2007-01-09 12:46:03 · 13 answers · asked by Weasel Girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That partly depends on your relationship with the rest of the family and whether or not YOU need the one thing a funeral can bring: closure. Sadly, some parents are just awful and utterly ill-equipped to raise children. If they were willfully harsh and fiery, its not the fault of the kids if they run screaming and have no relationship with them thereafter.
A funeral is for saying goodbye and sharing the loss of a loved one, or perhaps simply comforting those who will miss the person they lost. However, if a parent was only a source of pain and you said goodbye ages ago, a funeral isn't an obligation; its just a way to revisit old pains needlessly.
Its up to you to decide if attending a funeral is going to address a rational need or just reopen those old wounds. Weigh those two things and you'll probably have your real answer.
2007-01-09 12:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by gamerathon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why go after there gone I think you might regret the last 30 years for the rest of your life. If you didn't go when they were alive what purpose would you sever to go when they are gone. To answer your question I would never go 30 years with out my parents not even a week and I'm 38 years old. You only have one father and one mother and there are no replacements.
2007-01-09 12:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh my God yes because this is the last time ever I can say goodbye.I will be able to see them. In life we all do things that in some time or another that we think are unspeakable and we want to change it bring back time.Maybe we don't say that out loud but somewhere in our lives we screwed up or we lost touch and if we could have just one moment.Well all I'm saying is the funeral is your moment if your angry don't carry that with you now is the time to forgive-please.To not go and have your last say is also dening you a life time of peace.God bless and good luck.
2007-01-09 12:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by FaBuLoUs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. He/she is your parent. It will be the last time that you will face to face with them. What happened in the past put it in the past. As a child, show up at the funeral and pay the respect. I think that if you do not attend your parent 's funeral, you will be regret for the rest of your life.
Be smart and face up to the reality and head to the funeral now. What are you waiting for?
Good Luck dear.
2007-01-09 12:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by solitude 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only if you night be interested in hanging on to some of the family that is going to be there. Getting cousins addresses or finding out family trees. Funerals are for the living to say goodbye to the deceased but if you didn't talk to them while they were alive what could you possibly say to them dead?
2007-01-09 12:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good Question. I think I probably would simply because this is the person who gave me life. Even if we couldn't find a way to get along during this life, I wouldn't be if not for him/her. I would probably need to do this for the purpose of closure.
Nobody can tell you what to do or how you should feel about this. I truely wish you peace.
2007-01-09 12:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Goddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for closer. If you don't go you may regret it in the future. You should go for closer.
2007-01-09 14:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by southern_bellechick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it would give u a sense of peace...u may regret it if u dont
2007-01-09 12:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by MzTique 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would. They're gone now and you should respect the dead.
2007-01-09 12:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would, family is family.
Perhaps old wounds will mend.
2007-01-09 12:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by hapynys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋