age appropriate measures, giving them good structured time and lots of free time, if you severely limit tv and computer games and never allow nintendo type games in your house, then you're probably doing all you can.
2007-01-09 22:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
asian style punishment is a
push up ..but only the stance they have to stay like that for 10 minutes then they usually get a spanking which i dont believe in of course
my father put me in time out and put hot sauce in my mouth which stop me and my sister from ever smacking , punching and fighting each other in elementry school
and now we get along fine
^_^:: sounds insane but try it
2007-01-09 22:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a stool and find a very private corner of your house to put it in.
When you hear the situation, you decide who's done wrong and put the culptri in time out for 15 minutes on that stool, and ignore them completely. crying snivelling and shouting out merits them nothing.
After they realize that you will not be the monkey in the middle, they start learning to get along.
It's tough, Mom, but it works!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2007-01-09 22:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by imask8r 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a thing called "sibling rivalry". Every sibling goes through it. I am so close to my sister, but with her being the oldest, she makes me SO angry sometimes. It gets out of hand. We yell, and scream at eachother. It's funny at times, but it happens. You can't really stop it.
2007-01-09 22:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep..it's just a sibling thing. I'm sure you didn't get along great with yours either that age. Or are you an only child? In that case; I'm sure you knew sisters around that age who didn't always get along :-)
2007-01-09 22:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep them away from each other
i imagine they come home froms school and do nothing but bicker
have them each join a seperate sport or after school activity....TWO DIFFERENT ACTIVITIES
so that they burn energy individually and not with each other
it works like a charm
2007-01-09 22:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by xenon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"There is no life without war."
There really is nothing you can do, we all argue, can't help it. It's the human nature, and nothing is going to change our human nature.
2007-01-10 00:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
plexiglass in the backseat between them! jk!
yeah mine are 15 and 13 and still bicker but are finally getting better. just stay firm that badmouthing and hitting are NOT ok.
2007-01-09 21:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋