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Question

I've fallen in love with a friend who has a girlfriend. I never tried to break them up, but after a couple of months of spending alot of time with him. We began to develop a good friendship and then started flirting alot. I spoke to him about it when i started to really care for him, i explained that i felt it was not right and that we should stop and that i had feelings for him. It did stop, then it went back to how it was with the flirting, this has happened a few times. We never talk about what is really going on, so i never really know how he feels. I dont know what to do anymore, i care more for him each time i see him. How can i get him to tell me exactly how he feels without confronting him about it. What can i do to make him make a decision and stick to it? Any advice? P.s- sorry for re posting

Answer 1

Hi hon...

My policy is that if someone I'm interested in has a girlfriend, that person is not an option for me...no exceptions. I don't think that getting involved with someone who's already involved with someone else is ever a good idea....it can only end badly.

You did the right thing by telling this guy how you felt, but I'm shocked that he didn't respond by telling you how HE felt. Unfortunately, I think that his lack of a response is all the answer you need....he clearly doesn't have enough of a backbone to either (a) break up with his girlfriend if he doesn't care about her, or (b) stop flirting with you if he doesn't care about you.

My honest opinion is that if you leave this situation as it is right now, you're letting this guy have it both ways....he has his girlfriend AND you to flirt with. No wonder he's not anxious to change the status quo!

I think that you have two choices here:
(1) You can confront him again, confirm the fact that you have feelings for him, and ask him directly if he has feelings for you. This might be the most direct route to find out his feelings, but I really wouldn't recommend it because you'd run the risk of breaking up his current relationship.
(2) You can give him and his girlfriend space for now. I feel like this is the best idea, even though it's also the hardest one.

P.S. If this guy is flirting with you while he has a girlfriend, what does that say about what he'd do if he dated you? Please think about that, hon.

Best of luck to you....

Answer 2

You are going to get hurt to keep a friendship with him going you need to know his feelings either way. You should do something to find out believe you me I have been through this and four years of flirting that turns into nothing is no fun !!! Love is about seizing the day sooner rather then later...

Answer 3

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