everytime i go to the doctors (in general) like everytime they call my name my mom comes too........im 17!!!!! how can i say like.....i wanna go by myself.....it seems scary the first thing would be "oh y all of a sudden u wanna go by yourself....u out there having sex?"......(i did one time....) but she doesnt know
2007-01-09 12:51:39 · 21 answers · asked by boo boo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I went through the same thing...are you going to the gyno or just a regular doctor? Jut tell your mom that you are old enough to go on your own, or that you don't want her to see you naked or something like that. I was 15 the first time I had sex, and I had to go to the gyno because I had really bad periods (horrible cramps!) and when the doctor called me I just told my mom I wanted to go alone, and she didn't argue...she just said she'd be out there in the waiting room if I needed her.
Good luck!
2007-01-09 14:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a doctor on your own or go to Planned Parenthood. That is what I did.
Where I live a parent has the right to have access to their minor child's medical files, but they have to know where to request them first ;-) Most doctors will see you at 15 or 16. Now I guess in the US this could be a problem because it would show up on insurance.
Planned Parenthood is a great place for sexual related needs. It is always free and always confidential. They can give you accurate information on safe sex and recommend which form(s) of birth control is right for you. They can prescribe birth contol (pills, diaphrams, etc), provide STD screening, PAP test (though there is a more accurate blood test[1] now but I do not know if they have it available). Among other services. Also they sell prescription birth control at cost which can save you a lot of money.
2007-01-09 20:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her before going to the doctors. Firstly alleviate her fears that you are going because of something relating to sex and acknowledge that you know she is concerned about your welfare and sexual virtue. By expressing that you understand her concerns often helps open up a line of communication. Then gently explain even though you still need her and she is important in your life that you would like the opportunity to begin taking responsibility for your own health, which includes facing the doctors on your own and learning to ask questions to professionals in order to understand what is being said. You could offer to discuss the Doctor appointment with her after you have been, at a time in which you feel comfortable to do so. But arrange, discuss and make that time for discussion well in advance, rather that being hit with a million questions straight after the doctors visit. That way you will better be able to control the situation and be better prepared for it. You may need to only do this a few times in order for your mum to begin trusting you with taking responsibility for your own health. It takes time to build a foundation of trust and establish new boundaries.
2007-01-09 21:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Eve/Eski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that you will soon have to be going to the doctor alone, and that you would really like it if she would go with you, but wait in the waiting room so you can get some "practice" at going it alone. Maybe if you let her feel included, by telling her you really want her there in the waiting room still to answer questions you may have after the appt, or just to have her for support, she will feel obliged to allow you to go in the exam room by yourself, and wait for you outside. She probably just doesn't want to feel left out, it's awkward for moms to let their daughters go, and you're nearing the age to fly. So just remember to let her feel like she's involved, but also let her know you want to try some things on your own, "for practice". Good luck! :)
2007-01-09 21:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by spamneggzzz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can tell her not to go, but you can say you don't want her in your room. If it is to hard for you to tell her then let her go the next time, but have a side discussion with the doctor, and tell him that you are scared to say it but you prefer your mom not be in the room and it will look like the "doctor" wants to see you by his self. If you are still to scared to do that then pass him a note on the way out ,and put on it please read when I leave. Good luck.
2007-01-09 20:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to go into the md's office alone, without your mom. Say, "mom" I'm a big girl now or just say "please wait, I've got to do this by myself". You may have been afraid in the past to go it alone, but the nurses will support you if you tell them ixnay on the ommiemay. Good luck to you. you are a woman! Be safe and don't succomb to the pressure from your mom or the guys/gals. Just tell her "I don't want you in there when my panties are off. I feel uncomfortable. They'll be a nurse with me".
2007-01-09 21:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and have a talk with her about it. And who ever said she has to be there because you're a minor is wrong. I went all the time by myself to the doctor w hen I was a minor. Just tell your mom you feel uncomfortable with her there, and that you think you're old enough to go by yourself from now on.
Your mom doesn't want to go to pry into your business, but just wants to make sure everything is ok.
2007-01-09 20:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by melashell 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are wanting to get put on birth control you can go to the health department without your mom and they cannot tell your mom anything.
I went on my own without my mom knowing and got on depo when i was 16 years old. I didn't have to pay anything for the visit. I am now 27 but i do know of girls going that were a lot younger than 16 to the health department for birth control.
Just make your own appointments and go to the doctor on your own or get a friend to take you.
2007-01-09 20:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can get a written consent form from your parent/legal guardian giving you permission to attend doctor visits on your own, the law changes state by state on whether or not it is legal for a minor to attend by themselves, most states you can and you're allowed doctor patient privledge so if you were to say, go about birth control you have to right to prevent your mother from knowing or talking to your doctor. But how about sitting down and outright saying "Mom, I'm old enough to go by myself, I'm fine by myself, thank you for the support but I'm good."
2007-01-09 20:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Crimson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She does not have to be there. My mother did the same thing. She also thought my doctor was wonderful, and I couldn't stand him. Do you drive? Your mom is probably thinking she is helping, and doesn't realize that she is making you uncomfortable. Explain that you want to feel like an adult and make and drive yourself to your own appts. Good luck
2007-01-09 21:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by Susan C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋