I've fallen in love with a friend who has a girlfriend. I never tried to break them up, but after a couple of months of spending alot of time with him. We began to develop a good friendship and then started flirting alot. I spoke to him about it when i started to really care for him, i explained that i felt it was not right and that we should stop and that i had feelings for him. It did stop, then it went back to how it was with the flirting, this has happened a few times. We never talk about what is really going on, so i never really know how he feels. I dont know what to do anymore, i care more for him each time i see him. How can i get him to tell me exactly how he feels without confronting him about it. What can i do to make him make a decision and stick to it? Any advice?
2007-01-09 12:50:30 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get him to tell you how he feels about you without asking him? Oh come on, no guy will read your mind, you have to do something!
I suggest you just show a lot of affection for him and perhaps he may come out and say it, only if you two are alone though.
2007-01-09 12:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he ever talk about his girl to you? Eventually you'll get really jealous each time you see him as long as he's got a girlfriend. As soon as you make the slightest mistake or you inadvertently do something that might make him jealous he's going to use the fact that he has a girlfriend and beat you over the head with that. IOW he's going to punish you if you are not perfect to him. He'll be comparing you to his girlfriend all the time.
So the best thing is to not see him or talk to him unless he isn't in a committed relationship. If he tries to contact you then is when you confront him--like why is he contacting you if he's got a girlfriend and he knows how you feel about him?
2007-01-09 21:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think that you should let it be while he has a girlfriend. There is someone out there for you that is not in a relationship. As much as you like him (and he may like you) put yourself in the other girls shoes. It would hurt you to know that this was going on behind your back right? Maybe you guys can talk about it and he may find that the girl that he is with now is not the right one. But that is a decision that he has to make. If you guys end up getting together it should be with you both being single.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-09 20:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looks like he has no respect for his girlfriend at all, that means that...he may do the same to you if you where with him.
My advise is to put a stop right away, and tell him that you can't see him for a while, that you respect his girlfriend and don't want to hurt her feelings; and if he really wants something serious with you then he should break up with her, then you can see him again.
This should make him realize that he can't be playing with both of you because that's what he's doing, also will make him to make a decision; If he chooses his girlfriend then he just wanted to have fun with you but no commitment.
Good luck!
: o )
2007-01-09 21:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this very same situation and it SUCKS. As much as I hate to admit it - you have to just leave him alone. There are a couple of reasons for this. One, it's not right to interfere in someone elses relationship. If they break up on their own - go for it - but don't keep tempting him. Two, if he would start seeing you behind her back, wouldn't you worry that he'd do the same thing to you with someone else later on down the road? Wait until things happen naturally and when he's available - otherwise it will seem forced and probably won't work out in the long run.
2007-01-09 20:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by crank726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you won't know unless you confront him I'm afraid........
want decent advice?
Stay clear and let them get on with it. If you're a decent friend, you won't influence his choice in any way.......
it takes a stronger/more mature person to leave the situation than stay and hope you'll kiss one day and it'll be magical and happy with no broken hearts........
let him be. It should not be an issue for you because if he's got a girlfriend already he's out of bounds. you switch off!!!
2007-01-09 20:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, the only way you are truely going to know is to outright ask him. The worst he can say is no. Tell him that the flirting needs to stop and that is it. Being honest is really the best way to get what you're looking for. Best of luck.
2007-01-09 20:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be pulling myself right out of that situation. He's already with someone else, and telling him that you have feelings for him is rall unfair on his girlfriend. You should of waited till they either break up or just leave the siuation alone...
2007-01-09 20:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by xo_mzbeck_ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing he has a girlfriend... find someone single. How would you feel if you were her and found out about this..think dont be a relationship breaker
2007-01-09 20:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by krunch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not into you. If you don't want someone to be hurt, stop your flirting and move on. If perchance He should care enough for you, He'll follow.
2007-01-09 21:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by Del C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋