well i waz at this party and when my bf waz gone i made out with his brother and a *tad* bit more????? his brother who is my best friends bf.... he waz like completely oblivious about it the day after..what should i do...HOW SHOULD I TELL HER..should i tell her..and dont call me a slut it was by *accident*...
2007-01-09 12:20:28 · 61 answers · asked by xhes_ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I love how you quoted accident. Real sincerity about your mistake there.
If he's shut up about it, then you should too. For the sake of keeping things calm.
But don't be surprised if it comes to bite you in the butt in the future, so you may want to confess. Just depends on the kind of person you are.
2007-01-09 12:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm curious why you asked how you should tell "her", when you were also unfaithful to your boyfriend. If you aren't worried about him, then I think you have bigger issues.
You have to be up front with it all. It wasn't an accident. You didn't trip and fall on his lips. It just doesn't work that way.
Your friend and your boyfriend will be hurt. Expect things to go sour. But if you don't tell them, it will be SO much worse if they find out from someone else.
You can't just cheat on your boyfriend with his brother (even worse than just some random guy).. who also happens to be your best friend's boyfriend (the icing on the cake)... and expect to get away with it all and still be friends and still have a boyfriend. Maybe one day you might earn their trust back, but that's a hard thing to do.
Just face the music and learn from your mistake. That's all you really can do.
2007-01-09 12:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, you don't make out with someone else by "accident". You are old enough to make your own decisions. You are old enough to own up to what you did. I think you should be worried about your Boyfriend, not your best friend, especially if it has nothing to do with her. You said it is your best friends brother? Be honest and tell your boyfriend that you can no longer be his girlfriend because you cheated on him. He doesn't deserve to have someone he can't fully trust. What if you were him? How would you feel? Be Honest!!!!
You have to pay for the consequences of your actions. You made a mistake and you have to own up to it and pay for your actions. If your boyfriend forgives you, you are lucky.
If you tell your best friend and she repremands you, that is what best friends are for. They give you what you need, good and bad advice when you want to hear it or not. You should be asking for your boyfriends forgiveness and forgive yourself. Next time, don't ever put yourself in any tempting situations.
2007-01-09 12:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell people to reserve their judgement, you need to accept responsibility for what you've done so that you can learn and grow from the mistakes you make. We are human and we make mistakes, it's ok. But right now you have to face the consequences.
She will find out if you don't tell her. Things will get ugly no matter what. The best thing to do is to tell your friend about it and tell her you are very sorry, the boyfriend will probably blame it all on you and if that's the case, tell your friend that it takes two to tango and he is also at fault. You'll have to let your friend make a decision though.
You have to tell your boyfriend as well, tell him you are sorry but be prepared for him to leave you.
Learn from this mistake, don't do it again.
2007-01-09 12:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even thought you have made a mistake or done this by accident, hiding things, keeping secrets and lying get you in even more trouble. You need to tell someone the truth and let them know that you really didnt know what you were doing.
2007-01-09 12:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by AiR 2 Breathe™ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a very understanding person. When it comes to my relationship if i my boyfriend makes out with another person im not going to go crazy and freek out. Things happen. Most importantly it was very immature on your behalf, but i cna understand sometimes having the right mood, and the right place where something like that happens. But if you know that you had no gut/ or bad feelings about it maybe you shouldnt be with your boyfriend. But you should really let him know what you did and that you thought it was wrong and help him understand.
2007-01-09 12:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. this is a hard one.. Well, I don't think that accidents like that don't "just happen" but who am I to say. However, I would tell my best friend and boyfriend. If the relationships survive it, then you know they are strong. This is something that will take a long time to heal.
2007-01-09 12:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell her, if it was just an accident it shouldnt be a problem. when you tell her she is going to be mad but sometimes in life stuff happens and when you have a relationship with a man or a woman(your best friend) you go through things and it could make yal relationship either stronger or weaker and when stuff happenslike that you have to face it so just tell her and apoligize and let her know it was accident let her know you know its hurts but give her time to get over it and heal because thats haves to hurt. good luck
2007-01-09 12:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by dataj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so you say it was a mistake.Well you must like him but do you still love your boyfriend?I Think that is the question.It would proudly brake his heart but I think you should go and have a talk with him.He might understand if he A real man.Give it a shot but if don't then I would try and gust hang out with your friends wright know.
2007-01-09 12:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth, that u didn't know what u were doing and apologize alot. Im sorry to say but you are not a very good friend, and your friends bf may not be so nice either.
2007-01-09 12:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋