A friend of mine and his girlfriend had a terrible experience. A year ago she was involved in a horrific road traffic accident where she has catapulted through the wind screen. No physical injuries sustained but she has lost her memories and basically they are starting their relationship from scratch. There is one problem though. Her personality has changed and he can’t find the person he once loved. He feels very guilty for leaving her.
What would you do?
2007-01-09 13:32:42 · 18 answers · asked by toietmoi 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My friend's Mother was in a traffic accident which robbed her of her short term memory. Her personality also started to change and over time she forgot people completely. She is now in a nursing home and it is hard on her family to visit her. I couldn't imagine how hard it is for your friend but whether or not he stays with his girlfriend is a decision that only he can make. I wish your friend the best of luck. The best way to help him is to support whatever decision he does make and be a good listener if/when he needs to talk.
2007-01-09 13:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times that happens with people that have been through a terrible ordil as that, i guess if he doesnt know her anymore maybe and it sounds like maybe she forgot what he was like before her accident maybe they should talk and go thier seperate ways i know i had a friend that was on her way to an ambulance call she road the ambulance and anyway she hit a sheet of ice and sustained some head injuries when she hit the tree and shes not been qiute the same ever since it doesnt matter to me i will always love her but then im not married to her or any thing like that. i dont think your friend should feel guilty maybe it wouldnt of worked out in the first place no one could know that im just saying if shes not the person he fell inlove with and he doesnt really know her now its better not to pretend let her go and find someone else .
2007-01-09 13:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do to the accident she changed, where as he didn't. He can't find the love he once had for this person cause she changed. I say if you friend can't take anymore just get out of the relationship. Why does he feel guilty ?? I mean she changed and that lead to the change in your love for her. It's best if you moved on and went your seperate ways.
2007-01-09 13:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. if she loves him
must leave him
for a little time a while..
In that time.. she is going to become in a very wonderful, pretty.. sexy new woman.. charming and more intelligent...
He is going to look at her again..
He will wants to go back with her
And now..
there are 2 ways
If she still love him as the way he is and was with her at the moment after the accident .. and at the moment he wanted to leave her.. of course...
Maybe she will come back to him..
And for the other way
If she is a really new intelligent sexy woman by that time..
She must leaving him.
As of course
I will leave him.
And after you've read all this you want to be the new boyfriend for this beautiful , nice and intelligent , sexy and sweet woman.
You should do it because you look more concerned by her feelings than he.
And if you are the actual boyfriend and you are asking this loves question
It's because you love her
2007-01-09 13:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by sugarsugar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His Heart should tell him. he needs to put the regret aside and think whats best for him and her. find the girl he loved if he is lost and can find what he was looking for then maybe that car accident happened for a reason and there is someone else out there who's meant to be with her but if he really loves her I'd give it a try if i were him. don't have high expectations because it may end with disappointment. He may never find that girl he loved again.
2007-01-09 13:48:35 · answer #5 · answered by . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not feel guilty if he chooses to leave. It will not hurt her because she does not remember what they had together, because she has lost her memory. You can't hurt over something that you never knew you had. The only person that is going to hurt is him because he does still have them. He should probably continue to just be friends with her incase her memory does come back for some miracle reason.
2007-01-09 13:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by grizzly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a different peson then maybe she is feeling the same way the he feels. He needs to determine that first, but either way, he can't stay with someone that he doesn't love anymore. Life is too short to not be happy and spend your life trying to make someone else happy. That would be cheating both of them in the end.
2007-01-09 13:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh thats a tricky one. In that case i would probably have to just be friends with the girl because i would have been dating that girl for who she used to be. It wouldnt be because she got in an sccident or she lost her memory i just wouldnt want to go out with someone who is totally different then who she was before the accident. I hope this might help your friend out a bit. =]
2007-01-09 13:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by mr.shanee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boss actually went through this same situation. Her pastor at the time advised her to leave, because it was not the man she married and you never know with brain damage what else will happen later. her husband became very aggressive and violent so it wasn't safe.
I would say that they aren't married, so if he is unhappy and unsatisfied than he should leave. he would be pulling her along and not being honest if he did not
2007-01-09 13:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Murphy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tragic story and unfortunately I would have to say that if the relationship doesn't evolve naturally then just be friends.
2007-01-09 13:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋