I have been in love with this girl since September. She and her boyfriend of 2 months (who I don't approve of, because he's 4 years older than she) were passing by when she came up to me (in front of him) and said,
"Hey, How's it going? We never talk."
Prevously, she had asked me whether her boyfriend had told me to stay the f'k away from her, and I took that to mean that she wanted me to do so. I hadn't talked to her for about two months.
So, when she said "We never talk," I said,
"There's a good reason."
I thought this was a pretty clever thing to say at first, considering how much she and her man had cold-shouldered me of late, but now I'm not so sure.
2007-01-09 13:04:45 · 17 answers · asked by printsmart102 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does this girl know that you are in love with her? You should really try to talk to here when she is alone and explain that you took it to mean that she didn't want you to talk to her anymore. I know it's very hard to be in love with someone who is with someone else, but if she is a true friend she will understand. But try not to be bitter, you have to think that if you can't have her as a girlfriend then you should be there as a friend, and if you can't do that, then it's better to cut off all ties. Good luck!!!
2007-01-09 13:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by tamilye 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that was such a bad thing to say, given the circumstances...maybe it'll make her think about what the reason (that you don't talk) could be.
Where I DO think you went wrong was when you misinterpreted her question about her boyfriend asking you to stay away. She asked you if HE asked you to stay away....she didn't actually ask you to stay away herself! Given that your response to her question was to stop talking to her for two months, I don't blame her for being confused & wondering why you two never talk!
I think that what you need to figure out is if it's better to have this girl in your life as a friend (which I think you can still do) or not have her in your life at all. It might be difficult to be her friend if you're in love with her & she has a boyfriend, but it sounds as though she's at least somewhat interested in at least talking to you on a semi-regular basis. If you're interested in being her friend, you need to be a friend to her....and this means (a) not giving her the cold shoulder and (b) respecting the fact that she has a boyfriend & treating him with civility, even though you don't approve of him.
To be honest with you, though, this girl doesn't sound like she's exactly a wonderful person to have in your life. (Disclaimer: I totally don't know this girl, so this judgment could be off...I'm just basing my opinion on what you wrote in your post!) The best thing for you to do right now might just be to back off, give her and her boyfriend some space, and let things happen as they may. Who knows? She and her boyfriend might break up in the near future, and that would leave you in a better position to tell her about your feelings.
Best of luck to you! :)
2007-01-09 13:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! She is an idiot for asking you when she knows damn well why you don't talk anymore. She just did it to make a mini scene between the three of you. Plus so her man could get confirmation that you are staying away from her.
2007-01-09 13:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by besitos2610 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might have came off wrong. Maybe she's thinking of dumping the other guy, unless you feel she was being sarcastic with you. She might have asked you because she really wanted to know if he was saying things to you. If she knows you don't like her boyfriend, she might be trying to show him that he is not going to control her.
2007-01-09 13:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that was a GREAT answer, but it wasn't the worst. It may spark her curiousity, but if u like her, let her know and tell her why u haven't been talking to her. It won't hurt to talk to her( unless she has a violent boyfriend).
2007-01-09 13:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by dcbossygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probalby find a way to explain what you meant. Otherwise she'll think the "good reason" was that she had bad breath or that you didn't like her anymore.
2007-01-09 13:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by crank726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. She isn't ur type. She probably likes u but doesnt wanna break up wif her bf. She is in a difficult situation. And wut u sed was clvr. Leave it alone wen she passes by, dunt care. She is taken, let her go. She seems kinda moody since she says 2 different things. Let her go mann, there are others...trust me! if u go wif her, you will regret it!
2007-01-09 13:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by GT Star_Gyal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. It sounds like she was mean to you. Some people are clueless. I really hope you see that and find someone nicer to love.
2007-01-09 13:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wit is a little too sharp, but considering the circumstances, it could have been worse.
Being too friendly would have caused trouble for all of you.
2007-01-09 13:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might've.
It also depends on the tone of your voice.
Did your voice sound cold?
If it did, then you should clear things up with her.
2007-01-09 13:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by T M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋