Okay...so my friend, Sean, just called me and told me about a rumor my ex, James, is spreading about me and him. He is jealous of him because I really like him, and he likes me. (But we have decided to wait until we are sixteen to date.) I broke up with my ex like, two months ago because I found out he was cheating on me, he wasn't a virgin (we are thirteen), he lies all of the time, and he was pressuring me to have sex. (But I didn't, yet almost did.) Now he is spreading a rumor that I am not a virgin and I am pegnant with Sean's baby! First of all, everybody is now believing it! Second of all, I swore to myself that I would wait until marriage (and he knew that). What do I do? Nobody will even believe Sean and I! (Except my closest friends!) Please help! I don't know what to do!
2007-01-09 11:46:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well the other guy and I made a mutual decision that we will wait for eachother until we turn sixteen. (He has a lot of respect for my decisions, and he can't have a girlfriend until he's sixteen.)
2007-01-09 11:55:09 · update #1
you made the right move to break up with him. He is just being very immature about the whole break up.
As far as no one believing the both of you? I'm stuck in the same rut. No one will believe my story of what my ex had done to me (with all the lies and accusations she threw at me).
He just wants to feel like he's the better person and in reality he's not. He's just making a fool out of himself and he's doing a good job.
Time will pass and he'll stop.
MJ
2007-01-09 11:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abvously James is a dick and you are a very strong young woman who knows what she wants. SO DO NOT LET YOUR STUPID PEERS GET IN YOUR WAY!!!!!!! (key words being stupid and peers)
Well you know you are virgin and that is what counts everyone else will forget about the juicy gossip in a few weeks anyways. And since you aren't pregnat it will soon become painfully obvious to everyone what a lieing dingbat James is when 9 months from now you haven't given birth.
Good luck! By the way Sean sounds like a great guy!
2007-01-09 19:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by Melvina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody will believe you two? I don't think you should worry about it that much. People just like to gossip, and they will especially know a couple months later when your stomach is the same size. Also, work on the impression you give people. Sometimes the way you dress/the way you act around guys might give the impression that you're not as innocent as you claim (whether you are or not).
2007-01-09 19:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WEll good for you. you didn't have sex but hes just jealous so hes trying to break you 2 up. talk to a teacher they can talk to him but don't start a rumor about him then it will be a war between you 2. and good luck plus after 9 months and they don't see your
fat they'll belive it
2007-01-09 19:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably first tell your ex to stop telling lies about you but of course this probably won't stop him. As time goes by and your stomach doesn't get any bigger like one that is pregnant the others will catch up on your ex's lies. ;o) Some are like this and their lies will catch up with them so just try to take them as being ignorant people and try not to let them bother you. ;o)
2007-01-09 19:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people that don't believe you really don't matter. In six or nine months they will know who was lying - or they are really stupid! Just ignore everyone else and don't let it bother you. If defending yourself didn't work - stop defending. Just laugh about the fact that he is sooooo insecure and jealous he has to make stuff up about you to make himself feel better.
2007-01-09 19:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u didnt say it dont worri bout it .he just mad cuz u broke up with him .gurl dont wait till u 16 2 go with that other boy if u like him and he likes u then yall should get 2 gether now not later cuz later he can have another gyrl!!!!!!!!
2007-01-09 19:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Chris breezy and Ashanti 4 eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jsut ignore it, let people believe what they want, and when in 9 months you dont have a baby they will see how STUPID and childish James is...
2007-01-09 19:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by sexy momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok your ex is a jerk, most of the time if you ignore them they'll forgot about it (or in two months when you don't get bigger they'll figure it out.) just ignore them and try to stay close to a big group of friends, most "tough guys, or girls" won't mess with a crowd
2007-01-09 19:52:53 · answer #9 · answered by grggraves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. when they dont see you with a huge belly, they'll believe... there's nothing you can do but ignore the rumors!
2007-01-09 19:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋