Well its like this my life has changed a lot since my weight gain.I used to have girls fighing over me now I cant get one girl to go out with me.I dont understand because im the same person with more weight on me.I need advice from somebody on what to do.
2007-01-09 13:12:48 · 33 answers · asked by mrmetoo8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it bothers you, go to a gym and DO SOMETHING about it. Don't sit on a chair by a computer asking what to do - get out and exercise.
2007-01-09 13:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You probably have lost your confidence since your weight gain. Lack of confidence is probably the #1 reason guys don't get girls. You say you are the same person, so that's a good sign. Try to do the same things you did before and ACT the same. Unconsciously you are acting as if you are not worthy of attention, which is what is driving girls away. I'm sure you are working on losing the weight. Keep going, but don't obsess. Celebrate small victories and reward yourself with things that make you feel good about yourself. (new shirt, cologne, whatever.)
Relax, girls don't care about a guys weight as much as guys do.
2007-01-09 13:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If you are over weight it usually is a sign to girl that you don't really care about taking care of your self. It is hard work to keep a good weight and to loose it is even harder. If you really want the girls show that you are able to work for something you want by shedding some of those unwanted pounds. Yes. You are still the same on the inside and it is shameful that we judge by the way someone looks but it is just the way we are, our standards are very high.
Good Luck and hope you find someone.
2007-01-09 13:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bridget 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend who is overweight too but he have plenty of chicks. I don't know how he made it happen but I guess it has something to do with how he handles himself. He still looks good even if he is fat and he doesn't see himself less with his body structure. And, he is so gentle and friendly to the girls. Maybe that's the reason why many liked him.
And here is something that you should learn about girls. Not all of us would only look to the physical appearance of a guy. There are still many who'd prefer attitude over physique. So go out and find one.
2007-01-09 13:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sweat it. if a girl doesnt want to go out with u because ur overweight, then she wouldnt have been a good girlfriend in the first place. a non shallow girl will come into ur life at some point. unfortunately, ur gonna be faced with a lot of very shallow cunt5 along the way. but dont let them get to you. any girl that thinks shes too good for u because ur a little chunky is a ***** and means that UR too good for them. good luck!!
2007-01-09 13:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of girls care about looks, shallow yes. Sadly the advice I have to give is lose weight, or wait for a girl who cares about who you are as a person either than what you look like.
2007-01-09 13:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by beautifulxperfectxlie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously from the responses here, most people are shallow asses. Occasionally you will find a girl that is high quality that will date a bigger guy, but not usually. I used to be overweight and it was much more difficult to get girls. Just be charming.
2007-01-09 13:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Rob D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all looks are NOT everything! If you think that, then you are just as shallow as the girls who used to flirt with you. And why do they have to come to you? Go flirt with them first!
Second, if it's bothering you that much then do something about it. I know that it's hard and takes time, but you need to focus on you and your health.
Finally, you need to be happy with yourself as you are before you can make someone else happy. Good luck!
2007-01-09 13:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by BJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
work out, make an attempt to be healthy, let her into ur life first as a friend, make sure she's a good girl, there are plenty of girls who go after heavier guys, but their the quality girls, just live your life the best you can, and she'll show up
2007-01-09 13:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont worry about it, you had confidence before, and even if you dont have it now, pretend, and act like ur the same skinny kid you used to be, because you are! even if most girls dont give you a second chance, dont lose your patience, they just werent for you. wait til you find a girl that sees you through your insecurities, and im pretty sure youll have found the right girl to be with. good luck!
2007-01-09 13:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by lizzaayy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A girl will find you. You attract attention based on how you present yourself. Honestly, you won't notice the inside of a person until the talking starts.
2007-01-09 13:17:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋