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I get extremely annoyed when my parents want to get into my "personal" afairs...as a result I tell them very little (i.e i'm very vague with my answers). My brother on the other hand tells them everything, it gets so annoying because my parents tend to be controlling and tell him what he should and shouldn't do when it comes to his friends and'or girlfriend. We are adult children (both in our late 20's) and i feel like a little child when they act this way. Does anyone elses parents act in this controlling, overbearing way, and who's also in their late 20's?

2007-01-09 13:01:25 · 11 answers · asked by califonialove 1 in Family & Relationships Family

11 answers

Parents will never stop being parents. I am a mother to 3 and can understand that.. However, it is up to you to talk to them and tell them you don't like their overly personal questions. As you are an adult, you shouldn't be required to tell your parents EVERYTHING.... and they should understand and respect that. So tell them it makes you uncomfortable and hopefully they will stop. If they don't then keep doing what you are doing and be vague and then maybe they will get the hint then.

Good luck :)

2007-01-09 13:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0 1

When you are a child, your parents have not only the right, but the obligation to be very involved in your life.

That changes when you are an adult and living on your own. And the second part is as important as the first because you aren't really an adult when you are living with your parents, are you?

As an adult, you have the right to take advice, or not, from whomever you choose. If your parents are meddling and you don't appreciate it, politely tell them so. If your brother wants to do so, that's his right and he's no more obligated to worry about whether it annoys you than you are obligated to listen to your parents.

But always remember, you are family and you must treat each other accordingly.

2007-01-09 13:09:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yup-that pretty much sums up parents. That is their job. But if you are in your late 20's then it is time to stand up to them and say something like, "While I appreciate that you CARE about me and my welfare, I am old enough to take care of myself. If I really need advice or help, I will come to you first with my problem!" If they are upset, give it time. They will understand sooner or later. If you don't say anything, they'll assume they can keep doing it. Now, parents meddling in a their children's business when they are under 18 is a whole different story, but it is time that they pull the plug on you and let you make your own decisions.

2007-01-09 13:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by simcrazee21 2 · 1 0

'That is parents for ya, I am 27 with 5 kids and a great hubby I just happen to live right next door to them 2 everytime someone pulls in the drive my mom is on the phone wanting to know whos over. My hubby has been late to work 1 time in 3 months and now she wants to call every morning to get him up cause she thinks he is irresponsiable, I feel you on that part, Just remind her as i do my own mom that I am a adult now i do what i want and when i need your advice or guidience i will ask you..

2007-01-09 13:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Sherman 2 · 0 0

Do you still live with them? Sounds like it. Try moving out and they wouldn't be in your business. If you already have moved out then it should be less of a problem. Parents just want to help their kids and guide them based on their own experience with life and believe it or not, they may have some helpful answers. Try asking for advice about "little things" that don't really matter like cooking tips or best buys at the grocery stores, clothes, etc. That't how I used to keep my mom busy and out of my "business" Hope it helps.

2007-01-09 13:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm 35 and my mom still gets in my personal life. I have 2 teenage boys and I will always want to know what's going on. It's up to them on how much they tell me after adulthood. My brother is like you. He tells them very little. Me, I tend to vent to my mom and she gives me her opinion whether it's asked for or not. As parents, that's our job. Don't take it wrong, we just care!

2007-01-09 13:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My parents tried. I refused to tell them anything. After while they gave up.

2007-01-09 13:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm in my late thirtys and my parents are great!...but as soon as my life hits a bump, they jump in!...I just let then know they have overstepped....and we move on!

Good Luck

2007-01-09 13:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0 0

parents will be parents. I butt in my kids life's too. If you are both living at home, they have every right to butt in and yous should pay board.

2007-01-09 13:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by snowwhite 2 · 0 1

thats what parents do, you can always tell them to mind their own business

2007-01-09 13:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 1 0

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