self harming what can I do?

Question

recently ive started self harming myself this is the first anyone knows, I want help on what i can do to stop, at the minute im stressed with exams and a whole bunch of other stuff like the fact I try my best with people I like both friends and ppl I like more than friends but I always end up getting hurt in the end, no one is ever going to like me back and i cant take it anymore. I cant sleep at all ive had about 4 hours sleep in the past few days and im from the UK and right now its the middle of the night, anyone got any advice?

Answer 1

what youre doing now is best. talk to someone. there must be someone you can trust and even if not, talking is best. it creates concern for you which will make you feel better and it helps you just to get your feelings out. keep a positive outlook. as cheesy as it is, "every cloud has a silver lining". dont allow yourself to look past the good. dont allow yourself to dominate your head with negative thoughts. you may feel like you want to think those things or there is no positive, but that's not realistic. beware not to sink into a state of self pity. find help. good start.

Answer 2

Take a deep breath. Try to calm down. Now. Think about the real, honest with yourself reasons why you are doing this. What is it that it is supposed to do for you? Being a reasonably bright kid, chances are you can find better ways to achieve those goals.

It is my strong impression that you are very young. Anyone who can say "no one is ever going to like me back" with a straight face is not only very young, but quite unrealistic. NO ONE? EVER? Come now; you know that is exaggerating. Granted you are feeling lousy right now; you probably also know this will pass if you let it.

Some one disappointed you; played you false; misled you as to their motives and intentions. OK. You know the old saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on ME.!" Learn from this about how to be cautious. Take your time getting to know people before you trust yourself to invest emotional energy in befriending them. It's not being paranoid; it's being realistic.

Face it: not everyone's motives and agendas are honorable. There are bad people out there, and there are careless and stupid people who hurt others without intending to. You need to learn Defense Against the Dark Arts: how to protect yourself from psychic vampires and users. How to hold your own identity and sense of self above what opinion others may have or the way they treat you.

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

Jesus Christ is the answer. He loves you and is waiting for you to give your life to him. Life can be hard and talking to people does help. Try going to a youth counselor at your area church. I've helped the kids in my church with this same problem and one thing I find is they cut themselves to release pain. This is not the answer.Self hurt never is. I also have found that those who do harm themselves often feel very ashamed. Ashamed because of who they are and even more ashamed after harming themselves. You are created by the most high God and He loves you just the way you are. Ask Jesus to come into your heart tonight. He will. He will also give you peace. Rest in Him. I'll be praying for you. Email me if you like. God bless

Answer 4

If these people don't like you because of who you are, you should seek those who do. If school is making you this stressed out, maybe it is not the right thing for you. You need to take care of yourself and realize that life is just a test. All you need to do to pass the test is believe in yourself and Him.

Answer 5

Swami Sukhabodhananda



One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 6

You are suffering from clinical depression... Do see your doctor ASAP! He may give you medications to relieve or cure your depression... You're just one of many people suffering from it. It's a curable disease... You will get better after a couple of weeks under medication...
For now, take a warm bath and drink warm milk after... This will help you relax and fall asleep... I'll be praying for you too... God Bless you...

Answer 7

dont think like that. think about all the good stuff you have in life. trust me if people start treating you bad then its their loss. ill bet you will eventually find a friend out there who will be more than a friend. that person will be youre best friend. just remember that you are not alone you have family looking after youre best intrests!!

Answer 8

i feel the same way sometimes, about exams, tests, studying, than friends not liking you, not being invited to enough parties and bat/bar mitzphas (spelling?) of people you had thought were your friends, etc, etc... it's sooooooo stressful!!!!!!!!! idn wat to do either... can't tell my mom, i'm only a middle schooler, she'll only make fun of me... noone understands!!!!! but i guess (we) should talk to someone about it... probably a shrink or phsycologist, or youth outreach councelor or something is best (sorry... i don't know how old you are). you can do it! be optimistic! think about what you'll give yourself as a reward when you've gone through those exams... fantasize about them...

Answer 9

relax, take some deep breathes, calm down.
stop harmin yourself, learn to love yourself.
say a quiet prayer in your mind and ask God to take
these negative thoughts away.
think more positive, dont let evil thoughts get your powers.
U are in control, forget people liking u, u got to love yourself and folks will love u naturally....God keep u safe and think more positive.

Answer 10

Take a few deep breaths and pray about it. It might also help to write down your problems and possible solutions.