My boyfriend of 6 month has 4 children with his ex wife. He has custody of two of them and she has the other 2. They have been divorced for 8 years.She brought them up for a week visit. They live 8 hours away. Once she got there she told him the kids could only stay a few days. Instead of driving home and back and home again she stayed at his house! He called and let me know what was going on and the sleeping arangements. Because of work I was not able to be there often but we spoke on the phone alot. I have no reason not to trust him but all of my friends say I am crazy to cont. with him. He said if he wanted her back he could have had her before now. He said the other kids wanted to see there mom and he didn't think it was wrong. I trust him. Am I a fool?
2007-01-09 13:53:08 · 13 answers · asked by Jul L S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They have kids.
she will be a part of the picture always.
If you trust him do not worry about it.
2007-01-09 13:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know if I was her then I wouldn't want to drive 16 hours home and back. Especially if the ex and your boyfriend are still friends and don't hate each other's guts. And your boyfriend called and told you! He sounds very honest. But you know him better than any of us, so only you can really make the best decision. Mine is just a little advice.
2007-01-09 13:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're a fool for continuing to trust him if your gut instinct is telling you it's okay. But if it was my man, I'd tell him that I thought her staying there was inappropriate and unacceptable in the future if he wants a future with me. She should make arrangements to stay in a hotel from now on if she doesn't want to drive back, or they can make different driving arrangements.
2007-01-09 14:02:16 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the mother of the 4 children, i wouldn't worry about it, she will always be there to visit and everything, always in the picture. so u should trust him, if he has been divorced for that long then i dont think that anything will happen between them. so trust him.
2007-01-09 14:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Deathkiss911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok what u ought to appreciate isn't any remember what a dude is often gonna dude.. your boyfriend is being stupid spending the nighttime over there yet whilst he stated he didnt do something and you have confidence him he nonetheless maximum probable had some form of connection along with his ex yet he did no longer do something to cheat on you they probable purely touched and felt the relationship.. all u ought to do is remember on your have confidence and purely verify that u dont be oblivious to whats on your face. you ought to pay interest, my suggestion is to allow come back to you in view which you dont opt to push him way on mistrust. notwithstanding if u nonetheless sense that he's doing something at the back of your returned purely for right here few days do marvel inspections like random coming over or random telephone calls till you could have confidence him returned.
2016-10-06 22:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he took the time to call you and tell you what was going on instead of keeping it from you, speaks volumes about how he feels about you. I'd say let it go for now until something else comes up to make you suspect him.
2007-01-09 14:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by armywifehaney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know your boyfriend I have no opinions as to whether YOU are a fool or not. That is up to YOU to decide, DO you trust him or don't you?
2007-01-09 13:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not a fool.I salute you for giving that kind of understanding.He is so open to you to tell everythting that is happening now,you should trust him and give him back what he deserve.Dont listen to what others say its you and him that know each other.Thats the time you may test him how he truly love you.
2007-01-09 14:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not a fool. thye only reason i would trust him is b/c he had called you and let you know what was going on
2007-01-09 13:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds trustworthy to me, if you need more go over to his place and introduce yourself, just so his ex knows he actually has a real gf
2007-01-09 14:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋