how do u stop yourself from feeling hurt by other people's criticisms and insults?

Question

when they insult u, put u down, make fun of u,
how do u cope with the hurt?
but not scream back.

Answer 1

Remember the Golden Rule... Do unto others as you would have them to do unto you. It's hard to live by but they will get tired of you being nice to them. It will all come back to them one day.

Answer 2

I've learn that there three ways to respond to a situation. You can fight , run or not respond. In your situation I would not respond. Depending on your age and whether or not they are bullying you ,then not responding made not be the answer for you. If they are bully you everyday in school then you might want to talk to school authorities. A lot of schools have bullying policies since the columbine incident and they will help you out here. You might lose some friends over this but at least the bullying will stop. My general answer is to rise above this and don't respond unless they are bullying you constantly and are acting out physically against you. If you are in middle school, (happened to me then) , I would if I was you to rise above this and don't let this shape who I am and what I think about. Just concentrate on something you are good at to help keep your mind off the insults. If you are the nerd type, then excel in the area of your expertise and realize the richest man in the world is a nerd. Believe it or not this things usually past by the time you are in high school or college.
If you are grade school-er or middle school, then perhaps you ought to talk to you teacher/ authorities about if it something you just can't cope with any longer. If this is not a school situation, then just avoid the people who insult you.

Answer 3

You just have to remember that you are better than them because you do fall to their level. A lot of people that do things like that are not sure of themselves and by making other people feel bad they are making themselves feel better. Many bullies themselves have been bullied. There is a term that I learned in phychology called mirror imaging where people see the traits in other people that they themselves have and hate. Since they see those traits as the ones they hate in themselves they hate the person based on that. People that insult you, put you down and make fun of you are not the people you want to be around anyways. Never react to what they are doing because it will only make it worse. If you ignore them sooner or latter they will ignore you. And always remember that Karma is real one day it will get them.

Answer 4

Finally! A question that both makes sense and is easy to answer! How do you stop yourself from feeling hurt by criticisms and insults?

Answer: Grow up and be a man.

That means, evaluate the situation in question, make a decision as to how to resolve the situation (whether it is walk away or fire away, or some other solution inbetween...) and act on that decision.

Good luck

Answer 5

This is true: poeple put you down to feel better about themselves, you make them feel inadequate or they envy you in some way, my freinds used to call me dumbc*nt but i was better than all of them academically, and later in life i have become more successful, i just seemed dumb to them because i wasnt listeneing to their immature crap i was daydreaming about much more complex thoughts that they could never of had an intelligent conversation about, they also said i was an ugly pr*ck wich did effect my self esteem but ive since foun out that all the girls thought i was cute, i just didnt know it, and this prevented me appraoching them so my 'freinds' always ended up with them. I hope this helps you

Answer 6

If they say hurtful things about you or to you they are just losers they have no control over themselfs and they wont stop. Just because they say that stuff doesn't mean you have to feel that way about yourself. Be strong and eventurally they'll vanish and you wont need to worry about them.

Answer 7

by not caring

the school banned backpacks for whatever reason

(im pretty popular, have alot of friends, and its a small school so everyone knows everyone)

so i brought a fanny pack to school to keep my junk in, i was laughed at but i honestly, didnt care, and if i did, it was very little

but of course, im self absorbed so i hardly care about other peoples negativity towards me

Answer 8

by knowing that the reason they do that is because of there own insicurity. if they felt good enough about themselves they wouldnt feel the need to put down others to makes themselves look better.

Answer 9

Sometimes, saying nothing says it all. Rise above it all and hold your chin up high. Don't let what other people do or say form the person you are. Good Luck!

Answer 10

i am asian myself, and i have to cope with these things everyday. joke with them whenever they make a racist comment (even though this might encourage them) and act like it doesn't bother you, they will stop caring, but it will still go on, but now less.