My 5yr old daughter started "big school" in september and has since gone back to bed wetting i tell her it's not her fault and try to reassure her however this isn't helping she also comes home from school at least once a week with a carrier bag of wet undies any suggestions/ideas of how we can combat this?? it's starting to really upset her and she doesn't want to go to school "just in case" PLEASE HELP!!!!
2007-01-09 12:14:39 · 20 answers · asked by sabrina8589 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
This is perfectly normal in young kids, because they can get to playing at school and "forget" to go to the toilet. They're very easily distracted at that age and playing is more fun than stopping to "go".
Have you though about using some sort of pull-up pants that she can wear to school, so that she doesn't have to suffer the embarrassment of having accidents in front of her friends?
They're handy for bed wetting too, because some children sleep so deeply, that they never feel the urge.
Praise her for staying dry, but don't make a big deal out of accidents, since she doesn't like it any more than you do.
She will grow out of it - and I'm speaking from experience ! 7 kids of my own and over 200 family day care kids over the years !
Good luck.....
2007-01-09 12:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There may be a problem at school. You shopuld ask the teachers if they are aware of anything going on. Bullying may be a problem ... though no parent would accept that their child could possibly be being bullied.
Seperation anxiety may also come into it ... being seperated from her mum. Get voluntary work in the school if you're not working ... make a presence.
Its a no win situation ... the more she wets herself at school, the more she will get ridiculed. It may sound hard, but don't keep her off school ... the problem will just start again when she returns.
Check out the doctors, she may have an infection, having started a new school.
Perservere ... it will come good in the end.
2007-01-09 12:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The answers here cover pretty much everything, but I just wanted to add that it might be less stressful for her if she had a spare set of nice clothes at school (or in her bag) so that IF it happens again she wont have to feel odd for the rest of the day. (in someone else's clothes)
Also, try to talk to her more about her day, there may be clues that there is something she is not happy about that could be triggering this (people at school or the school routine). Talk to the teachers too - they will see her interacting, they may have picked up clues too. Make sure they know she is worried and that they are sensitive to her and don't make any fuss when she wets herself at school.
If she really starts to get upset about school, look into moving her elsewhere and starting over.
2007-01-09 20:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Em 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened with my daughter when she was 5 also, and it turned out that she was frightened/intimidated by one of the teachers aides. Basically, with my daughter it would ONLY happen at school. If you don't find that there's a problem at the school, I would suggest having the nurses office keep a change of clothes for her. Something is upsetting her and it might be hard for her to articulate to you what's going on. Try to find out why she can't get to the restroom in time at school. Is she afraid to ask? Is she scared to go alone? Maybe if she has a bathroom buddy when she needs to go, she'll get more comfortable. Some kids just dont like the awful school restrooms. If it's an option, you might want to pull her from school (she's still really young) and allow her to go to pre-school part days until she's comfortable.
2007-01-09 12:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
1 See a doctor to rule out any medical , occupational therapy reason for it.
2 See if there is a pattern to it does it happen before a class she has a hard time in?
3 Limit liquids before bed, ask the school to gently provide her bathroom breaks
4 begin to wake her up at a set time before she wets to use the rest room
It sounds like you're doing a great job being supportive. Keep in mind many kids take steps back when they are experiencing anxiety. It might just take time good luck. Don't ever let the behavior help her to avoid things!!!!
2007-01-09 12:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by ingsoc1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
some kids have longer growing time for certain muscle groups, bladder control in one. stress of school can result in this reoccurring. try some pull ups for a bit. not like all the kids will know, this is only temporary.
medical advice if she starts having pain or burning sensation due to a possible infection.
my daughter could not take a nap or sleep through the night without wetting until she was around 5 1\2. this is normal for some kids.
2007-01-09 12:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by blueJean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a possibility that the new stress coming from school, and her having to assemble herself to a new environment, might have some signifance in here starting back. I think you just have to try and see when she is doing it...when she comes home, ask her how was school, check and see how many water she drinks before sleeping...If you realize its just the stress of having a bad day at school, you can help her out the best you can, or maybe its not that. She's probably trying to be a baby again, and since she is going to "big school" subconsciously she wants that comfort of still being your baby. and she knows she's getting older..lol.
2007-01-09 12:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... Is she in school? Anything going on there? New family member or a younger sibling going through potty training? If its the deep sleep, is she needing a nap during the day? Does she have a good bed time schedule or do you let her pass out whenver at on the couch? Is she getting enough sleep? Maybe a bladder infection? I recommend calling a doctor and talking to them, they will know best and how to get to the bottom of what could be wrong. GOOD LUCK tho!
2016-05-23 01:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she may not be ready for school yet. My guess is that it will continue through the school year then stop entirely over the summer. Hopefully after a year of experience with school, she will be better able to handle it next year. I would ask her teacher if she notices any pattern - is she too engrossed in what she is doing to stop? Does a particular child make her nervous in school? Maybe she doesn't like going to the bathroom away from home and it getting used to just trying to not have to go at all.
It helps to limit her evening fluids and encourage her to sit on the potty at regular intervals. I would also talk to her about it. A lot of kids don't seem to understand that people have to pee and poop - some of them really seem to think they can just stop, and that can be very dangerous for them.
Peace!
2007-01-09 12:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by carole 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes this type of thing can be due to stress. Is there anything going on at school that is making her nervous, anxious fearful etc. I'm sure that once whatever is bothering is taken out of the equation that the bedwetting will go away too. Maybe talk to her teachers to see if anyone is bullying her or picking on her, or if there is a teacher that she is nervous around etc. Good luck.
2007-01-09 12:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by hasgr8boyz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋